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10:39 AM on 03/29/2010
Why complain? Everything is as it should be, based on our focus and intentions from earlier. You cannot fight the Universe. To change things, simply focus on how you want the world to be and it will manifest into that reality. If enough people have the same focus it must happen.
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CryptoKnight
10:29 AM on 03/29/2010
Is this article, too, not a complaint?
10:43 AM on 03/29/2010
Complaining is just expressing a negative opinion. When a negative aspect is examined, and an alternative positive is offered, it is inquiry at its best, and a legitimate discussion can ensue.
Mr.Bishop does the latter, indicating the negativity and then offering: "Could we find a way to bring caring and civility into our daily interactions, be they with the airline clerk who had nothing to do with your flight being delayed or with the person on the other side of the health care debate? ", etc.

With a healthy balance of realistic openness, one can appreciate both the positive and the negative aspects in situations and assess them without bias. This is intelligence at work.
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10:44 AM on 03/29/2010
Stop complaining. You have nothing to complain about. My life is much worse.
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MamacitaOfLove
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10:56 AM on 03/29/2010
No, mine is worse...
10:29 AM on 03/29/2010
I know all my neighbors, their children, some grandchildren, and have met some of their other friends and relatives at various times. We meet at the back fence or in our front yards and talk about our mole or gopher problems, but I have no idea how they vote. And I don't really care about their politics. They're good neighbors and that's what matters most to me. Venting on the internet is a good thing. It allows us to hear different views on various subjects and release some of the frustration we feel at how our government operates. But it shouildn't be a substitute for interaction with your neighbors, who knows they may know how to get rid of those moles.
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Clarabell
If we only had a "free" press!
12:43 PM on 03/29/2010
We have a lot of "gopher" conversations too -- but you know what, we finally found out how to get 'em.
01:24 PM on 03/29/2010
Fill me in
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Julia Bailey
10:02 AM on 03/29/2010
That behavior is actually pretty easy to counter. When someone starts telling me how bad things are and complaining about little things in life, I usually say something like 'wow, it really sucks to be you, what an awful life you have, how do you stand it?' They immediately start telling me about all the good things, and it changes the tone of the conversation. Try it.
10:02 AM on 03/29/2010
Golly, what an upbeat, swell article! I'm never, ever, ever gonna complain about anything ever again! Because it's ever so lovely here! Oh, Auntie Em! There's no place like home!
09:32 AM on 03/29/2010
Ehmm, technically isn't this article contributing to the problem by complaining about the complaining?
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GeneralDisarray
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10:24 AM on 03/29/2010
lol
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JohnFromCensornati
Wake up! It's 1984.
09:22 AM on 03/29/2010
"Could we start a different kind of Tea Party? How about one where we invite the other to join us for tea, rather than seeking to lynch them literally or figuratively?"

Without a doubt, you could. Or, you could just complain about how awful it is that nobody else has.
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imswoman
09:55 AM on 03/29/2010
There is an alternative to the Tea Party; it is called the Coffee Party and its members meet to discuss issue without the nasty, mean signs and ugly scenes of bad behavior. Check it out online. There were thousands of meetings over the weekend. The idea behind this organizations is to have civil and meaningful discussions about improving government, etc.

Secondly, I make these little sleeves/envelopes ( made from scrap or samples of drapery materials), add a few decorations and paste on the front this little verse, " I can not sit and chat with you, The way I'd like to do; So, brew yourself a cup of TEA, You think of me, And I'll of you!" I put a tea bag into the sleeve and include it with cards sent to people who are ailing, have been hospitalized or just need a caring note. Anyone can do it!
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spartanmom
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12:37 PM on 03/29/2010
Excellent. Thank you.

http://www.coffeepartyusa.com/
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JohnFromCensornati
Wake up! It's 1984.
09:19 AM on 03/29/2010
"I don't know about you, but I seem to notice that we have more and more people signing up for the Ain't It Awful Club."
"It used to be that members only met after work at a neighborhood pub. However things seem to have deteriorated to the extent that members need to meet more frequently."

I'm sure you have statistics to back this up. You wouldn't just make up this claim that people complain more these days. I'm certain you have some sort of accurate measurement to show that this is increasing rather than just irritating you more than it used to.
09:43 AM on 03/29/2010
I don't have statistics, either, but have observed this and even used the same label for it, which is Transactional Analysis name for an emotional "game" by which people substitute habitual negative exchange for actual dialogue or intimacy in discourse. I first noted observing it 15 yrs ago when I moved to the South, where it is something of a cultural mode, the old guys actually do sit around the coffee shop swapping ain't-it-awfuls, women's conversations often ain't-it-awfuls about men, children and prices. It seemed so superficial and empty of interest to me, a dead-end to real conversation with interest and delightful exchanges.

What has been dismaying is seeing it spreading across the media, bloggers, politics, as if it's becoming a national trend. To engage in honest, direct discourse is hardly possible when speaking with those who only interested in complaining endlessly. In Transactional Analysis for every game there's a pay-off, I can't remember the payoff for Ain't It Awful, will have to look that up. But it's certain it isn't effective communication leading to solutions.
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imswoman
10:05 AM on 03/29/2010
Transactional Analysis requires that the persons involve in conversation, stay within the framework of their "adult" mentality. The three parts being: the Adult, the Child and the Parent. I learned about Transactional Analysis many years ago in a book called, I'm OK; You're OK. It helped me a lot in my daily dealings with other individuals.
With the "Ain't It awful" crowd, they certainly wouldn't want someone who brought their "Adult" or "Parent" into the conversation. That would ruin the game! As long as they can stay on the Child to Child line, the conversation moves along smoothly.
Complaining is always easier than action!
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09:03 AM on 03/29/2010
Ain't it awful we don't see the girl with the hip when we open this story??