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Cindy Rodriguez

Cindy Rodriguez

Posted: April 9, 2010 11:57 AM

I am a product of the Roman Catholic Church. It was my birthright: my parents were Catholic, and so where my grandparents. The Church had a monopoly in the countries my mom and dad came from -- Puerto Rico and Cuba, respectively.

So, even though I grew up in Manhattan -- a vastly different island with countless other faiths to choose from -- my parents, understandably, raised me Catholic. They baptized me, paid for Catechism classes, and sent me to Catholic schools, where the curriculum was infused with Church teachings. There, I also had to attend church with my class every Friday and still attend Mass on Sundays.

I like to say that I put in my time, spending years of my life understanding Church doctrine. But the perpetual hypocrisy of the Church gnawed at me until I decided I could not longer be a part of an institution that has not atoned for waging war in the name of Jesus, enslaving others, and its brutal treatment of Jews and other "non-believers."

I also could not accept the Church's sexist attitude towards nuns and women in general, its homophobia, and its insistence that couples should not use birth control, even though this insistence has resulted in keeping women and their families in underdeveloped countries enmeshed in poverty. (Last year, Pope Benedict XVI had the audacity to tell reporters that condom use in Africa "increases the problem" of AIDS.)

Though I am no longer a practicing Catholic, I am, undeniably, culturally Catholic. And I, like many others who have left the flock, should have a say in pressuring the Church to reform itself. The vow of celibacy is a big lie. Ask anyone who has spent time at a seminary. It has become clear, after dozens of sexual abuse scandals have come to light, that the Church not only attracts sexual deviants, it protects them. If the Vatican is serious about weeding out pedophiles, it must allow priests and nuns to live like fully human beings. That means ending the charade of chastity.

Years ago, I would never dare say these things publicly. As a "good Catholic girl," I had been instilled with the idea that saying anything negative about the Catholic Church was blasphemous. (It's like conservatives who quiet war critics by calling them unpatriotic for speaking out.)

It wasn't until 2002, when the newspaper I was working for at the time, The Boston Globe, published a series of stories that documented hundreds of cases of sex abuse by priests in the Boston Archdiocese, that I felt free to speak about my contempt for Church leadership. It was their policy to pay off the parents of the abused children in exchange for their silence. The revelations angered me. How could the Church talk about protecting unborn children when it clearly was not protecting children from countless pedophile clergy in their ranks?

Eight years have passed and the sex abuse scandals keep coming. Now, there is evidence, in the form of internal Church documents, that then Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, who headed the Vatican office that determined whether priests should be defrocked, did not take disciplinary action against a Wisconsin priest who abused 200 deaf boys. The New York Times published many of those documents on their website, yet the Vatican's response has been to accuse the Times of being "in attack mode."

All that obfuscating only hurts Catholics who want church leadership to live up to the teachings of Jesus. Many Catholics understand that those of us who express our anger at the way the church handles pedophile priests are not condemning Catholicism; we just believe it is a sin to coddle priests who abuse children.

Just like a true patriot speaks out when its government fails the people it is supposed to serve, it is necessary for Catholics -- fallen and otherwise -- to call for Vatican reform. The chorus is only getting louder. When will the Church hear us?

Cindy E. Rodríguez teaches at New York University and Hunter College and is the author of the forthcoming Pendeja No Más: A Latina's Guide to Liberation.

 

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I am a product of the Roman Catholic Church. It was my birthright: my parents were Catholic, and so where my grandparents. The Church had a monopoly in the countries my mom and dad came from -- Puerto...
I am a product of the Roman Catholic Church. It was my birthright: my parents were Catholic, and so where my grandparents. The Church had a monopoly in the countries my mom and dad came from -- Puerto...
 
 
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de-meme-ing
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12:09 AM on 04/15/2010
Having taken my right of ownership over my mind and body I am taking it back from the insanity of religion. I was never theirs from the beginning.

I have a right to develop my own beliefs. I have a right to know who I am; to know what I love, who I love, why I love, how I love, and when I love. And I am grateful to all those who have protected those rights for me until that day came when I could exercise them. I would and will encourage all women, men and children to do the same.

Thank you for the opportunity to post. It is not my intention to offend, but to stand up and against violence towards women and children. And yes the fella's too.
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12:00 AM on 04/15/2010
I don't feel a need to call for Vatican reform. I think it's teaching/doctrines/practices are consistent with the teachings of New Testament. What is there to reform, and what would it be reformed from, or around, the scriptures? God forbid. The NT is encourages violence against women and children. Jesus showed great disrespect for his mother, and other women. Paul of Tarsus was just as violent toward women, demanding women to remain in marriages that endangered their lives, and demanding that women submit their selves to their husbands no matter the cost.

Jesus said, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and the church sure gives it a try.

I too was raised Catholic, and have attended the Protestant church. I realized one day that something was wrong. It took me a while to figure it out but I finally did; they took my sovereignty away. They took away my right of ownership over my mind and body. I felt the pain of that loss.

I don't consider myself "fallen" either, as if I am a disgrace, cast from heaven, for promiscuity or whatever other sin they can imagine. I refuse to be a martyr for Christianity, or any other religion ever again, as though or in agreement with any doctrinal lie that I was anything less then perfect from the very beginning of my birth. I refuse to believe that about any other as well.
09:10 AM on 04/14/2010
"When will the Church hear us?"
How charmingly winsome--but a journalist, rather than a cutesy-wutesy with the benefit of a college experience, is unlikely to refer to Roman Catholics as the "Church" without qualifying the statement. If you are sincere, though, and want to address the issues, why don't you read Foxes' Book of Martyrs and think about why those people were willing to die? Or, because your concern does not seem that sincere, you and the Catholic "us" might follow the examples of others who have organized to withhold financial and moral support from corrupt or inadequate organizations to compel repentance.
That's what the Reformation was about--but because you are in the modern US, the wizened version of Catholic rule will not be able to martyr you without your cooperation, thanks to Protestants and others who risked all for their right to think and rule themselves and without whom you wouldn't have the fine liberty to publish your article. The fact that Catholics seem to need the advantages of American liberties in order to criticize their so-called Church should be enough for any thinking person to dump the whole charade.
Otherwise, admit that it's your vanity to identify with a group that can't be defended as "the Church," by comparison to the Bible or by reason, and forget it.
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rf dude
Just an average Man of Bronze
12:43 AM on 04/14/2010
I still have a crush on Sr. Mary Lauren from 3rd grade.

Sadly, it probably explains my need for domination...
09:10 AM on 04/13/2010
I do not understand why you wish to reform the catholic church . . yes, it needs a big overhaul . . long past due . . .but I suggest you move on with your life . . . I was raised to be a catholic but it didn't take . . . I converted to Buddhism and have never looked back . . . free yourself . . . the catholic church will never let go of the dogma and myths that created Chrstianity . . . it has too much to lose . . . and so do you if you waste your time unravelling the mess it has created . . .

the goal of Buddhism is world peace through changing one's karmic tendencies . . . that is ultimately more rewarding than reforming the unreformable
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thecarf
pragmatic progressive
11:42 AM on 04/12/2010
Thank you for your thoughtful piece. I agree with most of what you have to say with one exception. People like you and me haven't fallen. It's the Church that fell. We are not intinsically bad because we disassociate ourselves from the Church and its behavior.

Thanks again for the article.
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Cindy Rodriguez
11:07 AM on 04/14/2010
Thank you!
06:57 AM on 04/11/2010
Yes. There needs to be some reform.
11:37 AM on 04/12/2010
Cindy, perhaps if you would have spent more time understanding Church doctrine on those issues that gnawed at you, you would have developed a healthier attitude towards the Church. Is the Church made up of hypocrites? Yes, we're all sinners, even the hierarchy and the Pope himself. Is the Church homophobic? No, that's silly. The Church actually has the most loving response towards homosexuality. Some religions say that the condition itself is sinful, but the Church does not say this -- only that sexual relations for anyone outside of true marriage is harmful to themselves and others -- physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Condom use has indeed been shown to increase AIDS -- just google Senior Harvard AIDS Prevention Researcher Dr. Edward Green. Finally, the Church calls all to chastity, even married couples. I think you confuse chastity with celibacy. Or do you wish the Church would also end the "charade of chastity" among married and unmarried couples and teenagers so they can have sex with whoever they want when they want, resulting in divorce, unplanned pregnancy, abortion, broken relationships, destruction of the family, etc? If so, be careful what you wish for.
01:52 PM on 04/12/2010
You obviously are living out your fantasy. The church has let mainstream Catholics down. Many of us are disgusted with the hypocricy of a church defending pedophiles who should be in jail. We don't want to run amuck with wild uninhibed sex as you imply. We want loving relationships based on Jesus' love that build on human and spiritual love. The church has found something ugly in practically ever sexual relationship except those illicit ones they defend. A priest that read me the riot act for "normal" adolescent sexual behavior in supposedly a forgiving sacrament eventually committed suicide after a homosexual relationship with a married man. A great role model to tell me I would burn in hell! The heirarchy of the church is prime for an overthrow by those who "own" greater than 99% of the church -the laity. When women and all laity are given the respect that they deserve, the church can declare itself to be the messenger of Jesus' Good News. Until then Jesus must continue to weep for his people. I am thoroughly disgusted with the lack of love shown by this archaic institution.
been2there
Facts have a liberal bias.
08:22 PM on 04/12/2010
You are playing the painfully common game of taking an argument beyond its extreme. She said nothing about ending the "charade of chastity" among teenagers. She pointed out that preventing clergy--in which she includes nuns and monks--from living a fully human life is harmful. It is.
05:28 PM on 04/09/2010
Nice commentary.

I come from a similar background.

I'm not as good at containing my fury at the church, though.

http://shoryland.com/2010/04/pope-benedict-is-monster-and-so-are-you.html
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
03:34 PM on 04/09/2010
This continuing RCC scandal reminds me of a book by Episcopal Bishop John Shelby Spong titled WHY CHRISTIANITY MUST CHANGE OR DIE. A recent article in HP by a Jesuit Priest made the point that some aspects of the RCC must die before is can be reborn anew http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rev-james-martin-sj/the-churchs-easter-what-n_b_524349.html

Perhaps one of the most significant things about the RCC that must die is the ubiquitous use of "Father" and "Papa". Words mean things and those words are clearly power mechanisms, designed to make the average members of the church feel like children who must be instructed and condescended to while making the Priests, Nuns and hierarchy feel like well, Fathers and Mothers and Masters. The self aggrandizing titles of Father, Mother, Lord, Excellency, Holiness (god, what a joke), Papa have the effect, perhaps the design of making the average catholic feel "less than" while making the leadership feel "more than". The development of hubris and arrogance among the "more than" is self-fulfilling in such a power structured system. And the hubris leads to blind self-righteousness, and the law-unto-themselves the hierarchy has become. The "simple, humble and poor....like Jesus" church that Rev Martin hopes to see cannot and will not happen until the words are changed.
Of course, then it would no longer be the RCC. The Roman hierarchy is caught in a trap of it's own making.
01:22 PM on 04/09/2010
Why should gods word change to accomidate the people?

The reason for religion is to bring god's word to the people not to have people tell god what he should be.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
03:33 PM on 04/09/2010
What does "god's word" have to do with this issue? Are you equating the RCC with God's word?! Are you suggesting that the RCC should not accommodate itself to the will of the people in this child abuse matter?!!!! You seem to be immersed in the same obtuseness at the RCC hierarchy.
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DCinFrance
As a matter of fact, it's all dark.
04:15 AM on 04/10/2010
First up, religion is an invention of man, not of God. Second, if you believe what is going on here is protected by God's word, you are hopeless clueless. In all of my studies, I have never once seen any practicing religion reflect anything but the nature of man. The reason for religion is division.
11:13 AM on 04/13/2010
well said DC in France . . .
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eddiestardust
12:37 PM on 04/09/2010
If you still go to church on Sunday you are NOT a "fallen away catholic"
12:29 PM on 04/09/2010
"Just like a true patriot speaks out when its government fails the people it is supposed to serve, it is necessary for Catholics -- fallen and otherwise -- to call for Vatican reform"

I see a big difference here, in order to have a functional society you need government to operate properly. You can have a great life without the church and many have moved “beyond religion” and are better off for it.
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Cynthia Rays
peace in the valley seeker
12:18 PM on 04/09/2010
"How could the Church talk about protecting unborn children when it clearly was not protecting children from countless pedophile clergy in their ranks?" How true. We used to have priests transferred all the time, with many scandals and one priest serving time in jail now. It seems like the church completely protects pedophiles. I was also raised as a Catholic and still have some mysterious guilt about not staying one. I found that the United Church of Christ was much more thoughtful. Why does one need the pope and the massive structure like a monarchy between oneself and one's beliefs.? Why is Rome so important ?
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ionthegravity
Life is 100% fatal
10:13 PM on 04/09/2010
it's only because all Catholics have been systematically brainwashed by "God, Inc"
11:55 AM on 04/12/2010
This is simply illogical. As a parent I will teach my children right from wrong, even if I sometimes fail myself. Should I stop teaching my children altogether in all areas of life simply because I occasionally fail to live up to my own teachings in one or two areas? That doesn't seem like a good parenting style to me.

You are correct that one doesn't need a pope and magesterium to follow their own beliefs -- be your own pope! It's really only important for those who want to follow Christ who established the Church and gave authority to the first Pope, Peter, and the apostles. The same Church which determined which books conformed to Christ's teaching and belonged in the bible -- the same new testament and essentially the same old testament that every other Christian denomination now claims as their sole authority.