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Dave Astor

Dave Astor

Posted: January 25, 2011 10:55 PM

An orange tabby fond of a yellow cornfield was driven 700 miles in a red car to a blue state with smaller expanses of green. Here's the colorful story of how a remarriage changed this furry fella's life.

My future wife was near the laundry building in her Indiana apartment complex when a cat followed her on a snowy 2001 day. Laurel took pity on the feline, and let him inside her place for some food and a long nap on the sofa. She spent the next week trying to find the cat's owner, but to no avail. The affectionate animal had probably been abandoned.

Laurel named the two-year-old cat Angus, and quickly learned that he was a critter who had to spend lots of time outside -- preferably in the large cornfield that abutted her Terre Haute apartment. Angus would roam the stalks all night in warmer weather, and he and Laurel developed a system where he'd meow outside her building when he wanted to finally come in. This would often be at around 5 a.m., when Laurel would sleepily stumble from her second-floor apartment to open the building's ground-level door.

Such was Angus' life at the time the divorced me met Laurel in 2002. Given that I lived in New Jersey, we had a long-distance relationship for more than a year. Actually, there were two long-distance relationships, because Angus and I slowly got to know each other as well.

After Laurel and I became engaged in 2003, we decided to live in my New Jersey house. A big reason was that I had a 13-year-old daughter we didn't want to uproot -- and the job possibilities for Laurel near Manhattan were better than for me in western Indiana. But New Jersey meant Angus had a big journey ahead of him.

As we packed up Laurel's apartment on a hot weekend in July '03, we felt bad for the confused cat who had to involuntarily move. Angus would soon have a three-floor house to reside in, but he didn't know that. And I thought guiltily that my small suburban backyard was no cornfield.

After the movers left with 90% of Laurel's belongings, we stuffed the other 10% into her tiny 1992 Ford Escort and carefully placed the carrier holding Angus onto the back seat. The vehicle had no air-conditioning, but Angus was shivering ... with anxiety.

Many hours later, we arrived in Pittsburgh to stay for the night in the house of Laurel's cousins Jean and Mike. We let Angus out, and who knows if he thought this was his new home? But it was back in the carrier the next morning.

We made it to New Jersey that night, and it took Angus a number of days to get used to an unfamiliar house rather than a modest-sized apartment. But get used to it he did. For instance, Angus happily discovered many different places to sleep in our un-posh dwelling -- including the attic floor, our bed, the living-room sofa, etc. He also enjoyed living with more people, but we could tell he was going bonkers not having some time outside. So, while we knew it's usually best to keep a cat indoors, we began letting him have his "prowls" -- though not for the entire night any more.

It wasn't a cornfield, but the area around our house had its charms for a cat. There were various yards to slip in and out of, a small paved area for Angus to rub his back against, plenty of weeds to munch, some trees to shimmy up and down, and many fireflies to leap in the air at (but never catch). When Angus was done roaming, he would race to the back door and smack his front paws against it to announce his desire for reentry. We'd usually be only a few feet away rather than a floor above as we hurried to let him inside.

Now Angus is nearly 12. Our feline buddy might be a bit less frisky, but he's still as healthy as can be. I don't know if he thinks about the days when he was an Indiana "Hoosier," but I think about how a divorce and remarriage can change several lives -- including that of a cat.

 
 
 
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
12:56 AM on 02/05/2011
Lovely article, thank you for posting it! I was anxious reading it; so often these stories end with the cat's (or dog's) death. May I ask you to give Angus an extra pat from a long-time servant to tabby cats Down Under?
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Dave Astor
07:36 AM on 02/05/2011
Thank you for your kind comment, french queen13! These days, enough things have unhappy endings that I can understand your anxiety! I loved your phrase "long-time servant" to cats; I think that describes things perfectly for most people who live with these great animals!
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Milash
It says I should edit my micro-bio, so I did.
10:34 PM on 02/01/2011
I love this story and the fact that you care so much about this furry little creature so much.
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Dave Astor
07:06 AM on 02/02/2011
I greatly appreciate your comment, Milash!
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Mike Anton Bidner
What are you conserving?!?
07:59 AM on 01/30/2011
I kept the twins when we broke up, that is Thom and his sister Cricket. I didn't trust her to take good care of them (she later dabbled in hard drugs, smart move on my part) and she would never change their litter and she would feed them whenever she felt like/got around to it. Some of it was also me being vindictive after the breakup a lil' bit, but I did have legit causes for concern, with the neglect and drugs and all. These creatures have kept me grounded. They have only missed one meal since I have been taking care of them, and that was in a period of unemployment for me. I felt so terrible about it...I really have to start looking at that one missed meal as a turning point in my own life. I am not an obsessive cat fancy type of person, but these felines have kept a travelling and always moving guy like myself stable and rooted.
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Dave Astor
08:06 AM on 01/30/2011
Yes, cats are such great companions that they can help keep a person stable and rooted, as you say. I'm glad you've been a great "owner" to your two cats since your difficult relationship ended. And thank you, Mike, for commenting.
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thebearschick
09:36 PM on 01/29/2011
You are a good writer. One of the best on this site.
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Dave Astor
08:00 AM on 01/30/2011
Thank you, thebearschick! You made my day.
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Mike Anton Bidner
What are you conserving?!?
08:01 AM on 01/30/2011
Wheeew! I thought I was the only one still strutting the Chicago "C" logo after that last game. And yes, Dave is always a solid read.
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Dave Astor
08:11 AM on 01/30/2011
Thank you, Mike!

It's nice to see football-fan loyalty. Although I was also rooting for the Bears over the Packers, I'm now rooting for the Packers over the Steelers given that Pittsburgh's quarterback had some serious (alleged) sexual-assault issues.
11:10 AM on 01/27/2011
Howdy, Mr. Astor!

Angus: Hoosier Daddy?*

MugILoveCats(CompletelyUncattibalistically)Ruith1

*Please excuse any and all apparently catty remarks herein . . .
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Dave Astor
11:21 AM on 01/27/2011
"Hoosier Daddy?" Well, if Indiana State alum Larry Bird's daddy is also tall, that daddy is Big Bird. Thanks for your funny and clever comment, MugRuith1.
06:57 AM on 01/27/2011
The second time I moved 500 miles in 4 months, I medicated my Twin Tabbys of Terror. One of them woke up after about 10 hours, and he was NOT pleased. Once out of the carrier, they sniffed corners gingerly and promptly went to sleep.
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Dave Astor
08:06 AM on 01/27/2011
Thanks, Dan R, for sharing your memories of moving your cats. I hope your "Twin Tabbys of Terror" are now "A Couple of Cats of Contentment."
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Jerry Zezima
10:00 PM on 01/26/2011
You're the cat's meow, Dave. So are Laurel and, of course, Angus. Great piece.
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Dave Astor
10:19 PM on 01/26/2011
Thanks, Jerry, for your praise of "A Tale of One Kitty" -- not to be confused with some Dickens novel I read in high school.
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
12:57 AM on 02/05/2011
"A Tale of One Kitty" LOL!
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Suzette Standring
10:37 AM on 01/26/2011
A catsic...I mean classic case of feline fortune smiling down on YOU. That's Angus' take on it, I'm sure.
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Dave Astor
11:48 AM on 01/26/2011
I wanted to confirm what Angus' take on it was, but the guy's napping at the moment. Thanks for writing, Suzette!
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Dave Astor
04:15 PM on 01/26/2011
Angus is now up, Suzette, and he approves of your comment!
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Maggie Van Ostrand
Some like it not
10:32 AM on 01/26/2011
Angus may have the enviable qualities of adjusting to whatever life throws his way, staying the course when required, and remaining so trustworthy that the Astors can count on him returning from neighborhood forays.

On the other hand, dogs are usually taller than cats and therefore have taller abilities. Mine, for instance, can prepare his own dinner, teach the human he lives with to fetch, and, when the mood strikes him, drive a car.
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Dave Astor
11:32 AM on 01/26/2011
Thanks for your great comment, Maggie! Given the way dogs love to fetch, does your talented canine drive a "stick" shift?
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Maggie Van Ostrand
Some like it not
09:10 PM on 01/26/2011
As they say South of the Border: je je je
10:11 AM on 01/26/2011
This is beautifully written!
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Dave Astor
10:31 AM on 01/26/2011
Thank you, Dave!
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iMissMollyIvins
Middle-aged, Middle class, Midwestern Populist
12:16 AM on 01/26/2011
You can take the kitty out of the cornfields of the Hoosier hinterlands, but you can't take the Hoosier out of the kitty.
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Dave Astor
08:41 AM on 01/26/2011
Well said, although Angus the cat is not a fan of Bobby Knight! Thank you very much for commenting -- and I miss Molly Ivins, too. I had the privilege of writing about her a number of times when I worked for Editor & Publisher magazine.
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iMissMollyIvins
Middle-aged, Middle class, Midwestern Populist
02:13 PM on 01/26/2011
S'alright, I have no love lost for Bobby Knight, either, but then, I'm from South Bend.

I miss E & P, too.
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
07:22 PM on 01/27/2011
Amsu had been in a shelter 2 years when my friend adopted him. She lived in my guest cottage and Amsu visited me often. She moved and took him and he came back. She got him again and he came back. Without telling me she gave him to a woman in the village and Agnes came to get him. She took him and when I realized he was gone the next morning a friend and I got into his truck and started looking for Amsu. We found him high on a cliff by the Rio Grande and 6 dogs were after him. We rescued him and he and I lived, happily, together 19 more years. We moved from New Mexico to Oklahoma and moved to three different houses in 5 years. Then we moved to Texas. Never a yowl out of him. Up until a couple of weeks before he died he was still swatting the dogs on the butt when they walked past "his" chair.

He had a close encounter with a panther in NM and held his own. What tales our cats could tell!!

Thanks for your article.