02/15/2012 09:46 am ET Updated Apr 15, 2012

Nothing Spells Love Like Equality

February, according to all retailers is the month for love. Everywhere you turn there are little cut out hearts, red roses, and candy for sale.

What troubles me about Valentine's Day is not the commercialization of love. Although, I really don't need a special day to remind me to have champagne and dinner with my wife, any day will do -- it's that my love, the extraordinary love that I share with her is not celebrated. And I'm not just talking about on February 14th either; I'm talking about the other 364 days of the year.

One dozen red Roses- $20
Godiva Chocolates- $25
Valentine's Day Card-$4

The right to declare and consecrate your love in every state of this country -- Priceless!

Love is a miracle, period. It's a miracle to find one person out of 7 billion on this planet that laughs at (almost) all your jokes, lights up when you walk into a room, knows your likes and dislikes, and cradles your heart with ever-loving care in their hands -- whose hands shouldn't even be a discussion let alone up for debate and public ridicule.

A real marriage is based on love and mutual respect not just sex, yet the only thing that seems to be in question in every stateroom and courtroom between here and California is sex -- but more importantly what is acceptable sex and what isn't.

Whenever opponents of marriage equality speak against the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community they never use the word love when referring to our relationships, you know why? Because love or using the word relationship for that matter would humanize our community. It would make us equals.

When the gay and transgender communities are separate from the mainstream and left on the margins of society then stereotypes and fear will rule and bigotry can conquer.

The fight for equality is not just about two people's right to get married, it's the difference between who we are as a people and who we are meant to be -- one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.

So, this month as you struggle with which teddy bear to purchase, and what restaurant to take your Valentine to, remember that not everyone has the luxury to gaze lovingly at their partner over dinner in a public place or can send flowers to their loved ones place of employment -- because gay and transgender love isn't equal, and in some places it's criminal.

Sure, flowers and candy are nice but to me nothing spells Love like Equality!