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Is Your Love Life Worthy of Valentines Day?

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I want you to look at that phrase. Your love life is a direct reflection of your self-worth. I want you to think about this for a second. I want you to look at your love life, whether you're in a relationship, whether you're dating, whether you're married -- whatever it may be -- and I want you to ask yourself if the person you're with reflects how you feel about yourself.

So many of us stay in relationships when we're not happy. We want to leave, but we don't think we deserve to be happy deep down. We don't feel like there's anybody better for us, so we settle for somebody that is so wrong for us in so many different ways.

Be honest. The person you're with is a true reflection of what you think about yourself. If you truly honor yourself, if you believe that you are an amazing gift, if you truly feel that you're worth somebody that is special and if you feel that you deserve to have a great relationship, then you wouldn't stay in a bad one.

I know some of you are thinking right now, "But we have kids, we have a house together, we have things together." It doesn't matter. You've got one shot at this thing called life! You have no idea what's going to happen, whether we get reincarnated, whether we all come back as dogs, moths or just dirt. You don't know. We all have different viewpoints on different things, and different belief systems. But when it comes down to love and dating and relationships, your love life is a direct reflection of your self-worth.

Let's go to the people out there who are dating right now. You truly believe that there are no good people for you in this world where you're living. So guess what happens, you probably won't find anybody. You probably meet that same type of person over and over again -- you know, the one that disappoints you.

See, my whole ideology when it comes down to dating is based around the strong belief that I am the gift. I believe there are incredible people for me. I don't care where I live -- I know there are great people for me. And live that attitude. I am having a great love life meeting other people that feel the same way, other people that know who they are, other people that love who they are, other people that embrace who they are.

Your love life is a direct reflection of your self-worth.

If you're down in the dumps, you're not going to meet anybody. But if you're feeling amazing, your energy will show to everybody, and people will be lined up to meet you.

Try it today. I challenge every single one of you to look in the mirror and ask yourself a question, "Am I with the right partner? Am I going about dating the right way? Am I truly in love with the person I'm with?"

Valentine's Day is right around the corner. Let's make this a Valentine's Day where we figure out the truth about where we are and what we're all about. I've got a new book out called Naked!. It's all about discovering yourself, presenting who you are -- the real self -- to everybody and really cutting through all the ridiculous lies that are told about dating and relationships. It's about stripping yourself bare, stripping yourself naked, and exposing everything and who you are. You need to check it out.

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