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Christine Hassler
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Christine Hassler is the author of the new book Expectation Hangover and teaches people how to leverage personal and professional disappointment. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about... but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guidebook written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something, 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto, written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.

Today, she supports individuals in discovering the answers to the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” Christine is a Life Coach known for catalyzing radical self-reflection while offering practical direction. She is passionate about busting the myth that life is about living by a checklist and having it all figured out. Christine believes we all deserve and are capable of discovering our passion, pursuing our dreams, and making an impact on the world.

As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 100,000 people at colleges, personal growth events, conferences, and corporations. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked or generational diversity. She is also a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and Cosmo.

As a Gen Y Expert, Christine has been a spokesperson for American Express and the key resource for their women’s and millennial advocacy programs. From her passion about education and student development, Christine created a life balance curriculum for the Leadership Institute. She is member of Northwestern University’s Council of 100, The Young Entrepreneur Council and is a faculty member at the University of Santa Monica.

Christine grew up in Dallas, graduated cum laude from Northwestern University and received her Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. Christine is active in volunteerism and loves living a healthy lifestyle. She currently resides in Los Angeles and loves spending time with her family and friends in Austin, Texas.

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Is There a Monster in Your Closet?

(0) Comments | Posted November 13, 2015 | 11:19 AM

Do you ever wait for things to become unbearable before you do something to change them?
"Putting off an easy thing makes it hard. Putting off a hard thing makes it impossible." -George Claude Lorimer
On Monday I got my wisdom tooth pulled. It was something I knew I needed to do since June but I kept putting it off.   I could tell you the same lie I was telling myself which is I was just too busy to make the time for it.  But the truth is I was scared of having the surgery. And so rather than opening the door to deal with the monster in the closet, I continued to crawl under the covers.

That was until the end of last week when pain started to set in and my gums began to swell. I told myself I could take it; after all I had a workshop to facilitate the following weekend so the timing was not convenient! But by Friday the pain was more than I could stand.  I called my oral surgeon, whom I have cancelled on twice, and asked for an appointment ASAP.  Fortunately for me, it turns out that not many people choose to get their wisdom teeth out on Valentine's Day so I was scheduled for 8:00 a.m. on February 14th.

With a nervous stomach and mind full of positive visualizations, I faced the monster and went in for the extraction.  It was so easy and virtually painless I woke up from my twilight sleep amazed that the surgery was over.  Not only was I relieved, I started cracking up -- and no it was not because of the laughing gas! I was so amused at how much my fear got in the way of removing something that needed to go.  When the surgeon showed me the tooth that had begun to decay he said, "Next time maybe do not wait until something begins to rot before you get rid of it."  Good advice, Doc.

Today I invite you to consult with your inner wisdom and examine what is ready to be extracted from your life. All too often we wait, procrastinate and make excuses to delay doing something until a situation gets so bad, we are forced to take action.  If you are thinking of something that has begun to decay, be it a relationship, thing, or pattern, are you already coming up with excuses for why you can't let go just yet?  Take it from me and don't wait until pain trumps your fear. I promise you'll feel better once you realize the monster in the closet is never as scary as you think.

With love,


"People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar." - Thich Nhat Hanh

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy." -Dale...

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What If?

(0) Comments | Posted October 30, 2015 | 11:28 AM

What If You Continue to Ignore your "What If" Questions?

Life is an unanswered question, but let's still believe in the dignity and importance of the question. -Tennessee Williams

What if? This question evokes a feeling of wonderful possibility or dreadful panic. For many, it's the latter. What if questions usually pop-up when we are navigating our way through unknown territory. When worrying about a situation or facing anxiety about something in the future, the incessant what if questioning begins: "What if X happens? What if X doesn't happen? What if I do X? What if I can't do X? What if he/she does X? What if he/she doesn't?" And on and on and on.

One of my most utilized coaching techniques is what I call answering the what ifs. When I hear my clients ask a what if question, I interrupt them and request that they answer it. This usually surprises them, because they were really into a fretting flow of unanswered questioning. My encouragement to you today is to practice this coaching technique of answering your what ifs. Otherwise they will continue to loop around in your mind and create stress. Your mind does not like unanswered questions. And since most of us are not like Buddha sitting on the mountain totally present and unattached to anything our mind creates, it is useful to understand what our mind wants and give it what it wants!

Imagine a 3-year old child tugging on his mom's shirt and saying repeatedly, "Mom, mom, mom, mom!" in an attempt to get her attention. So what happens the more she tries to ignore him? The tugging gets harder and the "mom-ing" gets louder. But as soon as she addresses the child, the tugging and calling out quickly stops. And usually all the child wanted in the first place was attention and acknowledgment.

This is what your what ifs need: to be acknowledged and addressed. So go ahead and answer your what ifs each time they come up. Talk them out, even go to worst-case scenario because you'll realize that you can always talk yourself through a possible solution. And guess what? You are making it all up anyway! Remember that worry is our imagination used poorly. So after you talk out the worst that could happen, you might as well talk out your best-case scenario too. And you will soon discover that stopping and answering your what ifs one by one (because what if thinking is contagious) will soothe that mind of yours that is working so hard to manage all of your question marks. And once you become aware that you can harness the power of your mind to solve any imagined situation, you will have more peace of mind.

And what if you don't answer your what ifs? I'll let you answer that...


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Is There Someone You're Trying to Change or Save?

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2015 | 6:39 PM

Is there someone in your life you really hope will change? Do you find yourself taking on the responsibility for other people's transformation? Do you even get annoyed when you see someone you care about not living into the potential you see in them?

I get it. When I dove...

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Being Single Is Not a Disorder!

(1) Comments | Posted August 17, 2015 | 12:55 PM

I have been hearing a lot of people complaining about being single lately and approaching their relationship status as some kind of disorder that needs to be treated. I observe so many single people, especially the ladies out there, consistently working on themselves to find their "soulmate."

In today's vlog...

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Wisdom From a 93- and 88-Year-Old

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2015 | 11:46 AM

This week I was blessed to attend two talks that deeply touched my heart -- one was from William, 88 years old and a successful entrepreneur, business consultant and philanthropist. The other was from Deborah, 93-year-old and founder of two of the top spas in the world, author and prominent...

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Is It Better to Use Your Head or Heart When Faced With a Decision?

(0) Comments | Posted August 3, 2015 | 5:58 PM

Decisions... they can be liberating or paralyzing.

They are liberating if we relish in the freedom we have when it comes to choosing everything from our outfit to our job to our thoughts.

But they are paralyzing if we hang out in limbo waaaaaaay to long going back and forth...

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How to Get Over a Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted July 20, 2015 | 1:55 PM

A breakup. There is not much that feels worse than heartache from ending a relationship. This week I've heard from a lot of people who are going through a breakup -- either a romantic one or a friendship -- so I wanted to share ways to expedite your healing process...

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Please, Please, PLEASE Don't...

(0) Comments | Posted July 13, 2015 | 6:11 PM

Please do not give up. Even when it gets hard... especially when it gets hard, because the truth is: It is not always easy to get the things we want, but it is always possible --@christinhassler (Tweet this!)

I see so many people give up and lose hope...

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How to STOP worrying!

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2015 | 10:34 AM

There seems to be a lot to worry about in life given we cannot control everything. But worrying is a HUGE drain of your energy and completely useless so today I am going to offer you a way to stop worrying, or at the very least dramatically reduce it.


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Watch Your Language!

(0) Comments | Posted June 2, 2015 | 10:38 AM

Today's update is easy to read and implement. It will also change your life because you are going to take the advice.

How did you feel when you read the above line? Perhaps excited, curious, engaged and optimistic?

Now compare those feelings to how you feel after you read...

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Time for a Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted May 27, 2015 | 4:27 PM

Things are heating up out there -- and I don't just mean the weather. This is an intense time of major patterns coming up for awareness and release. Translation: You may be feeling stuck and/or extremely stressed. You may also be experiencing something where you are thinking, "Oh no, not...

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Just Ask

(0) Comments | Posted March 23, 2015 | 3:09 PM

"Ask and ye shall receive."

You've heard this, yet do you find that sometimes you do not ask?

Like times when you feel like it would be needy or greedy. Or times when you do not want to put the other person out or feel uncomfortable. Or times you don't...

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Your Secrets Aren't Safe

(0) Comments | Posted March 9, 2015 | 1:49 PM

Secrets are toxic. I'm not talking about the sacred things we keep to ourselves or hold in confidence when others have confided in us.

I am talking about the kind of secrets we...

Keep inside because we are ashamed.

Hide because we are so afraid to tell anyone for fear...

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What Is Your Purpose?

(0) Comments | Posted March 2, 2015 | 3:51 PM

Ever wonder what your purpose is or how to live it more fully?

The first step to discovering and living into our true purpose is to understand that the truest, and really the only, purpose of life is to grow and become more aware of the Love we are.


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My Body Love and Weight Loss Tips

(3) Comments | Posted February 23, 2015 | 11:40 AM

A new year is a time where a lot of us are setting intentions around taking better care of ourselves physically. I am sure it will not come as a surprise that one of the top resolutions people make each year has to do with losing weight.

If this is...

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A 5-Minute Daily Practice That's a Game Changer!

(0) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 9:54 AM

In last vlog/blog I answered the question, "Is it possible to be happy all the time?" The answer was not really and you can read why here.

Although it may not be realistic to be in a certain state all the time because we are human, we must...

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Is Being Happy All the Time Possible?

(0) Comments | Posted January 12, 2015 | 10:02 AM

Do you find that you have taken on the expectation that if you are doing this personal growth work "right" you are supposed to be happy all the time? Sure, eternal happiness sounds awesome, yet this expectation that we "should" be able to be in a positive place all the...

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Are You Promoting or Demoting Yourself?

(0) Comments | Posted January 5, 2015 | 3:31 PM

We are all equal. No one is better or worse than anyone else. No one is more or less worthy, lovable, or valuable.

But we often lose sight of this truth when we become identified with the roles we play in life and end up putting ourselves in "less than"...

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The First Step to Getting Over ANYTHING

(0) Comments | Posted December 29, 2014 | 12:51 PM

The human experience is full of great stuff like creativity, miracles, connection with others, laughter and dark chocolate. And because we evolve through contrast, our experience also includes challenging situations and things we may not put in the "great stuff" category. I call them expectation hangovers.

But the good news...

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What I Learned From A Spiritual Teacher

(2) Comments | Posted December 22, 2014 | 9:48 AM

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to spend time with an incredible spiritual teacher named Arkan on sacred land in New Mexico. He does not have a personal website or social media platform. He does have a profound connection to Spirit and Mother Earth that makes him one...

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