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khanti
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04:18 PM on 05/27/2010
Transient happiness has side effects and unhappiness is one of them.
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SunnyT
04:51 PM on 05/27/2010
Hahaaa, love it!
04:08 PM on 05/27/2010
By Jove, I think she's got it!
03:46 PM on 05/27/2010
inner strength, state of mind
04:08 PM on 05/27/2010
minimalism, no caps
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OneWoman
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03:07 PM on 05/29/2010
lol
03:46 PM on 05/27/2010
Nice contrarian post. However, I think you may be conflating happiness with complacency. 'Happily dissatisfied' is probably the ideal mindset. Not achieve and be happy, rather happily achieve. Enjoying the journey, in the full knowledge that you will never truly 'arrive' - there's always more to accomplish.

What bad habit will you drop today?
Those who press forward without ambition for fame and retreat without trying to avoid blame, who only care for the security of the people and thus are in harmony with the interests of the social order, they are treasures of the nation. - Sun Tzu
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4wrdthnkndad
03:39 PM on 05/27/2010
We need a range of emotions because as humans we have a range of experiences. We needed sadness, hurt, pain, and frustration to truly know when we are happy and satisfied with life.
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SunnyT
10:53 AM on 05/28/2010
Yes, 4wrdthnkndad - the "fullness of life" - when we are open to all of it, there is a kind of inner joy that sustains us through the icky parts of life.
03:24 PM on 05/27/2010
Isn't this what the "knowledge of good and evil" thing is all about? Seek (knowledge) and you will be expelled from your happiness place. Satisfaction and happiness aren't the same thing. I can be satisfied with the results of an inquiry because it has resulted in better understanding of the world, even if the new knowledge saddens me.
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ilouie
03:13 PM on 05/27/2010
I believe one of the greatest misconceptions of modern life is the idea that "good stress" results in achievement. There is no such thing as good stress. Stress and negative emotions feel horrible and result in poor health. Happiness is inspiring not complacent and true innovation is achieving more while doing less.
03:33 PM on 05/27/2010
Nonsense.

Of course there is good stress. But bad stress can result in achievement as well. Fear and pain are great motivators.
Why do you think there is no good stress?
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04:10 PM on 05/27/2010
you would have never run for cover under the rocks when the raptors were chasing you thereby missing the big ole meteorite if it weren't for fear (stress)...
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ilouie
02:17 PM on 05/28/2010
Thanks for commenting! To answer your question: "Why do you think there is no good stress?" I would have to give two reasons: Stress is terribly unhealthy. Ever see what a highly stressed brain looks like? The cerebral cortex (CEO of the brain) looses activity and under prolonged stress leads to poor decision making, self-control and moral reasoning. Stress is also indicated in heart disease. Many researchers now say stress is a factor in 90% of disease as either a causative factor or in making the disease chronic. The second reason is stress is unnecessary. Anything that is achieved with stress can be achieved better with a clear calm mind and life is far more enjoyable.
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robin360
dog is god spelled backwards
04:15 PM on 05/27/2010
I disagree. Clinically, there is diSTRESS and euSTRESS, meaning, bad stress and good stress. If we literally had no stress, we would have no motivation. Stress does not meen high-blood pressure, heart palpitations and heart disease. It's only when we can't deal that it takes over.
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Marie9
Selp appointed critic for the good!
03:12 PM on 05/27/2010
I believe there is good and bad in this article --- like many other things. Advice does not fit all situations -- no matter the content.

Unhappiness affects different people in various ways-- enlightenment does not always follow -- sometimes tragedy is the result. As we can see from many incidents in the world --- likewise; happiness for one can be heartbreak for another.
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ilouie
02:23 PM on 05/28/2010
I agree. I have worked in the mental health field for twenty-five years and I can tell you this: Our stressed client are not achieving anything because of stress and they are far less physically healthy. Part of the reason we're so stressed in the US is because we keep insisting stress is good when medical research shows the opposite. No, stress is only good in the movies and for making large profits for some corporation.
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GlassMask
Comedian/Curmudgeon
02:28 PM on 05/27/2010
You're spreading some dangerous ideas. Most folks 'round here don't cotton to hearing the truth... ^_^

I was a miserable guy in my teens & twenties, but I filled books full of wonderful drawings and cartoons, and was internationally published (on a small scale). When I cheered up in my thirties, I had to switch to acting and comedy. It's still possible to create when not depressed, but you may have to change media.
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DennisMM
04:20 PM on 05/27/2010
I have bipolar disorder. As a young essayist and critic, I did my greatest writing while on manic trends. However, I did my best thinking and analysis when I was on the down side.
02:23 PM on 05/27/2010
If everyone uses negative emotion to achieve the next big thing in life, there will be too many Dick Cheneys, i.e., Derth Vaders in our world.. LOL
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wbfree
1+1is2+3is5+3is8+5is13 Life is a Fibonacci Spiral
06:03 PM on 05/27/2010
Don't confuse psychopathy with negativity
Or happiness with equanimity
and cheney was fine
With being the slime
Oozing out out of your TV set.. h/t FZ
07:30 PM on 05/27/2010
Thanks for being such an inspiration. You are truly a happy and a positive person. God bless!
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PeterPauze
02:19 PM on 05/27/2010
Some thoughts about this thought provoking article...

A problem: there's no clear definition of what constitutes "happiness." We all know people who are "happiest" when they're miserable--so which are they, happy or unhappy? Is happiness merely the lack of unhappiness, or is it an active emotional state, so that unhappiness is the lack of active happiness?

It's clear that a person can be aggressive and cruel and still be perfectly happy--in fact, one could argue that a person entirely without morals or conscience is far more likely to be happy, since such a person would not feel guilt, regret, remorse, and so on.

The uber-question, I think, is: to what extent is the human experience merely an ongoing quest to maximize pleasure and minimize pain? Is this, in the end, what all our efforts amount to?
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SunnyT
01:34 PM on 05/27/2010
There's an uncommon wealth of wisdom in the posts here. It's wonderful to take it all in.

I know a woman who is happy every waking moment, thanks to some magical pharmaceutical concoction. She is unrelentingly smiling and cheerful in a way that's a little freaky and uncomfortable to be around.

Another woman I work with has been out of work for two months. Her doctor can't seem to get her on the right combination of mood enhancers without causing her some scary side effects. She (and her doctor) seem to be under the impression that she should be happy all the time.

And that just makes me ... sad. My unhappy times were necessary and valuable for developing strength, understanding and compassion. I learned to temper unrealistic expectations, I learned patience, appreciation for simple things, I learned how to be content and to find peace. I wouldn't trade any of that self-discovery for a happy pill.
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robin360
dog is god spelled backwards
03:57 PM on 05/27/2010
SunnyT: An antidepressent is much different than a "happy pill" or "mood enhancer";There is no such medication that a doctor can provide.
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DennisMM
04:23 PM on 05/27/2010
Do the happy pills help your oddly cheerful friend to be able to get out of bed? Would she be looking at razor blades without pharmaceutical assistance? Would your friend who can't find the "right" pill be able to look for work without a chemical aid? I won't assume, but remember that not everyone can thrive on unhappy moments. Too many people are helplessly dragged down by depression. Without lithium and other drugs, I'd probably never leave my apartment.
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SunnyT
04:50 PM on 05/27/2010
We have been brainwashed into using drugs when drugs are not necessary or helpful and can never solve the problem. They only precipitate a lifetime of dependence, side effects, and scurrying to find another drug or drug combo when they cease working.

But I understand this is only my opinion, and it isn't a popular one.

Both of these women never heard of a drug they didn't want to try or think they needed, both prescription and OTC. They will be drug addicts for the rest of their lives, which will continue to undermine their health and, ironically, any chance for real happiness.
01:14 PM on 05/27/2010
Excellent article.
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EcnelisDoogod
B the change you want 2C
01:00 PM on 05/27/2010
Jesus wanted us to be happy. He did not have kind things to say about those that espoused hate, fear, etc.
03:03 PM on 05/27/2010
My neighbor down the street who owns two pugs wants us to be happy too. He also dislikes people espoused to hate and fear. Is he Jesus? I am not sure yet. But I think his opinions are equally irrelevant.
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EcnelisDoogod
B the change you want 2C
03:34 PM on 05/27/2010
Oh snap! Didn't mean to sound pompous. Head doctors don't have a practice without unhappy people. And if they heal their costumers, they loose the repeat business. I'm just saying...
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riverhead
12:07 PM on 05/27/2010
Negative emotions may have a purpose for survival, but that is an instinctual need that is no longer required for survival ... they just lead to depression in our current state of evolution. And they all arise out of not being simply present in each moment. Both the greatest creativity AND the greatest happiness come from being present, even if just for a split second. Just ask Einstein (if you could) from where his greatest insights were obtained. It won't be long before everyone on the planet will be living this way, with no past to be ashamed about, and no future to be worried about ... and then see what happens, see what we create.
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12:39 PM on 05/27/2010
or what's creating you....

be the shit you wish to shift..or something like that. LOL!
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BowlingForRevenge
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01:00 PM on 05/27/2010
I was wondering what meds he was on and will steer clear of them.
As a creative person I cannot imagine being happy and unashamed all the time.
What kind of cr ap would I be producing?
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robin360
dog is god spelled backwards
04:09 PM on 05/27/2010
Yes, riverhead, but Einstein didn't have to worry about his financial future, insurance, finding a mate, etc.
You sound like a nice guy, but nice isn't sexy. You'd love my angst. A world with no worries? We'd create boring, pretty pictures. And, I've found that most people who think they have all of the answers, generally are pretty angst filled themselves. My contentment is knowing that I don't know everything, and that's ok.