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Getting Over The Post-Wedding Blues

Posted: 07/12/2012 12:06 pm

Ever since you were a little girl you've dreamed about the picture perfect wedding. After you got engaged you were consumed by the wedding planning process for months (or maybe even years) -- and then it was over! Many brides romanticize everything about their wedding day and honeymoon and feel overwhelmed by the reality of the 'real world' upon returning from their trips. Some of us don't know what to do with ourselves following the wedding because we've focused all our energy on the seemingly never- ending wedding planning process and are left with what are known as the post-wedding blues. Women have been known to say that wedding planning was filled with some of the best, most stressful or even worst times of their lives! No matter how you feel about your experience, you may be left thinking that you have nothing to fill that void.

Some depression after your wedding day is normal as you're transitioning into a new phase in your life, which can often be scary. Before your biggest worries were centerpieces, dresses, rings... and now you're left thinking about buying a house, paying bills, having kids, and all of the major things that come to fruition after being married. The good thing now, is that all of these responsibilities are shared! So a couple weeks of feeling down is normal, but after that if you are still feeling frustrated or angry at your spouse, then you may want to seek out something new to occupy your time. Personally, I've found that the best way to get over post-wedding blues is to talk to friends and family about the way you are feeling. Recognize that you are still YOU and now just sharing your fabulous self with your best friend, and the one you have given your heart to!

Here are some tips on how to get yourself out of your post nuptial funk:

Gain Perspective: Your wedding was meant to last only one day, leaving you with a marriage to last forever! It's great that you spent all of your time making your special day as picture-perfect as possible, but now think about how you can make your new life wonderful, day-in and day-out. Share your goals with your spouse (whether it's a vacation or plans to buy a house) and talk about how you will both work to reach those goals together.

Plan a Cocktail Party: You may be missing the planning aspect of your wedding, so why not plan a party for friends or family to come over and make use of the new dishes, bowls, etc. that you just received as wedding gifts?! Or plan a night out to dinner, or dancing with other couples or friends. You can be married and still enjoy night life!

Be Lazy: Now that you don't have to worry about breathing, eating and sleeping all things bridal, you may find that you have some extra time on your hands. It's okay to do nothing! That's right -- I said nothing! You can put on some comfy sweats, watch a movie and enjoy cuddling with your new hubby! Or take a bubble bath and enjoy a good book with a glass of wine.

Get a New Hobby: Maybe you're just bored because you have too much time on your hands right now. It's the perfect time to start a home-improvement project or to get a new hobby. There are other uses for Pinterest! You and your spouse could work on the project together (or separately if you'd like) or you could each start a hobby of your own to keep some time to yourselves. Remember, just because you are married doesn't mean that you have to do EVERYTHING together. Let's face it, you're still individuals too!

 
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