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Colleen Logan, Ph.D.
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Colleen Logan, Ph.D., is a past president of the American Counseling Association and a past president of the Texas Association for LGBT Issues in Counseling. She teaches at Walden University and has a private practice in Dallas. Connect with Dr. Logan on Facebook or Twitter.

Entries by Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

The Language of Relationships and What Makes a 'Real' Mother in a Blended, LGBT Family

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 8:00 AM

I went to a restaurant the other night with my daughter. It just so happened that at another table sat my ex-partner with my other two children -- an older boy and younger girl. It was during my ex-partner's court-appointed custody time, so they felt compelled (and she encouraged them,...

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It's Never Too Late to Reconnect a Blended Family

(3) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 2:58 PM

My wife and I recently began a regular weekend overnight schedule with my young daughter from a past relationship. This was after years of not being allowed to have her stay over. My wife turned our home office into a pink palace and my daughter literally cooed and sang once...

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Lesbian Parenting and a Child Trapped Between Mothers

(1) Comments | Posted January 15, 2014 | 3:31 PM

As an adopted child who was always aware of my biological mother and subsequently born half-siblings, I commonly felt like the "other" child -- the one who was different. In my mind as a young child, it just didn't make sense: Why couldn't I stay at home in Northern Ireland...

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Holiday Not Holidate: Free Yourself From the Calendar to Celebrate With Your Blended or Same-Sex Family

(0) Comments | Posted December 23, 2013 | 3:45 PM

It's the most wonderful time of the year! But if you won't have your kids with you for that magical combination of Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, maybe you aren't feeling so wonderful. Instead, the season can be a special brand of torture. What to do? As always, focus on...

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5 Tips for Managing the Logistics of Same-Sex Parenting of Blended Families

(1) Comments | Posted December 12, 2013 | 7:47 PM

With two kids and three moms -- my partner, my former partner and me -- the logistics are hard enough to manage among ourselves, let alone when you add schools and activities and doctors appointments and everything else that families do on a daily basis. Still, in my case, it...

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Same-Sex Couples Are Ready to Get Married, but Maybe Not Divorced

(4) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 8:27 PM

As a woman married to a woman, I enjoy some of the benefits that marriage can offer. And as a gay rights advocate, it has been a dream of mine to see this kind of equality. But (and I hate that there is a "but," but there is) what about...

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5 Things This Lesbian, Divorced, Remarried "Other Mother" Is Thankful for

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 2:06 PM

Thanksgiving was my adoptive mother's favorite holiday. I think of her often and miss her even as I wish for my other mother, my bio mom, during the holiday season. As a lesbian parent, I imagine my kids will have a similar experience of longing for two mothers; for each...

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Why Are Gays and Lesbians Still Forced to Adopt Our Own Children?

(23) Comments | Posted November 15, 2013 | 3:07 PM

I'm sure most of you are familiar with the TV show Grey's Anatomy and might even know the current storyline between Callie and Arizona, the married lesbian couple with a daughter birthed by Callie and raised by both. When things get rough between the two women, however, Callie leaves Arizona...

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How Far Is Too Far When Seeking Time With Kids Post-Divorce?

(6) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 8:25 PM

Whether in a same-sex or heterosexual relationship, you didn't give birth to a child, but you're the child's equal parent in every other way. Then there's a breakup or divorce, and the mechanics get tricky. You end up being demoted to the "other" parent, in my case the other mother....

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What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

(6) Comments | Posted October 30, 2013 | 3:41 PM

The role of "mother" is a central experience in a child's life. But a mother needn't be biological; it's a very special role that a child assigns to any primary caregiver: a grandparent, an adoptive parent, a father or, in the famous children's book about a lost baby bird, a...

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5 Signs You're the 'Other' Mother

(10) Comments | Posted October 22, 2013 | 4:38 PM

My romantic assumption was that as women and as lesbians, my ex-partner and I could navigate a breakup more cleanly than a heterosexual couple could, that we could split the kids equally and fairly. So how did I find myself in the role of the secondary, or "other," mother? And...

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The Perils of Heterosexual Rights

(21) Comments | Posted October 16, 2013 | 10:31 PM

Do you remember wishing you had all the rights and privileges of a married heterosexual couple? I do. It was before that day in an attorney's office when I looked at a calendar that my soon-to-be-ex's lawyer had just handed me, listing in detail my business travel for the previous...

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In Adoption and Same-Sex Parenting, Who Is the 'Primary' Mother?

(3) Comments | Posted October 9, 2013 | 7:14 PM

Because I'm the non-biological mother of a son with my ex-partner, and the non-biological mother of a daughter with my wife (thank you, Canada!), my kids have multiple parents and "spare" mothers. The "primary" mother -- as seen by society -- is an important designation. Believe me: Whether inadvertently, as...

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Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

(1) Comments | Posted October 3, 2013 | 4:07 PM

Picture this: My partner and I have a daughter. That's two moms. I also have a son with an ex-partner. That's three moms. I happen to also have two mothers. So, technically, that makes this a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother...

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