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What Tony Robbins Taught Me About Fear in a 30 Minute Lunch Break

06/25/2015 05:35 pm ET | Updated Jun 25, 2016
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I was at work and feeling blah. That's the best description of it, blah. I went online during my lunch break, yes I wrote that with a straight face, and typed in Tony Robbins. He can really turn your disposition around. He isn't just a rah rah type of guy, he gets you thinking of what could be. Before I get into what I watched I want to take a step back for a moment.

I've been trying to understand the root cause of why I did certain things in my life. I had an assumption but I wondered if it was the same for other people. What I came up with was something very simple. Fear was the biggest factor when making a decision in my life. A no shit Sherlock has probably come across your face, but hear me out. The fear of losing what you have or what you are comfortable with can paralyze you. We get complacent, accept where we are, and that's it.

From time to time we get an epiphany, and we may start to do something, but it doesn't last. After a while, we push these thoughts deep down into our souls, never to return. Whether it's a business idea or just something you always wanted to do, fear creeps in and gets in your way. The excuses may range from what will people say, to loss of time or money. Heaven forbid you may feel uncomfortable. I have a family, I have a job, I don't really need to learn this are also great excuses. You begin to hide behind these excuses. They feel comforting. They become your "precious."

These excuses will always bring you back to where you are; which is a life full of regrets and ideas that were put on hold. They were put on hold because you are afraid of what you might lose.

I would talk to friends and family about what they were going to do, or what they were thinking about doing with their life and/or career. I knew they weren't going to do anything about it and in a sense they knew too. We both nod and played our parts, both knowing this won't happened. It's just talk. The old proverbial B.S. But you don't want to be the jerk that replies, "No, you're not." "Nope, your not going to do that either." There is nothing wrong with this dance, but it doesn't further what you're looking to do with your life. We are all guilty of this. What to do?

Your title said,"Tony Robbins" and all I've heard from you is how you are, "So afraid!". Boo Hoo! Okay, okay so there I am, during my lunch break and I start to listen to a part of Anthony Robbins' "How to End Financial Self Sabotage."

He starts off describing how people feel about money versus what they were taught. For the most part, you would say you feel great about money. But, what you were taught is mostly negative; ie. money isn't everything, money is the root of all evil. He then creates an association that makes sense. He asks you to write all of the things you would do if you had an abundance of money. Then, he asks you to write how you would feel if you had an abundance of money. Now associate these feelings with the list of things you would do if you had an abundance of money. What he did was replace your fears and excuses with positive emotions. To not change, would be insanity. If I do nothing, I will spend less time with my family, travel less, and will be unfulfilled in my career. Who would sign up for that? Apparently, most of us do.

What I really took away from his talk was having your fear work for you, not against you. I never thought about it that way. I always thought being extremely successful was a pipe dream. It only existed online or a friend of a friend who lived in another state. It never seemed real or tangible, like an urban legend. Listening to this hasn't made me regret all of my decisions in life. But, I think this a great starting point in turning things around.

Since following these simple steps, I am now a millionaire. I'm rich beyond my wildest dreams, and... No, not really. This is just something I've been thinking about for some time. How fear affects people's lives, more selfishly my life. What Tony Robbins talked about opened my eyes to a different perspective. Typically we are reactive to fear. Instead, we can use this emotion to push us to do what we want to do with our life. Don't fear change, fear what you have been doing with your life that has made you so miserable.