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Give Kids the Respect They're Due

Posted: 03/13/2012 2:54 pm

This week, a courageous 17 year-old named Katy Butler delivered over 225,000 signatures to the MPAA urging the organization to change the rating of BULLY from R to PG-13. In the face of this outpouring of support, the MPAA has maintained the R rating -- making it difficult for middle and high school students to access the film -- due to "elements strong enough to require careful consideration [from parents] before allowing their children to view it."

The "elements" in question are six uses of the f-word.

BULLY bears witness to the violence, intimidation, threats, derogation and abuse 13 million American kids will experience this year. We made this film to give voice to those for whom bullying is a daily reality and to honestly depict bullying in such a way as to make it impossible to dismiss as "kids being kids" or a "normal" rite of passage.

Bullying is ugly, it is painful, it is hard to hear and watch, and we cannot ignore the consequences. This language belongs in a film about bullying, because this is what bullying sounds and feels like. To take away this language, or prevent kids from hearing the words that reflect their own experiences, is to look the other way, to gloss over the suffering and to continue to perpetrate the myth that has allowed bullying to become so entrenched in our communities. To pretend this language doesn't exist denies bullied kids who wake up day after day, and get on that bus, or walk through the halls of their schools, knowing the gauntlet of harm they're likely to face, the dignity and acknowledgement of bravery they're due.

This language exists in this film because it does not belong at the bus stop, on our school buses, in the halls of our schools, on our kids' social networking pages, or anywhere in our communities where we strive to make kids safe. The language in this film is their reality. Instead of protecting kids from the language of the film we need to work together to protect them from bullying. We do not depict this mature language to condone or sensationalize it, but for exactly the opposite reason: to underscore just how damaging this language is when it is used to bully -- and its prevalence.

Our hope is that through the hard truths contained in BULLY, viewers will be moved to take action. As parents, educators and a society, we are asking young people to take ownership of this issue and to help us create a culture where bullying is simply not acceptable. As we saw from the overwhelming number of kids who came out in support of the petition urging the MPAA to lower the rating of BULLY to PG-13, this is their story, and they want it to be heard. If we expect middle and high school students to have the courage, integrity and strength to take on bullying, we must empower them with the respect to handle the language that honestly depicts their world.

Cynthia Lowen is the producer of the documentary film, "BULLY."

"BULLY" opens in theatres on March 30th.

 
This week, a courageous 17 year-old named Katy Butler delivered over 225,000 signatures to the MPAA urging the organization to change the rating of BULLY from R to PG-13. In the face of this outpourin...
This week, a courageous 17 year-old named Katy Butler delivered over 225,000 signatures to the MPAA urging the organization to change the rating of BULLY from R to PG-13. In the face of this outpourin...
 
 
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Dox96
Aussie, progressive, gay-married foster dad
08:21 AM on 03/15/2012
I am someone who was victimised by bullying all throughout my school career, so believe me when I say that I am delighted that someone is making a film depicting, realistically, the abuse that some children receive every day at school.

However, I am also a parent, and the rating system is a valuable guide to letting me know exactly what is appropriate for my child to watch - there are simply too many shows, video games, radio stations around to know what is and isn't appropriate without a trustworthy rating system in place.

I would suggest that this film would be highly appropriate - but supervision would absolutely be required, particularly for young children.

As much as I would support this film, an R rating (or M equivalent in Australia where I live) sounds more appropriate. Better publicity of this film would be a way of getting parents to sit down with their children to better understand the reality of bullying.
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ameriki00
12:30 PM on 03/14/2012
The MPAA is a bully.
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MoNeek
THINK...its not illegal yet
08:59 AM on 03/14/2012
"If we expect middle and high school students to have the courage, integrity and strength to take on bullying, we must empower them with the respect to handle the language that honestly depicts their world."

Amen...
07:28 PM on 03/13/2012
This just highlights the silly hypocritical way that the world works. Do they think that school kids never hear the f-word? They hear it all day long!
01:51 PM on 03/16/2012
They don't need to hear it again. The producer should edit the film to either replace the offending words or bleep them out. This is ridiculous.
06:22 PM on 03/13/2012
We would start giving our children respect by having a return to more civilized behavior.

With an endless stream of so called 'reality shows' with NO redeeming value & an entertainment media that is quick to cash in on the lowest common denominator in 'celebrities' is it any surprise that more & more teens & even adults become crasser & unconcerned by what we used to call a "good reputation."