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Texting: The New Intimacy or the End Of Romance?

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Attention all technology-dependent single women: Make up your mind.

In my seminars with women, I always get this same question: "Why do men just want to text?" They always ask me why no man ever wants to pick up the phone and call anymore. They complain non-stop about men never calling and asking them out on dates. But, here's what's funny: In a lot of the emails I get from male clients, I get a very similar question: "How do I get a woman to pick up the phone?"

Ladies, make up your mind.

You say that you want a man to call you, but when he does, do you text him back?

Look, I'm as old school as they come; I'm a big proponent of men calling women and asking them out, and I tell men to do that in all my programs.

But even then, I get emails from guys saying, "David, I listened to your program, it was absolutely wonderful. So I called this woman up just like you suggested, but all she does is text me -- no return calls, nothing."

Ladies, make up your mind.

What do you really want? Do you really want a guy to call or just the guys you really like?

You see, I think you do want a guy to call and ask you out, but I think you only want the guy to call and ask you out after you've already been out with him a few times.

Let's be honest: Say you meet a guy on the Internet, and you give out a phone number, but you really don't want to talk to him, you would rather just go meet him face-to-face and see if you have any chemistry -- you don't want to talk to him on the phone until you know he's worth the time.

Because let's face it, in today's crazy world, we seem to always save our phone moments for people that are worthy of it.

So, let's get the debate going today. Do you really want a guy to call you, or do you only want him to call you after you get to know him?

Because let me tell you something: I'm the messenger. I will get your message out to all the men in the world -- I promise.

When I coach them, I will tell them what you've said. I will make sure that they date you like you want to be dated.

But you've got to make up your mind.

So pass this article around to all your friends and let's get this universal debate figured out once and for all.