I have long admired Dan Savage's advice, especially to struggling queers. Like Kate Bornstein's advice to Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws, Savage's advice inspires me to keep in mind the invisible struggles of non-conformers. I have also found daily inspiration in the viral responses to Savage's (and Terry Miller's) "It...

Weddings are personal, but the issue known as "same-sex marriage" is public. We have Mr. Conan O'Brien and TeamCoco to thank for bringing light to an important historical moment -- and to an unfair discrepancy between states.

When we got engaged in...