12/23/2013 02:09 pm ET Updated Feb 22, 2014

The Protagonist

Who do you live your life for? Who owns your life? Who's responsible for your life?

Most of you will say "I am." But let's have a moment to reflect to determine if we really are the protagonist or if we are a supporting character.

Let's start with something simple. The clothes you wear. Is it to impress those around you or is it because you are satisfied with it?

The restaurants you choose. Is it because of the food or is it to be scene?

The volunteer work you do or the money you donate; is it because you want to help or is it because you want to be scene as a "nice person"?

The posts you load and the pictures you upload on Facebook; is it to show off how fabulous your life is or is it because you want to share your happiness?

Where do you spend your money?

When you look in the mirror, what is your first thought?

Depending on your answer, you will be able to determine if you are a protagonist or a supporting character.

Protagonists live the life with the knowledge that they are responsible for their lives. Protagonists understand that their choices will lead their life towards their goals. Protagonist will wear the clothes that they are comfortable not thinking about one passing comment of, "what a great outfit. You look great." Protagonists will eat wherever they want without thinking, "I'll check in so people will know I'm at the five-star restaurant." Protagonists share their thoughts because it is their thoughts, without thinking "I wonder how many likes I'll get." Protagonists spend their money and save their money to their means and be happy and grateful for what they have. Those who live their lives constantly worrying about what people will think, constantly wanting that extra "like," constantly wanting to show off the newest toy that they just purchased, the clothes that they just bought, the people that they know, the parties that they have gone; I'm sorry to tell you but you are just a supporting character. You've let those in your life or even a stranger that might stumble across your Instagram picture, be the protagonist.

When you are a supporting character of your own life and you let others be the protagonist, you'll look back and see that there is nothing left.

But when you take ownership and be grateful in your own skin and lead with the giving heart, then you are THE protagonist of your own life. Your feet will be grounded. And no one can stand in your way. And when you look back, you will have accomplished it all.

Your story is not told by the thoughts, judgement, or comments of others. Your story is told by you: your thoughts, your judgement, and your beliefs. So are you a protagonist?