THE BLOG
05/27/2008 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Sex And The Forgotten Years

Relegating the aged to the realm of forgotten has been practice in this youth-centric culture of ours for years, but with the rise of Viagra, Cialis and other erection enhancing sexual stimulants coupled with increased longevity, we are forced to face that life may not end at 50 after all.

Signs of popular culture embracing the phenomenon of sex among Septuagenarians and beyond are cropping up in television shows, editorial coverage and magazine pop culture alike. The prevalence of nursing culture dating and sexuality has begun demanding sex education geared at the over fifty and sixty crowd as the rise in sexually transmitted diseases rises to epidemic status within communities which were once considered post-sexuality and past the point of concern for such issues.

The fallacy that our sexuality and need for closeness evaporates with age is being unsettled as more and more people in their Golden and twilight years embrace and celebrate the fact that their virility can continue with a little pharmaceutical help.

However, there is a unique new problem entering the mix. The rising expectation of those in the post-menopausal years to perform and indulge has left some lovers out of tune. As the development of male-centric pharmaceutical responses to the male's waning erectile response grows by leaps and bounds, our healthcare system failed women once again by lagging way behind in terms of addressing dampened sexual impulses and hormonal depletion. The second, third and fourth wives' clubs are growing in numbers as men seek out younger women to meet their Viagra induced sexual impulses, pointing again to our fundamental problem with accepting the aging process as part of the life process, which is a beautiful thing!

The constant quest to prolong youth and to latch on to the notion that forever young is the only desirable undertaking, whether by adjusting one's diet, lifestyle, physique or medical routine is at an all-time high, while acceptance of the inevitable process of growing older and fading is in total hiding. We throw pills at and sell to the notion that there is an eternal fountain of youth for the right price, and that may be so.

However, we do a disservice to ourselves and to our elders by reinforcing the notion that sexuality is a possession of the young and beautiful alone. Sexuality and intimacy are the cornerstones of human experience, and we should all be part of that delicious undertaking. Marginalizing the elderly to the fringes of society by hiding and denying them coverage in popular culture is simply unacceptable, disrespectful and abhorrent.