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wb7ptr
08:57 PM on 01/21/2013
I can really relate to this! I'm adopted into a White family but I'm biracial. Native American and White. Not knowing about my culture growing up was a loss in my identity, but I did know that people treated me as a bit different. Recently, I've actually been doing family history research to find my ancestors and learn more about them. They come from Germany, Ireland, French Canada, and the original people of this country. I even found that some had been enslaved. Worked as slaves or indentured servants. So, the research has been hard where these folks are involved. And with the Native American ancestors, some records may not be accurate due to many lying about the percentage of Native American to pass as "White" and get around discriminatory laws.

I'm glad to see you teaching your daughter about both parts of her ethnic makeup. She will be more whole, more tolerant and understand more about herself because of it. This, and open discussion on racial matters is what we all can do most to make MLK's dream of equality truly equal.

Lynn in New Orleans, LA.
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BiggpussJr
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08:39 AM on 01/22/2013
So really you just wanted to talk about yourself cause you didnt read the article. The author has a son which she mentioned MANY times.
07:04 PM on 01/21/2013
Thanks for writing this! It's crucial that we start teaching the little ones [when they're little] so they can build a story, and that history makes sense to them. Good perspective, too, of course!
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BiggpussJr
pissin em off one comment at a time.
04:14 PM on 01/22/2013
Why so they can play the victim?
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Mandles99
01:26 PM on 01/23/2013
Please explain how acknowledging one's history and culture allows one to play the victim ? You don't make any sense.
07:02 PM on 01/21/2013
Reinforcing the negative stereotypes of victimhood and second-class status that democrats have been pushing on black people for 50 years will certainly make your child feel like a second class victim.

If you absolutely have to discuss our complex racial history with your 5 year old (who won't understand a word of it) the discussion should be limited to "black people were once oppressed. Now you can do anything you want to do if you work hard enough."
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08:16 PM on 01/21/2013
Bravo! It's 2013 we blacks of whatever shade or age need to stop thinking of ourselves.
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10:28 PM on 01/21/2013
I meant stop thinking of ourselves as victims.
11:59 AM on 01/22/2013
You are so right. Why wallow in the segregation of yesterday. Her son didn't ask if he would have sat in the back of the bus back then, he was asking about now. What a terrible answer and thought to place in his head for no good reason.
06:56 PM on 01/21/2013
This is sweet! I know how hard it is to talk about racism and speak to a child. To do both: good luck LOL! You have a smart kid; don't forget that.
06:49 PM on 01/21/2013
Great article! As the mother of biracial children myself, I can relate. It is not easy to have these kinds of talks, especially when your children are not sure how they identify (or if they should identify at all).
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geddy lee is a god
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12:29 PM on 01/22/2013
These conversations may start off a little awkward, but they are needed. Biracial children are sometimes pressured into *picking a side*, which makes them even more confused. Parents need to instill self-confidence in their biracial children, let them know that no one can force them to self-identify as any particular race, and allow the children to make these decisions for themselves.

I will always be thankful for my parents for allowing their children to shape our own identities, develop our own interests, and not allow our racial and cultural differences to stifle our growth/development. When we were growing up, it seemed like other people were more pressed and worried about our heritage than we were.
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maliksmama
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04:05 PM on 01/21/2013
I'll never understand posts like this. Are you aware that you live in the US? Why do black folks refuse to acknowledge that they live in the US? The US that abolished slavery, but introduced jim crow, drugs and guns to "da hood" and created the "school to prison pipeline" to feed its insatiable appetite for free labor?

I was watching "Tia and Tamera" the other day. Tamera was going on and on about how she and her husband would broach the subject of race with their child, as their parents didn't with them. Tia related how she got a rude awakening as a kid when she was called "n-word" by another kid. I couldn't believe that their parents hadn't prepared them for "life" as a not-white person in this nation.

When you don't educate your kids about race in general and their race in particular, they become victims of folks like George Zimmerman and Michael Dunn and Michael Griffith and/or the police. There are rules that apply to not-white males that your boy/s need to know now, not later. There are certain clothes you can't wear. Pay attention to your surroundings. Never leave a store without the receipt. Yes sir/no sir to police. They will always fit the description. Do not talk to cops without attorney present. When it comes to white females, use extreme caution or you may end up like Emmett Till or Darrell Williams or the Central Park Five. .
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BiggpussJr
pissin em off one comment at a time.
08:43 AM on 01/22/2013
Wow. I was watching "Tia and Tamera" the other day. Tamera was going on and on about how she and her husband would broach the subject of race with their child, as their parents didn't with them. Tia related how she got a rude awakening as a kid when she was called "n-word" by another kid. I couldn't believe that their parents hadn't prepared them for "life" as a not-white person in this nation.

But she married a White man. Sounds like she is doing just find without having "fear" instilled in her.