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Let's End Child Marriage So Girls Can Be Girls

Posted: 10/11/2012 9:21 am

In the time it takes to read this column, around 70 girls below 18 years old will have been forced into marriage, often with dire consequences. Every three seconds, a girl under the age of 18 is married off. That's 10 million girls every year who are married to older men often before they are mentally or sexually ready.

But when you break the statistics down to a face, it becomes even more difficult to digest.

These are girls like 18-year-old Bibi Aisha in Afghanistan, who had her nose and ears cut off by her husband and other family members, after she ran away following years of abuse which started when she was married at 14 to a Taliban fighter.

Consider Fawziya Youssef, 12-years-old, from Yemen. Married to a man more than twice her age, Fawziya became pregnant and then died when her internal organs ruptured as she tried to give birth in a delivery which lasted three days. Her child was stillborn.

Girls like Fawziva are married off by families who need the bridal fee to survive. These are families living in poverty with very few options other than subjecting their daughters to such early marriage, though this only perpetuates the cycle of poverty. The girls themselves are often pulled out of school to be married, limiting their chances to educate and empower themselves. These girls are often married to men who may be 2, 3 or even 4 times as old as they are.

Today is the first International Day of the Girl Child -- a day aimed at highlighting, celebrating, discussing and advancing the lives of girls across the world. How can we live in a world where, every day, girls and women have their genitals mutilated, acid is thrown in their faces, they are gang-raped in moving cars, they are beaten by men they love, and they are kidnapped, sold to traffickers and kept as domestic or sexual slaves.

We pause today to recognize the potential of girls and the impact that unleashing that potential may yield for all of us. But if we do not end child marriage, the hopes of each of us are undermined.

The statistics are alarming. At current rates, it is estimated that there may be as many as 50 million child brides under the age of 15 by the year 2020. The practice is most prevalent in Africa, the Middle East and South Asia, despite laws in most countries banning it. In countries such as Niger, Chad and Mali, more than 70 percent of women were married by the age of 18.

But emerging economies such as India aren't much better with 47 percent of women married as child brides.

Girls lose control over their reproductive health and are more likely to be infected by
HIV/AIDS, or be beaten or sexually assaulted by their husbands. They also are put under tremendous pressure to prove their fertility and often become pregnant at a very young age.

According to Save the Children, pregnancy is the biggest killer of teenage girls worldwide, with one million dying or suffering serious injury, infection or disease due to pregnancy or childbirth every year.

If they survive, a young bride's babies are more likely to be underweight and suffer stunting due to poor nourishment. Many will be lucky to survive beyond the age of five.

Child marriage does not just impact one life, it has a domino effect, impacting families, generations even, as well as a country's economic development.

But what is most critical is not just the perpetuation of poverty, it's the potential to break it.

Investing in girls and giving them real options for a future that does not include marriage can change their entire future as well as that of her country. When girls stay in school, they're six times less likely to become child brides. They have fewer children and those children tend to be healthier and better educated. They're more likely to develop job skills to contribute to her family's and community's economy.

Who knows what lies in store for the millions of little girls whose childhoods have been robbed
by a practice which is driven by poverty and patriarchy?

Can you imagine the immense potential of countries like India or Indonesia if girls were given
equal rights as boys?

Christy Turlington Burns is the Founder of Every Mother Counts and a Trustee of the Trust Women Conference being held in London in December. Monique Villa is the CEO of the Thomson Reuters Foundation, organizers of the TrustWomen conference along with the International Herald Tribune.

 

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jannas2cents
07:44 PM on 10/14/2012
The writers of this article make it sound as if marriages of pubescent girls and teen pregnancies are only taking place in Africa and Asia when in reality this dubious honor belongs to the US where we have the highest rate of teen pregnancies of all western industrialized nations. In this country we average 400,000 teen pregnancies a year which translates to a cost to the public of $9 billion. We point our fingers when we hear of young girls in Africa and Asia being forcibly married off to men two or three times their age and conveniently forget the young girls who are forcibly married off to equally much older men in religious sects in this country. Many of these religious sects are splinter groups who left the Mormon Church and now have secretive communities in Utah and Arizona where women and girls wear "American burqas", long homemade dresses with long sleeves. When they're married off to men old enough to be their fathers or grandfathers, such men often have many other wives. It's hypocritical to point at other parts of the world where such abuses of young girls are commonplace when very little is done to protect such young girls in our own country. Those who live in glass houses .......
04:48 PM on 10/14/2012
Let slip the the dogs of war? Or did you have another suggestion?
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
01:59 PM on 10/14/2012
WAIT ! Can I have one before you end it, she does not have to be that smart, though I love intelligence in females as long as they have high morals to go with the intelligence. But, how will I know if she has the potential for being smart If I don't let her have some schooling first? How will I know she has enough character and will power to not be swayed into stupidity by all the other stupid girls? Oh well, just forget it !
10:53 AM on 10/14/2012
For your record, Christy: in Morocco an increasing amount of unwed girls kill and bury their baby's born out of wedlock (read rape by fathers, cousins, brothers, neighbors). 23.000, last year. And increasing at an alarming rate. You can imagine that in other muslim countries it's no different.
And in enlightened America, a president-to-be is in denial over the pregnancy of rape victims and at the same time wants to stop their abortions.
10:11 AM on 10/14/2012
What about teenage sex and teenage pregnancy , in the wonderful free societies of the west. Are they liberating for women, And the religious wont even allow them abortions. The west should try to solve its own moral problems instead of worrying aboutother societies.
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OliverTwist
Contrarian advocate for truth and justice
07:55 AM on 10/14/2012
Is this about girls - mothers - their children - or about religion - or about rationalizing war?
01:34 AM on 10/14/2012
I agree, quit preaching to the choir, go over to where it's happening, places like Africa and the Middle East, and do something about it.
07:07 AM on 10/12/2012
Child marriage is driven by sexual desire and an urge to dominate others.Slavery is alive and well.In some countries people kidnap children,so they can have their way with them.In other countries they marry kids,and have their way with them.Every country where there are humans there is sexual abuse.
It will NEVER end.

Humans man,they suck.
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OCerInTN
Hoplophobics worst nightmare.
06:40 AM on 10/12/2012
Yes, the typical liberal plea to do something. The only way to impose your values on the people that don't have them is by force. How many wars will you start to "free" girls?
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ladyfractal
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02:53 PM on 10/12/2012
No, one has a number of options this side of force. One can use the bully pulpit. One can make foreign aid, excepting in the case of natural catastrophe like a earthquake, contingent upon maintaining some minimum standards of human rights. One can make membership in the United Nations or other international organizations contingent upon some minimum standards of human rights. One can make IMF or World Bank loans contingent upon the same standard. One could use carrot-and-stick measures like favorable trade deals with any nation that maintains an acceptable level of human rights while erecting trade barriers against nations that don't maintain that level. ALL of that before you're even in the neighborhood of resorting to war. In the case of the *most* egregious violations (and here I'm thinking along the lines of Nazi Germany, Cambodia under the Khmer Rouge, the USSR under Stalin) an internationally organized embargo.
01:55 AM on 10/12/2012
Ok, this is all sad and all that stuff, but I have a question. Why is it that this article goes on and on about the atrocities in other countries but never addresses the abuses to girls in the U.K? I mean what about all the sectors of the towns and cities w/ huge and unassimilated Arab and North African immigrants? What about all the stories we hear about girl's passports being siezed, illegaly taken out of school or forced to go back "home" to Pakistan where they are married off only to bring this abusive deadbeat back to the UK so we can subsidize his life? Wait.. I think I know why: addressing that issue would require courage and conviction.. something that went extinct in the U.K after the death of Churchill. This is pathetic.
02:01 PM on 10/12/2012
People have different causes that they focus on, one person can not fight or bring attention to all the evilness in the world. Someone may be addressing the problem you are referring to. Here in America the sex trade of children is a huge problem, there are those doing things to bring attention to that fact, but they are not able to focus on child marriage in other countries. So it takes a lot of people willing to step up and help innocent children all over the world. This is the way this organization of doing their part. The concern in my community that I can use my gifts to focus on is providing early childhood education, parental training, and sexual abuse awareness in urban areas. One person can not do it all it takes those who are truly concerned to pitch in and work.
01:46 AM on 10/13/2012
You make a good point and I agree w/ it completely. Perhaps I should have written my rant differently. My criticism wasn't towards those people out there who devot their lives trying to make the world a better place, and I don't score their efforts based on what exactly they do or what part of the world its in. My criticism was aimed at the media itself. Im glad to see there is an attempt by to media to give awareness to the sufferings of others, but it seems to be highly filtered. Certain important issues are covered regularly while others issues.. very important issues there is only silence. I suspect it is because of its political and social nature..and the possible (even violent) backlash. thats why I said it took courage to discuss certain topics... which the media lacks.
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keezze
01:09 AM on 10/12/2012
Cave men mentality 2012. No trade or aid to such countries.
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sweetpatriot
28,woman,healthcareworker,polyglot,bisexual.
12:37 AM on 10/12/2012
Help kids in America first instead of trying to civilize other countries.
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thetxsndn
Man Plans. God laughs.
11:06 PM on 10/12/2012
AMEN to that, SweetPatriot ! There are too many abused kids here to worry about.
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sweetpatriot
28,woman,healthcareworker,polyglot,bisexual.
03:19 AM on 10/13/2012
I know right!Thank you for getting my point.
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08:09 PM on 10/11/2012
This article was very vague on proposed action. But I hope that it wouldn't amount to interfering in the cultures of other nations and societies.

Childhood marriage is how they do it, and to think that we are better than that because we don't have it is the height of cultural arrogance.

Childhood marriage may not work here, but it obviously works for them. And children aren't the only ones that have heath issues in pregnancy (why not "empower" ALL women by forbidding pregnancy?).

And if you are in one of those countries that has childhood marriage, you're probably wondering why you are being lectured by folks in a country in which there is a 50 percent divorce rate.
11:00 PM on 10/11/2012
We need to reject the idea of cultural relativism justifying any and all actions. There are absolute wrongs - foot binding, slavery, child marriage and FGM to name a few - no amount of acceptance by one culture makes these practices OK. Having fixed a few fistulas on 10-13 year olds caused by protracted labor because these children are not physically prepared for the activities marriage bring I am left unable to accept the idea that there are not universal human rights that would preclude this type of abuse.
11:25 PM on 10/11/2012
I agree, most of those things are just wrong. (Foot binding? Weird, but not quite evil.)

And I disagree with the PP that it's just "how they do things," and we're not entitled to an opinion.

But I agree with the PP that there was no proposal in the article, and I'm wary too about intervening in foreign cultural affairs.

I have a proposal: Set an example of what free women look like and what they can do, and how they can live, and "intervene" by making the example visible around the world. Preferably not via reality TV.

I also agree with the PP that the west could get its house in order itself. Actually, I see the divorce rate as a blessing - if 50% of marriages end in divorces, that's a lot fewer miserable, unending marriages. My complaint would be about the commercial packaging of women as merchandise - something most of the "barbarians" of the world wouldn't tolerate. (Sorry, Ms. Turlington.)
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12:33 PM on 10/12/2012
You can't define "universal rights" for another culture.  I'm sure that those folks in those cultures are aware of the dangers of pregnancies that are too early to be advisable. If not, then they need education on that specific matter and not other folks from other cultures and lands telling them that  they need to ban a practice that has served them well for countless generations.  Also, you do know that childhood marriage can and does occur in many cultures for kids under eight. Certainly they don't engage in relations at that young age.  So marriage doesn't necessarily mean sex in their cultures (like it does in ours).
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Rita Khanna
Social liberal but fiscal conservative
01:28 AM on 10/12/2012
Absolutely Bang on. It is pure cultural imposition from west. In the west there is sexual freedom for the teenager but in most other parts of the world marriage comes before sex. It is preposterous to say that you can have sex before 18 but not marriage.
06:18 AM on 10/12/2012
In many of the countries named, girls are married off at age 9, 10, 12 . . . . are you OK with that?
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12:34 PM on 10/12/2012
very good point
Pauline Jaing
Artist, worker, mother
07:17 PM on 10/11/2012
Eh, unless and until you are willing to fight to replace the current system with a better one, comprehensive, all you are going to do is INFURIATE people by upsetting their political economy.

American intellectuals have entirely lost the concept of an ECONOMIC base!
11:25 PM on 10/11/2012
Economics isn't the only virtue. In fact, it's not even one of the virtues.
Pauline Jaing
Artist, worker, mother
07:51 AM on 10/12/2012
I picked cotton until I was 13 in the fields, for my FAMILY to survive. Then the cotton stripper was invented, and I never had to do that again. Simultaneously, factories for the US defense industry began to arrive and employ us by the thousands.

So instead of starving because of the cotton stripper, we did better.

You with your list of "virtues" do not live in that world, but I assure you, most people do, and we hate more than anything high and mighty people who give us IMPOSSIBLE tasks and all the more when they coat those tasks in morality.

You cannot imagine how horrible are the situations you put ordinary people whose only sin is to go to work in factories or farms every day to make the likes of YOU rich with your horrible pontificating.
06:48 PM on 10/11/2012
A very complex problem, but solving it would help the global population get reduced as well. Get rid of organized religion like Islam and Christianity as it is currently practiced. Allow women from those countries the right and the power to say "no", and educate them - the world might get somewhere. Unfortunately, we are still fighting inequality in this country and going more backwards everyday in the name of religion. Until women band together and collectively go on strike, nothing will change.