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Claire N. Barnes, MA
Claire N. Barnes, MA is a recognized national and international consultant who has devoted her career helping families improve their circumstances in an ever-changing, complex world. She was the Executive Director of Kids' Turn (San Francisco, CA) for thirteen years. During her tenure at Kids' Turn, she was the lead author of The Kids' Turn Way curriculum and the author of The Kids' Turn Way, Online. She facilitated replication of Kids'Turn services in Great Britain. She served on the Board of the Euro-Centric International Comission for Couples and Family Relations (ICCFR) for seven years; she was also on the Board of Governors of the San Francisco Symphony for seven years.

She and her husband have currently returned to Northern Nevada where they are enjoying 'inspirement'. She represented the State of Nevada in 1996 when she carried the Olympic Torch up the Las Vegas Strip; she now serves on the Board of the Reno Philharmonic. And she is a General Education instructor at Career College of Northern Nevada.

She will launch her book, I'm Still Your Grandma; I'm Still Your Grandpa, in 2017

Find her her website here .

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Entries by Claire N. Barnes, MA

Sticks and Stones

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2016 | 12:38 PM

As Boomers, we remember the childhood retort, 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.' This defense against name calling was heard on every playground - and even in households - across the country. But we were wrong. Research on family violence over the past...

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Which MOM Are You?

(2) Comments | Posted May 8, 2016 | 9:21 AM

I was at our local market yesterday, having a friendly conversation with the young lady waiting on me at the seafood counter. I was selecting my preference for Mother's Day Dinner, and during our time together she told me she had five children. She was hoping her children weren't going...

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If Not Now... When?

(1) Comments | Posted March 13, 2016 | 9:53 AM

The Huffington Post recently posted a column reporting Boomer regrets. The column, Sad Data Reveals Baby Boomers' Biggest Regret Is Not Traveling Enough revealed results of a survey taken by British Airways. The source of the survey alone caused me to be a little suspicious of the outcome....

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It's a 12 Minute Walk. Is That Ok?

(0) Comments | Posted January 21, 2016 | 10:17 AM

My husband and I recently returned from a two week trip to London, which included a three day/two night adventure to Paris. We are experienced international travelers. We have been traveling to Europe at least once each year since 2000. Before I retired, I often traveled to Europe for work-related...

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The Retirement Nap

(1) Comments | Posted October 13, 2015 | 7:08 PM

I've always been an early bird. I rise before the chickens, and retire to my comfy bed with a book and nightcap early -- drifting off when my eyes are tired with talk radio chirping in my ear. This has been my pattern my entire adult life.

One of...

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Who's That Lady?

(0) Comments | Posted August 2, 2015 | 11:51 AM

Websites for Boomers and seniors are chock full of information recently on how we are all navigating a new normal -- working in our careers until we are in our 70s or finding new jobs to keep us busy as vital, contributing members in our communities.

Having relocated to...

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MOM Upside Down Is WOW

(1) Comments | Posted May 3, 2015 | 9:18 AM

In 2003, I was the Executive Director of a nonprofit agency (Kids' Turn) in San Francisco. The mission of the organization was to help families reduce conflict -- conflict which victimized children. The primary focus was to support families during parental separation, but we expanded our scope to...

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The Gobblers -- A Retirement Fable

(0) Comments | Posted April 25, 2015 | 10:51 AM

Once upon a time, in a beautiful pastoral land, there was a famer who raised the most beautiful and scrumptious turkeys. His turkeys were known for their natural plumpness, and people came from all over to purchase them -- especially at Thanksgiving.

He treated his hens very well because they...

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Retirement: One Year Anniversary

(0) Comments | Posted March 3, 2015 | 10:49 AM

The calendar tells me the one year anniversary of our retirement (and BIG retirement move) is fast approaching. Although I stepped out of my job as a nonprofit Executive Director in summer, 2013, my husband formally retired from civil service law enforcement on March 31, 2014. On that same date,...

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Goldilocks Had The Right Idea

(2) Comments | Posted January 16, 2015 | 9:18 AM

Yesterday I was offered a part time job, and on February 2, I will change my retired status to semiretired.

I've struggled with fulltime retirement. I've read the articles and books; researched employment possibilities; agonized over the gap between what I am qualified to do and what I am...

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Retirement Insomnia

(2) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 10:22 AM

It's 3 a.m. and I'm awake! How many of you boomers have this experience? As the Inspirement journey continues, I have been surprised to learn how common insomnia is among retirees. Forget all the advice suggesting that when you retire, you can sleep more (or longer.... or later)....

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Retirement Mythbusting

(13) Comments | Posted November 15, 2014 | 10:24 AM

I am over one year into a transition to retirement, and as the new normal in my life (and my husband's life) takes shape, I am realizing there are many retirement myths available for public consumption.

When I was Executive Director of Kids Turn, I had the incredible privilege...

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Avoiding the Zero Sum Game When Families Split

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 9:38 AM

Ours is a culture that validates winners. Our professional lives (win a bonus or a raise), our leisure time activities (win a race, a prize or beat a personal record), and our even our vacations (win a trip!) are developed around winning.

The definition of a zero sum game is...

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Blue Roses

(0) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 10:54 AM

He went to work for the phone company and fell in love with long distance. With that line, we are introduced to Amanda Wingfield, the pivotal character of the unhinged mother in Tennessee Williams' classic, The Glass Menagerie. This line is repeated several times throughout the play, and it is...

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What's Your Boomer EQ? Part 5 Conclusion

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 1:16 PM

I was listening to an interview with author Paul Taylor yesterday. In his book, The Next America, he makes a case that the U.S. is in the throes of a comprehensive demographic change and Boomers (10,000 of us are retiring every day) are challenged to create a new...

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Watch Your Step for Grandparents

(0) Comments | Posted August 18, 2014 | 3:35 PM

One of the major parts of our recent, relocation move has been the necessary (and pleasurable) task of hanging pictures. My husband and I love hanging pictures and as we relived travel memories, family relationships and special mementos, we practically covered the walls in our new house. That was in...

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What's Your Boomer EQ? Part 4

(1) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 12:03 PM

Now that you Know Yourself, Manage Yourself and are Motivated for healthy emotions, the next big step in building your Emotional Intelligence toolkit is Understanding Others. I propose this stage is where Boomers, because of their life experience, could exceed where other people...

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What's Your Boomer EQ? Part 3

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2014 | 12:47 PM

Motivation! Part 3 of learning successful Emotional Intelligence (EQ) skills is affirming your motivation for healthy emotions. Motivation is what causes us to act.

Having accomplished "Part 1, Know Yourself," and Part 2, Manage Yourself, it's time to determine if you are motivated to develop better...

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What's Your Boomer EQ? Part 2

(0) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 12:14 PM

On July 24, 2014, I posted Part 1 of this five part series, an online tutorial on the value of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). I propose Boomers can be effective users of EQ given their life experience and knowledge gleaned after years of interactions with others.

Enough struggling!


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What's Your Boomer EQ? Part 1

(0) Comments | Posted July 24, 2014 | 4:23 PM

Those of us Boomers who have reached the post-50 phase of life have done so anticipating a gentle transition to a reduced work schedule, retirement, travel, hobbies and quality relationships with family and friends. However, as a dear friend and colleague once counseled me, our own expectations can be the...

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