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Cyma Shapiro
Cyma Shapiro, 56, is the mother of 10 and 12-year-old children and 29 and 31-year-old stepchildren. She is the writer and creator of NURTURE: Stories of New Midlife Mothers, the first art gallery show dedicated to women choosing motherhood over 40, and the blog dedicated to midlife mothers. Cyma is passionate about supporting men and women who choose later parenthood and giving them a face, voice, and forum. Her first book, The Zen of Midlife Mothering, was just published.

Entries by Cyma Shapiro

Valentine's Day: The Power of the Minority Can Help the Majority (An Open Letter to Speaker John Boehner)

(0) Comments | Posted January 27, 2015 | 5:29 PM

Dear Speaker Boehner:

I recently saw your interview on CBS's "60 Minutes," and was left with the feeling that I have work to do on your behalf. In past years, I've written Valentine's Day posts on "The Power of One Helps Makes a Whole," and "The...

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13 Things Not to Say to a Jewish Person Around Christmas

(132) Comments | Posted December 22, 2014 | 5:24 PM

1. "Do you have a Chanukah bush?"
No. I only know a few Bushes -- two were presidents and one burned next to Moses. While some families, especially original Eastern European immigrants, choose to have a bush or small tree in their homes during the holidays, it has NO...

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10 Things Not to Say to a New (Midlife) Mother

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 5:12 PM

Women choosing motherhood over 40, 45 and 50 still remain in the minority, especially in certain geographic locations. Although becoming a first-time parent at a later age is becoming increasingly prevalent, women choosing motherhood at later (and later) ages are often the butt of jokes and the recipient of rude,...

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The Power of One: Honoring Yourself

(1) Comments | Posted January 21, 2014 | 2:07 PM

Last year, in my Huffington Post Valentine's Day essay, "The Power of One Helps Make a Whole," I wrote about how important Valentine's Day is and how I start thinking about the upcoming holiday soon after the last holiday ends. I explained how I spend several months formulating...

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9 Tips on How to Prepare for (New Older) Motherhood Over 40, 45 and 50

(1) Comments | Posted January 6, 2014 | 5:58 PM

You are so happy! You see the finish line before you and are racing toward new older motherhood with joy and trepidation. However, you haven't thought out the rest of this journey. In fact, I'll bet that you haven't thought much past the blessed event.

Whether you are marrying...

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(0) Comments | Posted March 18, 2013 | 2:31 PM

As another Passover approaches, I can't help but think back wistfully to my childhood with my Eastern European grandparents and all that it held for me -- the incessant Yiddish conversations, the Yiddish radio broadcasts; a home that smelled from a mixture of fish, moth balls and sometimes sweat. The...

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Valentine's Day: The Power of One Helps Make a Whole

(0) Comments | Posted February 6, 2013 | 1:02 PM

It's hard to explain my (utter) fascination with Valentine's Day. On the therapist's couch, this near-obsession has been explained away as a move to fill an unfilled heart, a response to a loveless childhood and a push to find my own heart -- all true, but not a fully convincing...

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The Love and Wounds of Adopting

(13) Comments | Posted February 1, 2013 | 2:28 PM

I'd swear that I birthed my kids. Swear to you. You see, I regularly use this language, "You are so cute! Who's your Mommy?" (Meaning, me). "What do you mean, where did you get your ears from? They look like Daddy's." And, "Everyone says that we're alike, honey." Freely. I...

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Regarding Having/Getting/Adopting Children: When Is Being Done, Done?

(3) Comments | Posted January 15, 2013 | 4:33 PM

In a recent Huffington Post column, I laid out a concise spreadsheet on the positives and negatives of (new) mid-life mothering. I was hoping to educate people and engender a little sympathy and understanding. However, it seems to me that the vast majority of American's still think that despite breakthroughs...

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Midlife Mothering: Ain't All It's Cracked Up to Be?

(48) Comments | Posted December 30, 2012 | 8:26 AM

When you think of mothering, you might think of loving, picturesque scenes of mother and child(ren). You might imagine all-things good, safe and nurturing. Add graying hair, eyeglasses, drying skin and a host of maladies including hot flashes, insomnia, reduced height size and memory capacity, slowing biorhythms and you now...

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How Russia's New Adoption Ban Reopens Old Wounds

(5) Comments | Posted December 28, 2012 | 12:30 PM

For those of us fortunate to have adopted internationally, especially from Russia -- my ancestor's homeland -- today's headlines are maddening and saddening. I am especially struck as I think back to the adoption of my two youngest, from Russia, and the undeniable obstacles, roadblocks and sheer exploitation we endured,...

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