What's An American Girl To Do?

05/13/2009 12:43 pm ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Funny that women in France over the age of 50 have more sex than they did at age 35, while a full third of American women in their 50's have no sex at all. Yup - none. Is it true that, as Lauren Bacall claimed "when a woman reaches 26 in America, she's on the slide. It's all downhill from then on"?

Bacall continued, "it doesn't give you a tremendous feeling of confidence and well-being". I'd have to agree that our society is particularly hard on women, and the media is no help, revering youth and folly as desirable with little regard to depth and wisdom as virtues.

According to a recent study in the Journal of Research in personality, a full 1/10th of twenty-somethings exhibit at least several of the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it's no wonder. When the rest of us are made to feel as though we don't matter, contemplating Botox, Juvederm and/or more drastic procedures to amplify and exaggerate our youthful demeanors in hopes of acceptance, is it any wonder that those in their 'prime' are feeling a little full of themselves?

Well, I'm here to tell you that thirty-something is the start of really knowing oneself and hitting one's stride, that there's more to sex and sensuality than meets the eye, that the orgasmic quality of an intimate relationship has very little to do with pure appearance, and that narcissism absolutely disables any real sense of sensual and sexual satisfaction. So, being twenty-something, while it looks great on TV and in the tabloids, may not be all that it's cracked up to be, no matter what they're selling.