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David Valdes Greenwood
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David Valdes Greenwood is a nonfiction author and playwright.



Valdes Greenwood has written about same-sex marriage and parenting for the Boston Globe and AOL, and in his book Homo Domesticus: Notes from a Same-Sex Marriage, the first memoir of legal same-sex marriage. His other nonfiction includes The Rhinestone Sisterhood and A Little Fruitcake. He is a Huntington Theatre Company Playwriting Fellow whose work has been produced throughout the United States and in the United Kingdom.

With an MFA from Emerson College, David has been teaching writing and film-related courses for 20 years; currently, he is a Lecturer in English at Tufts University. But his own education continues at home, where his daughter keeps her two dads on their toes.

To find out more about David’s work, visit him at www.davidvaldesgreenwood.com .

Entries by David Valdes Greenwood

Talking Back to the Test: A Third Grader Speaks Up

(4) Comments | Posted April 7, 2014 | 2:04 PM

Over family dinner one recent night, as we all talked about our days, my daughter, not yet 9, casually mentioned that she had told her entire class something about the MCAS -- our state's version of the standardized tests that public school students are required to take. This is what...

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Unbroken: What I Learned Doing My Daughter's Hair

(1) Comments | Posted February 12, 2014 | 1:18 PM

When I was a boy, I had glossy hair cut into straight-across bangs intended to mimic the look of Dorothy Hamill, a figure skater I adored. Though I'm mixed-ethnicity Cuban-American, my hair seemed genetically more Mayflower than raft-by-night. No matter what inglorious style I tried, from mullet and to nape-length...

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Is Frozen the Family Movie of the Year? One Dad Says Yes

(5) Comments | Posted December 3, 2013 | 5:15 PM

Over the course of this year, I've seen a half dozen movies with my daughter. From the bad -- yes, Free Birds, I mean you -- to the somewhat misbegotten (did anyone involved in Despicable Me II read it before it was assembled?), I've sat by...

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Why I Secretly Hoped a Dog Would Bite My Child

(26) Comments | Posted November 14, 2013 | 11:58 AM

The two smallest beings in my household -- my daughter Lily, age 8, and our miniature Schnauzer, Otto von Mustache, age 2 -- were having a moment. Otto had been indulgently letting Lily rub his stomach, despite the awkward position she'd cornered him into, and then she decided to play...

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Teed Off: Father's Day Cards I'd Love to See But Won't

(8) Comments | Posted June 13, 2013 | 12:10 PM

See dad play golf! See dad drink beer! See dad smoke!

See Papa roll his eyes.

The Father's Day offerings in most greeting card stores reveal a painful dearth of imagination and shockingly old-school views of men. It borders on being physically painful for me to cruise the racks...

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Epic: Little Lessons and a Big Body Count

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2013 | 6:21 PM

Epic would seem to have it all: high-speed chases for thrill-seekers and a love story for romantics, environmental themes for tree-huggers and enough battle scenes to make the NRA proud (even if the weapons are made of flora), plus an easy-to-follow plot for the kids, spiced up with occasionally risqué...

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A Family Anywhere: What More Gay Marriage Means to My Daughter

(1) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 3:14 PM

My husband and I got legally married because we were knocked up. Ok, that's technically impossible, but in some ways, it was true: we had decided to start the adoption process and wanted to do all we could to safeguard our future family. Little did we know when we said...

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We're All Innocent Bystanders: Healing After the Marathon

(2) Comments | Posted April 17, 2013 | 10:42 AM

On Patriot's Day weekend 2006, I was one of those people the press calls "an innocent bystander." By random chance, I was swept up in a series of events that began with two murders and climaxed in a SWAT team operation ending in a suicide. I returned home many hours...

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Why Kids Should (Or Shouldn't) See The Croods

(15) Comments | Posted April 5, 2013 | 11:50 AM

Note: This is the first in an ongoing series of family-fare movie reviews written for parents. Reviews will appear here on the Huffington Post and on Screendad.com.

Oh dad, poor dad. And mom, don't forget her, even if Dreamwork's new caveman flick, The Croods, does....

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Gay Family in the House: A Letter to President Obama

(45) Comments | Posted January 20, 2013 | 10:27 PM

Dear President Obama:

My family is coming to see your family. You might not be able to spot us easily -- after all, how could you distinguish our three upturned faces from the million others that will stretch down the National Mall? But that's OK: We're not expecting you to...

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October Surprise: A Gay Man, His Mother and the Vote

(13) Comments | Posted October 29, 2012 | 4:58 PM

It was an October day much like today when I found out how divided my mother and I were, the size of the gap between the woman who raised me and the family I have now made for myself. It was 2009, and same-sex marriage was on the ballot in...

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The Bully in the BFF

(39) Comments | Posted September 29, 2012 | 11:20 AM

In the movies, the word "bully" is embodied by a thuggish boy with greasy hair, bad skin, a dim look in his eyes, lips that curl into a sneer and no parents in sight. His outsized physical attributes allow him to make compelling threats about the harm he just might...

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The Magic Backpack: 5 Must-Haves for Every Student

(3) Comments | Posted August 29, 2012 | 4:21 PM

Parents of school-aged children often receive somewhat Byzantine lists of back-to-school supplies that they must send in with their child: this particular pencil and those particular markers, notebooks designed with the precise number and configuration of pockets, and onward down the page. But for all the functional objects schools might...

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5 Ways To Avoid Family Vacations From Hell

(102) Comments | Posted July 9, 2012 | 12:54 PM

Last summer, three short days on the Maine coast with my family proved long enough to allow for copious tears, universal sleep deprivation, heated arguments and at least one meltdown (not, mind you, of a child) in a pancake restaurant. Scarred as we were from the experience, what...

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What I Know About Fatherhood Now That I'm One of Two Dads

(8) Comments | Posted June 15, 2012 | 3:47 PM

When our daughter clears her own dishes from the table without being reminded but has to leap over the abandoned Hello Kitty backpack in the middle of the kitchen floor to do so, I have to bite my tongue so that I don't fall into the trap of criticizing the...

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Who Are The 'Real' Parents? An Adoptive Dad's Answer

(6) Comments | Posted May 23, 2012 | 1:20 PM

When our daughter told my husband that he was the best Lego castle-builder, he replied, not very seriously, "Is that what you tell your friends -- that I'm better at Legos and Papa's better at playing Monster High?"

She gave him a perplexed look. "No one asks about my...

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Summer is Over! (Well, Almost): The Mad Dash for Summer Camps and Classes

(0) Comments | Posted April 4, 2012 | 2:33 PM

I stayed up till after midnight last night to handle a crisis.

To put my behavior in context, let me point out that I'm the kind of guy who DVRs my favorite 10 PM TV show, because I know if I tried to watch it live, the credits would...

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You Can't Un-Hurry Love: When Crushes Start Early

(9) Comments | Posted February 11, 2012 | 12:53 AM

My daughter calmly informed me that she'd broken up with her boyfriend Miles. I asked how Miles had taken the news, and she shrugged, "I didn't tell him Papa; I just did it." This is all fine, of course, because he didn't know they were dating to begin with. And...

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"They Shot Him, Papa!": Finding Smarter Ways to Talk to Kids About Diversity

(719) Comments | Posted January 12, 2012 | 2:40 PM

Teaching children about diversity can be a tricky proposition. In the "No Child Left Behind" era, so much time is devoted to preparing students for test-taking that old school subjects like good citizenship, social behavior, and community values may get short shrift. (There is, after all, no standardized...

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Mean Girls, The Starter Edition

(67) Comments | Posted December 10, 2011 | 9:40 AM

Our daughter startled us at the table one recent night by saying that she and a friend were playing a trick on two of their other friends. When we questioned what this meant, she brightly replied that they were going to make the other girls think they didn't like them...

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