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Cutting the Chains of Karma: How to Change Negative Habits in 5 Steps

Posted: 11/29/10 09:17 AM ET

Sometimes our "negative" habits (like anger, pride, jealousy, craving etc.) seem to come up like a cyclone out of nowhere. Often we might feel powerless to change them, let alone even notice that we are in the grip of what the Buddhists would call a "klesha" attack. "Klesha" may sound like Yiddish, but it's actually Sanskrit for an obscuration, or perhaps, in a more contemporary sense, a neurotic upheaval. Below are five steps toward recognizing and cutting the momentum of negative habitual patterns and klesha attacks.

1) Recognition

Often, as our "negative" habit takes hold of our mind, we are not aware of the process. The habit just sweeps in with its entourage of storyline, emotional charge, justification and ignorance of other behavior options that might be available to us.

The key, then, is to be able to "wake up" and actually notice that a klesha attack has seized control of our state of mind. It is like waking up in the middle of a bad dream: we still feel the mood and tone of the dream, but we recognize that we were dreaming and that now we are awake. Our perspective has shifted. We were cloudy, but now we are clear about what is actually happening.

2) Interrupting

With this clarity, we have the option of either going back into the grip of our habitual pattern or interrupting it (i.e., not going back into the grip of it). We need to create some kind of antidote to the energy and strength of the habit. Sometimes this antidote can come from stabilizing our mind through various meditation practices, having insight arising from seeing the situation more clearly, or simply longing for more freedom and openness. In Tibetan, the word for renunciation is the same as the word for nausea; we are simply sick and tired of being in the grips of familiar "negative" emotions.

3) Changing Habits

At this point we really do have a choice. We can, as mentioned above, resume and continue to dwell in our habitual pattern. Alternatively, although It takes awareness and effort, we can actually change that pattern for a more "positive" one -- for example, we can substitute patience for aggression -- or we can just stay in the space of present awareness, leading to:

4) Dissolving

If we stay in the space of present awareness, maybe by feeling our breath, current sensations or just relaxing our mind, the habitual pattern that came up will simply dissolve into that space (for the time being), until additional causes and conditions make it surface again. Resting our mind in this way can provide a needed break from the melodrama and depletion that comes from riding the waves of our kleshas.

5) Transforming

Recognizing that the pattern is basically counterproductive and destructive, we can also recognize that within the experience there is a certain quality of wisdom shining through, like a jewel glistening in the middle of a cow patty. For example, perhaps we are angry and resentful, but within that we might have a certain insight about something that is not working and needs changing and thus realize that we can address it without the thick, swirling fog of anger. It's as if our thoughts were in a whirlpool, but by understanding the nature of water, we can allow the turbulence to transform into a stillness that accurately reflects the situation.

In a similar way, we might also be able to see that in our craving there is the potential for experiencing the richness of our situation as it already is; in our passion and attachment there is the potential for experiencing compassion and communication; in our envy and competitiveness there is the opportunity to experience real accomplishment and brilliance; in our ignorance there is the potential to experience some relaxation (i.e., the absence of compulsion and hyperactivity).

Transforming is perhaps the most advanced approach. Within that approach there is nothing discarded, nothing rejected. We are able to see the natural wisdom shining through the filter of our confusion.

So, this is one way to work with the more difficult tenants in our inner landscape, strong habits and "negative" emotions. If you are moved to give it a try, let us all know how it works out. In any case, some form of meditative or contemplative practice can be very helpful in just introducing that little extra "space" into our overcrowded mind, therefore allowing us to shift our direction and energy.

Your thoughts?

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Sometimes our "negative" habits (like anger, pride, jealousy, craving etc.) seem to come up like a cyclone out of nowhere. Often we might feel powerless to change them, let alone even notice that we a...
Sometimes our "negative" habits (like anger, pride, jealousy, craving etc.) seem to come up like a cyclone out of nowhere. Often we might feel powerless to change them, let alone even notice that we a...
 
 
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MrBlueBoyBlitz
04:43 PM on 12/30/2010
Great advice thank you.
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Max Shaw
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12:45 PM on 12/03/2010
And although meditation is a wonderful tool and self-awareness is key to any long term positive change, the way in which we go about discovering ourselves is a convulted and often difficult process. What suggesstions might you have for those who are severely dampened by their own warped psyche? Such as the narcissist or the manic depressive?

Where would you start to find insight and what specific thought processes are you suggesting be the guide to inner peace and self-awareness?
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David Nichtern
11:39 AM on 12/04/2010
Greetings Max,

These are very deep questions you are asking here and perhaps go beyond the context of a blog like this.... the first thought that comes to mind is, when we feel that perhaps we are in deep trouble, reaching out and seeking help can be a good thing. That would be the role of a teacher in this tradtion or perhaps a therapist or counselor in our western tradition. Friends and mentors along the way are essential for all of us..... those are my thoughts.... please feel free to continue the thread of these comments if you like.... sending best, David N.
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12:40 PM on 12/03/2010
These are all principles one would learn in AA..I feel that you have not necessarily presented any new information here. Nor have you mentioned Karma. You also mentioned the changes that can take place and concepts of changing our habits and patterns, but I feel you did not explicitly explain how to do that--you say things like 'they key is to...' or 'we have the option to' but you dont truly suggest methods of change--just our capacity to. Even addicts have the capacity to recognize they have problems, but obviously changing our mindsets is not an easy task.
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Donald Kraig
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10:58 AM on 12/03/2010
I have to admit that I'm puzzled by your article. The headline says it's about cutting the chains of karma, but nowhere do I see the term karma used. You claim that "anger, pride, jealousy, craving etc." are negative habits, however they are not habits at all. They are states of mind. We may get into the habit of moving into and staying in one or more of those states, but the habit is not the state.

I do think that sharing the concept of the kleshas is valuable. It is my belief that the most important klesha to understand is "avidya" or ignorance. We can get into the habit of staying in an undesirable mind state such as anger, and through ignorance of the mental, emotional, and physiological damage that results from that state we have no reason to break the habit. When we gain wisdom we can choose not to be angry and understand that our habit of anger is just a habit and can be transformed into a habit of something else, such as compassion.
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07:09 AM on 12/01/2010
It's kind of a funny that I find a soothing article like this on a web site that does nothing but make my blood boil. I guess this site is how I get my fix of anger, depression and resentment. Maybe that revelation is a start ?
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David Nichtern
10:28 AM on 12/01/2010
That is a start.... but we're not talking about repressing any of that stuff either.... recognizing and then working with it from a non-habitual point of view...

out of curiosity.... what is it about this website that makes your blood boil... what is the actual perception you are having ... is there any validity in the perception....? maybe there is, but is the blood boiling serving that insight? Just a few thoughts....

In any case, blood boiling is not all that bad.... at least you know you are alive and responding... better than eye glazed over and feeling numb, no?

All best, DN
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Keith DeBoer
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02:03 PM on 11/30/2010
I enjoyed your article. In his book The Science of Being and Art of Living, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi gives his own advice for bad habits. He says to procrastinate and postpone. You don't need to make a resolution, quit and then fail. Just put it off, each time the thought or desire for some non-life supporting action. You'd be surprised how effective this is in reducing and over time eliminating bad behaviors and unhealthy habits.
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David Nichtern
10:31 AM on 12/01/2010
Funny advice.... procrastinate and postpone... we might call it boycotting... general hinayana (narrow vehicle) approach is to do just that..... just don't go there.... don't engage bad habits and turn them into bad karma.... but that is easier said then done and if it means repression, they will re-surface, no doubt about it....

Thanks for your contribution Keith.... good to hear from you.... DN
12:44 PM on 11/30/2010
Easier said than done. Yeah a good post, but those feelings of anger, depression, resentment, regret etc... are like crack. After years of experiencing this, nothing less intense therapy is the best option.
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David Nichtern
01:46 PM on 11/30/2010
Whatever works for you.... they are like crack and we are hooked --- mind and body... it is a form of addiction or habituation --- could not agree with you more.... I sitll think these are the steps to working with it, whether thru meditation, therapy, sweat lodge, whatever you've got that works for you..... thanks for writing in .... like your email handle.... chassm.... with 2 s's .... that's like abysssss.....

All best, DN
12:12 PM on 11/30/2010
such a gentle, wise and compassionate approach to taking responsibility.

drat! surely i can find something here to argue with in order to avoid that . . . ;-)
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David Nichtern
01:12 PM on 11/30/2010
Funny.... I'm sure you can! Sending all best, DN
11:10 AM on 11/30/2010
Awesome Post! I needed it..
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David Nichtern
01:13 PM on 11/30/2010
Thanks Matthew.... glad it was helpful.... best regards... David N.
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
10:17 AM on 11/30/2010
to me one of the keys to recognizing ego is the fact strait man effect, ego is deathly serious, it reeks of the spirit of gravity, whereas natural mind is always kidding, no seriousness, just death destruction and suffering, but nothing serious. if i am playing the strait man to realitys clown then i will suffer the fate of the strait man, ignorance steeped in suffering and habit. as this relates to emotions it is that same spirit of gravity that makes solidified emotions so painful, you take the emotions at face value instead of recognizing that another rich comic opportunity has arisen, a chance to play it strait with the emotions, accepting all its "logic" and "reason" and so suffer, or play it as a marx or a bugs or a sage, see the space it arrives in and stay with that, easy of course to say hard to do, especially when we are not taught the truth about emotions, that there is of course a reason, a seed for that emotion, so deal with the heart of the matter and let the rest blossom in space. hope this makes sense to someone, it is hard to write about, it makes it easier for me to think of it this way, ignorance as simply not getting the joke.
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David Nichtern
01:15 PM on 11/30/2010
Makes total sense.... would only add that natural mind also has a poignant and wise quality as well... there is a feeling of being touched by things in addition to feeling the playful energy in situations....

Thanks for writing in.... your meaning definitely comes through ... don't be afraid to keep being poetic!

DN
09:49 AM on 11/30/2010
I really like that piece and found it useful. I checked out 'klesha.' Very interesting concept.

Stage 5 was a little complex, approaching the kind of speech used with one more familiar than I am with your discipline and skills. The 'jewel' and 'natural wisdom' seem to have connotations that give them meanings not available to the uninitiated.

Thanks for this. I will read it again.
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David Nichtern
10:44 AM on 11/30/2010
Thanks Eric..... yes the last step is perhaps a bit more from the 'esoteric" tradition.... i.e. direct transmission... it's pointing to something that could be called "hidden in plain sight".... the secret is that we already have tremendous wisdom and wakefulness and can tap into it in any moment.... it is simultaneously the simplest and most advanced instruction given.... very astute on your part.... sending all best, David N.
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jillsond
02:02 AM on 11/30/2010
This article presented itself to me at a very needed time. Thank you so much, David. The simple, mindful approach is always best.
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David Nichtern
10:45 AM on 11/30/2010
You are welcome, welcome, welcome.... sending best wishes to you Jilsond! DN
10:02 PM on 11/29/2010
Interesting to read your section on Dissolving and relating to space. I've been listening to the guided brain exercises that come with Les Fehmi's new book, "Dissolving Pain", where he teaches you to dissolve into space to relieve pain, stress, anxiety...and to open up to creative flow.
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David Nichtern
10:46 AM on 11/30/2010
Will have to check it out.... these ideas are leaking into the Western mainstream in science, medicine, art, therapy... you name it.... the saying "East is East and West is West and never the twain shall meet" is becoming obsolete I think.... Best, DN
09:24 PM on 11/29/2010
Lovely, thank you... I find Buddhism to provide such an elegant yet powerfully effective antidote to balance the neurosis of the typical self-absorbed western mind, with Buddhism's awareness, personal accountability, and compassion. It must start within each one of us, with compassion for ourselves in the ongoing commitment to such awareness and personal responsibility. I appreciate the comment by River of the value in recognizing such klehsa moments in others, as well. yes! Tashi delek!
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David Nichtern
10:49 AM on 11/30/2010
I think Buddhism is becoming part of Western culture at this point.... there are still some differences in Eastern cultures but having just taught in Japan, and travelled to India, Sikkim and Bhutan.... I'm not sure these differences will survive.... in Bhutan the monks all had cell phones!

And compassion is so essential... you're right about that.... nothing happens without it.... DN
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Americulchie
07:45 PM on 11/29/2010
These seem like practical and doable goals;if only I could keep out negativity.I have felt little peace or harmony in my life;I have nothing to lose.
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David Nichtern
10:51 AM on 11/30/2010
So give it a try.... Trungpa Rinpoche used to talk about "negative negativity" which he thought was worse than the original negativity.... meaning repressing and shutting out negativity never gives us a chance to explore and transform it properly.... he thought the original "negativities" we experience are completely workable and compared them to manure... which can be re-cycled and used as fertilizer for our wisdom..... good luck! DN
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Americulchie
02:05 PM on 11/30/2010
Sir I thank you for the response.I can see the logic in all of this;as I say I have nothing to lose.I know that a healthy mind will lead to a healthier spirit.Thanks for a starting point of your article.