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Damona Hoffman
Damona Hoffman is a dating and relationships expert and host of the weekly radio show "Dates & Mates" which airs every Wednesday at 11 a.m. on UBN Radio.

Read her modern, humorous and sometimes controversial dating and relationship advice at

Entries by Damona Hoffman

How Old People Took Over Tinder

(0) Comments | Posted February 6, 2015 | 12:36 AM

Back when I first started telling my dating coaching clients about Tinder it came with a disclaimer: "It has the reputation for being a hook up app."

Then on my radio show in March 2013 I reported that something strange happened...


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4 Ways Online Dating Isn't So Scary

(0) Comments | Posted January 14, 2015 | 12:16 PM

Let's face it, dating can be terrifying. Not only do you have to be concerned about getting your heart broken, but you also have to be worried about allowing a complete stranger into your personal life, your social circle and your home. You may think I'm referring to the horrors...

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6 Crucial Questions to Ask Before Moving In Together

(3) Comments | Posted August 29, 2014 | 6:15 PM

As a modern dating expert who empowers women to take control of their love lives, I think it's time we stop clinging to the old ideal that you must wait until you're married to move in together. The reality is that two-thirds of married couples live together before tying the...

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15 Things You Should Never Say To a Pregnant Woman About Her Body

(19) Comments | Posted February 15, 2014 | 1:28 PM

At 32 weeks pregnant with my second child I've finally gained some perspective and a thicker skin about the surprising and insensitive things that people say to woman in one of her most fragile times -- pregnancy.

While most women spend their entire lives trying to lose or maintain...

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6 Clever Ways to Save Money This Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 10:56 AM

It costs roughly $738.36 a year to date according to a recent survey. $61.53 per month is really no small number when you think about it. That's an electric bill, lunches for a week, or a tank of premium gas. Considering that restaurants, florists and shops aim...

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11 Awful Holiday Gift Ideas for New Girlfriends

(1) Comments | Posted December 12, 2013 | 10:03 AM

If you're one of the lucky survivors of a newly-formed relationship and avoided becoming a victim of the dreaded Turkey Drop, congratulations! But don't celebrate too quickly. Now the pressure's on to pick out that perfect holiday gift. While you don't have to break the bank, you should...

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Die besten Dating-Tipps für Männer

(3) Comments | Posted October 24, 2013 | 11:05 AM

In den fast zehn Jahren, die ich inzwischen als Online-Dating-Coach arbeite, habe ich selbst gemerkt, wie sich die Einstellung gegenüber Online-Dating in eine positive Richtung gewandelt hat. Deswegen überrascht es mich nicht, dass laut einer neuen Pew Research-Studie 42 Prozent aller Amerikaner einen Online-Dater kennen. Als...

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Pew Survey: Why Men Fail at Online Dating

(27) Comments | Posted October 22, 2013 | 9:30 AM

In my nearly 10 years as an online dating coach, I've personally witnessed the positive and negative attitudes towards the online dating shift so it was no surprise for me to read in the Pew Study (which was released today) that 42 percent of all Americans...

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Why Dating in LA Is So Damn Tough

(23) Comments | Posted September 25, 2013 | 5:30 PM


I did not set out to become a dating coach. Thirteen years ago, I was just another LA transplant with a dream. I envisioned that it could be possible to have a great career and meet a quality guy...

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7 Reasons Why You're Always the Bridesmaid

(36) Comments | Posted September 20, 2013 | 12:49 PM

As the summer wedding season draws to a close, I'm watching my dating coaching programs fill up with fed-up bridesmaids unwilling to attend another nuptial celebration solo. If you have a closet full of bridesmaid dresses and a maxed out credit card from one destination wedding too many,...

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What Does Halle Berry's Wedding Ring Mean?

(74) Comments | Posted July 22, 2013 | 5:54 PM


Halle Berry has tied the knot again. We're hoping that the third time is a charm for this soon-to-be mom of two. Will her marriage to Olivier Martinez be able to stand the test of time? Since my crystal ball is in the shop,...

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The Real Reason That Miss USA is Single

(6) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 7:29 PM

Nana Meriwether is a knockout by all accounts. Although, she just relinquished her Miss USA title a few weeks ago she still "got that something." So it's understandable why many people are in an uproar, not only because Miss USA is single, but because she's also on the online dating...

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Why You Need to Think Twice About Inter-Faith Marriage

(11) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 4:47 PM

They say love is blind but is it also agnostic? In my work as a dating coach, I'm hearing more and more clients say that they are open to dating someone of another ethnicity or religion. However, I have also been seeing more relationships break up years down the road...

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Top Dating Site 'Plenty of Fish' Announces Big Changes

(15) Comments | Posted May 22, 2013 | 10:42 AM

Plenty of Fish is swabbing the deck. On Monday, POF founder, Markus Frind, announced to members that the site will be undergoing some major changes. "POF is all about relationships, I'm going to make a bunch of changes to ensure it stays a relationship-focused site, " Frind said. However, as...

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Why Those Extra 10 Pounds Actually Are Keeping You From Meeting Your Match

(11) Comments | Posted April 16, 2013 | 9:40 AM

In November 2011, I took on a new client -- a woman who was 45 and had never been married. She was bright, kind, and had a fulfilling -- yet demanding -- career. The idea of dating coaching was exciting to her, but when I actually tried to schedule our...

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Judge Me Not By the Texture of My Hair But By the Content of My Character

(42) Comments | Posted April 10, 2013 | 9:37 PM

Growing up in the projects off of 8-Mile Road in Detroit, my mother prayed for one thing -- not for an end to poverty, not for the safety of her siblings, not even for racial equality being a part of the first integrated class in her high school. The one...

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5 Ways That Having Kids Can Improve Your Dating Life

(3) Comments | Posted March 6, 2013 | 12:13 PM

Many of my clients come to me once they're ready to be with someone new after a previous relationship has ended. Single parents often see that goal as unreachable when they factor in their parental responsibilities. Being a mommy myself, I understand the demands of parenthood. While I definitely advocate...

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Your House Is Haunted, Now What? Former Ghost Hunters Executive Producer Gives Advice

(8) Comments | Posted February 14, 2013 | 1:04 PM

My Huffington Post readers know me as a dating expert, but what you might not realize is that my first love was actually the paranormal. While other teenagers were going to the mall and making out with one another, I was chatting it up with the witch at our local...

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Left for Dead: Woman's Attack Exposes Real Risks of Online Dating

(1) Comments | Posted January 28, 2013 | 5:50 PM

Mary Kay Beckman, 50, was just looking for love but she brought home more than she'd bargained for. After just a few dates with Wade Ridley, she was smitten, yet she had no idea that his intention was to smite her. Ridley had no prior criminal record. There was nothing...

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9 Ways to Become Lucky in Love in 2013

(3) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 1:35 PM

Before I met my husband through an online dating site, I did some crazy things to find love. At one point, a feng shui consultant instructed me to put red lingerie under my mattress to incite passion in my bedroom. On another occasion, a palm reader told me that I...

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