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Recognizing All Your Moms... Six Questions

05/09/2015 06:24 pm ET | Updated May 09, 2016

Happy Mother's Day!

Whether biological, adoptive, grandmother, aunt, sister, cousin or closest female friend. All deserve your thanks and gratitude.

We often tend to think of motherhood in very narrow terms. The gal we call Mom is our mother. But lots of other people serve in that capacity as a surrogate.

In fact, often we turn to them for most of our support... reserving only the most perplexing or vexing challenges for our mothers.

Bottom Line: all moms no matter the nature of the relationship need to be thanked for all they do for you.

The mother who raised you is who we think of traditionally. All those years of her life sacrificed in your name. The uncomfortable period during pregnancy, the pain during delivery, sleep deprivation from attending to your nightly demands.

Feeding, clothing and addressing all your needs as an infant, toddler, youngster, pre-teen, teen... the list is virtually endless because it continues through adulthood.

Consider Legacy Motherhood. The great advice and moral guidance that serves as a daily compass even if your beloved Mom has passed on.

All of us get caught up in the daily stress and worry of simply making it through the day that we rarely realize the positive impact our mother's or significant other female confidants make on us every day.

  • How often do you demonstrate how vital all these individuals are to you? Don't just read this sentence and pass over it... give it some real thought.
  • If you are a son or daughter how often do you call or text your Mother for advice on handling a particularly thorny situation?
  • Does Mom serve as a safety net you know is always there for you at key moments?
  • What about other key times in your life when you turn to your Aunt, an older female confidant or a best friend... how do you show these treasures how important they are to you?
  • How often do you feel so stressed out that you feel the need to hear the sound of your Mom's voice even if only for a moment or two?
  • Do you often end the day with a call to the person who you know will always be there for you no matter what?
Worry... your Mother will do that all her life. You are her treasure and whether 10 or 60 you'll always be on her mind.


Relationships can be complex. Most everyone has gone through difficult and stressful times with their parents... but in the end all is usually resolved, interaction continues and your bond is stronger than ever!

It's such a shame when families are estranged. It happens. If that's your situation Mother's Day offers a wonderful entree to begin the process of patching things up. We tend to consciously or otherwise overlook that our mom' s won't live forever.

Rekindling your relationship is something you will never regret.

In the greater scheme of things, if you are lucky enough to have your parent consider that Mother's Day isn't just once a year.

It takes so little to show your appreciation on a more frequent basis. Whether it's a quick cup of coffee, a movie, going shopping, a day out on the town or simply telling your Mother how much you love, appreciate and treasure her. Consider doing this often.

Simply say it... Mom I Love You!

As always I like to end with a shout out to my Mom who I know is watching over me every day.

Mom, you made me the man I am. I thank you, love you and am sending you a virtual huge bear hug. XO


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Dave Kanegis is a Certified Professional Coach and works in-person, via telephone, Skype and FaceTime