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01:15 PM on 11/26/2012
It's amazing that the human race doesn't go extinct; who in their right mind would want to go through this?
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allswellendswell
02:45 PM on 11/26/2012
And go through it more than once?
03:05 PM on 11/26/2012
No kidding although I do appreciate the sincere and honest list. This type of sharing (and the posts) helps me think rationally about chosing to stay child-free.
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mrhandyman3105
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01:08 PM on 11/26/2012
Excellent!!
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FeelinGroovy
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01:07 PM on 11/26/2012
Distant but fond memories ;~)
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01:07 PM on 11/26/2012
nicely done.
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wingin it
analyze the stench, to me it makes a lot of sense
01:06 PM on 11/26/2012
# 21 You don't really need all that stuff you bought or think you have to have to get through infancy. There was an article about the five things you need and that is it...basically a car seat, crib, stroller, bouncie seat and bottles. Maybe an ergo carrier if you like. They grow out of the stuff so fast that all the money is just wasted.
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03:48 PM on 11/26/2012
I'd add to that a swing. My oldest was a bouncy seat baby; the younger two, swing babies. Get one with an AC adapter, or your battery bill will be sky high.
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SandyMomma
12:57 PM on 11/26/2012
Can we talk about the colds they will get in the first year??? My 16 month old has had it all already. Like the nurses said, they are like little petri dishes at this stage...and that was the shocker for me.
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negogato
Strengthen the Nation with Equal Education.
12:56 PM on 11/26/2012
My daughter woke us up 3 4 and 5 times a night, every night for the first year. That is a lot of getting up feeding, walking around holding the baby and getting her back to sleep. I did not get a complete nights sleep at all for the first year, except once, just once she sleep all night. And then I got up to check on her.
12:52 PM on 11/26/2012
Don't count on your friends to remember ANYTHING about that first year, or the months leading up to it, especially if you're the last of your friends to have one. "Oh yeah... I blocked that out.." "Gee, yeah, something happened when [their kid's name] did [alarming behavior or ailment], but I don't remember how we fixed that." "No, that never happened to us..." It's nothing personal, they've blocked it out. I wrote a great deal of these scenarios down and now when I look at them 10 years later I'm shocked at what I've forgotten.
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siciliabel
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12:51 PM on 11/26/2012
#21-(and this continues into adulthood) Giving a hug feels just like getting one.
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12:50 PM on 11/26/2012
i most be one of the lucky ones. my 4 month old never cries and has no trouble sleeping at night.
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12:42 PM on 11/26/2012
#3: Abso-freaking-lutely. I have no qualms saying the first year sucks. I've parented through this twice. The baby can't communicate, simple needs turn into crises when they aren't getting what they want within 30 seconds, many babies' stomachs can't handle many foods and are allergic in unpredictable ways, when they get a cold they are absolute basket cases, if the parents haven't figured out family genetic history they are in for some sorely unexpected hardship...there are many first-year things that people forget about, won't tell you, or are ignorant of. I can't wait until my kids are older: they can communicate, they can relate, they can understand, they can tell me exactly what's wrong, they/we can control their health so much more easily without blood-curdling screaming for hours, you name it.

#4: Not for every kid. My first? Yes. My second? No.

#8: Can't tell you how many times we get asked, and it goes in the mental circular file until we get to breathe some time next month.

#15: YES. So don't. The kid will get sick, they have no idea what's happening, they can't process anything and won't remember. Granted, the family wants to see them, so it's unavoidable on some level, but limit it A LOT, otherwise you are in for a whole load of screaming.

#18: Are you kidding me? Take out is the norm. There's no time to cook.

#19: Germs, a bit. Sugar and TV no.
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allswellendswell
02:57 PM on 11/26/2012
Re: your response to #3, it's true that some things get easier when they're older, but there are always new challenges! E.g., nursing on demand was a huge commitment for me, and at times I was more than eager to see him start eating solid food. Now, as a 7 year old, he is such a picky eater with so many gustatory sensitivities, I find myself feeling nostalgic about the simplicity and reliability of nursing.
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Cathy Coudriet
12:31 PM on 11/26/2012
"People will tell you, "It goes by so fast!" Those people do not remember what the first year was really like." My daughter is 20 and I remember the poopy diapers and the sleepless nights and not knowing what she wants even though she has been crying for 3 hours.... But it still goes by too Fast!
12:28 PM on 11/26/2012
Number 11: The real cost of raising kids when both parents work is childcare. Diapers, clothes, etc. can all be purchased on the cheap if necessary. We pay 350/week for our 4 month old and 2 1/2 year old to stay with a stay at home mom. This is a bargan. We would pay that amount for one child if we put them in daycare. They're thriving and we're thankful to have found someone we trust.
12:48 PM on 11/26/2012
True, been there and done that.
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01:08 PM on 11/26/2012
I'm not using nappies for my little one , our grand parents didn't have those . I save money and I relaly don't mind touching baby poop . I don't understand why mothers want to buy everything when they could save money . You probably need your own landfill in your garden .
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katiewon
Are you kidding me?
12:25 PM on 11/26/2012
#21 - The excruciating pain and agony of child birth, that was the EASY part...
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12:57 PM on 11/26/2012
Amen!!!
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marianproletarian
12:25 PM on 11/26/2012
Here are two tips I wish I'd known and heeded:

Invest in easy shoes with good arch support from 2nd trimester until you stop carrying that baby around everywhere (around age 5 for me). Cheap flats result in fallen arches.

Invest in good quality/full support bras from the 2nd trimester until you stop breastfeeding. Cheap bras result in fallen boobs.
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Amy Wruble
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03:36 PM on 11/26/2012
So true. I still haven't gone back to my heels and I don't think the old bras will ever fit again.