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The #1 Post-Divorce Decision

Posted: 07/24/2012 12:30 pm

What do you think your biggest life decision is?

Is it the job you choose? Is it where you live? Is it where you raise your children?

No.

The biggest life decision that you will make is whom you're going to have a relationship with. The person you choose for your life partner is the person who's going to determine whether or not you lead a happy, stress-free, amazing life or a shitty one.

A lot of you are divorced, so you know exactly what I'm talking about here.

Many of you reading this right now have been through a divorce, and you realize that the choices you made and the person you decided to marry caused a slight downfall in your life.

Your home is your castle. Your home is the one place that will really make you feel whole again.

You can be immensely stressed at the office, but if you come back to a peaceful home -- a home that's full of love, nourishment, and understanding -- you can recharge your batteries emotionally, mentally and physically.

You can go to sleep at night knowing that you're in a safe place, and it doesn't really matter what happens at work because the home front really determines how happy and fulfilled your life is going to be.

You know what I'm talking about. A lot of you have been through divorces that were just miserable.

A lot of clients that I've worked with over the years have gone through divorces that have been brutal. They've experienced years and years of fighting, and their home was in no way a peaceful, loving environment.

I encourage you to look in the mirror and realize that you have another chance to do this all again. You have another chance to create happiness in your home.

You have the chance to go out and meet somebody spectacular, but only when you know what you want, desire and need from a relationship are you most likely to find it.

Most people repeat the same relationships over and over again until they finally feel so much pain that they vow to never do it again.

A healthy, happy, amazing relationship is what you're questing for, and it's the reason you got divorced.

So when you're out there dating again, I strongly suggest that you know what your needs, wants and desires are -- it's the only way to attract that amazing, loving, powerful relationship you deserve.

 

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What do you think your biggest life decision is? Is it the job you choose? Is it where you live? Is it where you raise your children? No. The biggest life decision that you will make is whom you...
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05:07 PM on 08/24/2012
David
Easier said than done. After being blindsided by my ex attorney husband who told me to wait on my 23rd anniversary for something special with my 2 daughters 7 & 11..we were anticipating jewelry or at the very least flowers.. a knock a the door from the sheriff with a divorce petition. to top it off I drove frantically to every bank $800.00000 gone. $75,000.00 gone. $158,000.00 gone. $8,000.00 gone. Phone calls blocked at Law office and on cell phone. How does one not let anger not get in the way occasionally?
10:40 PM on 07/31/2012
I was really excited to see a new marriage page on HuffPo - but why are so many of the articles on divorce?
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thebarbecuemast
bbqmaster,physician,hiker
07:18 AM on 07/31/2012
great article after five year of being single and bitter i am ebtertaining the fact of getting married again this time i will be very careful its no giodto be alone but worse too be with someone who is your enemy in bed except when you are having sex-sex is not everything soul mates is important
http://www.thebarbecuemaster.net/bbqlove.html
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05:50 PM on 07/30/2012
Nope no prenup. None needed. I have everything I want and had the house before I got married. Smart move on my part. Never again though. I don't have kids, which it makes easier during the divorce proceedings
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ajustman
04:49 PM on 07/30/2012
Love is blind !!
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ajustman
04:48 PM on 07/30/2012
After divorce you can have some of the best sex in your life. The best people are still married and will remain that way
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Silver Star
10:11 AM on 09/13/2012
So are you advocating having affairs with married people?
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ajustman
08:25 PM on 09/13/2012
If you are say 40 years old and are thinking about a divorce rather than that just have a discreet affair with no strings attached and get past the divorce scenario. I would recommend an affair over a divorce anyday
04:04 PM on 07/30/2012
married today divorced tomorrow . Give me a settlement so I can go look for another person. . What is wrong witth 25 to 50 years of marrage these days. Not all days are easy
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harkone75
It is never right to do wrong to do right
03:53 PM on 07/30/2012
The leading cause of Divorce is Marriage, that should tell you something.
03:22 PM on 07/30/2012
Or be single and happy! :)
jgrant129
aut viam inveniam aut faciam
04:15 PM on 07/30/2012
No kidding. I came very close to getting married 3 times and at the last minute, common sense (or blind luck) kicked in and saved me from 3 disasters. Most of my friends are on wife #2 or #3 and still aren't happy. I enjoy pretty much every day of my life!
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equestriancool
02:55 PM on 07/30/2012
Yeah you can recharge your battery, but when your children leave, you are stuck with the house and all the problems that come with maintaining a large house and not being able to sell it. My suggestion to any woman that gets married, prior to your marriage save your money in your own account, if you own a home, sell it after the divorce because it will only cost you out the ying yang when the repairs start coming up, i.e., a/c unit breaks, leaking roof, etc., you know what I mean. Just look out for yourself. I was with my man for 22 years and have learned a lot and I can guarantee I will never, ever get married again.
02:51 PM on 07/30/2012
...... and you know all of this how ?

Tomario
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Navy vet for a strong 3rd party
02:44 PM on 07/30/2012
And Gay people want to legalize a failed hetero institution...why?
drstan1
retired dentist
02:30 PM on 07/30/2012
as a retired d.d.s,my vast majority of my married patients were miserable about their marriages,a very difficult way of life,,i didnt want to defy the odds got out while the getting was good,3 years of serenity,was heart attack prevention decade.all is fine
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thebarbecuemast
bbqmaster,physician,hiker
07:22 AM on 07/31/2012
i agree if i had stayed married to a nasty spouse she would have killed me shre lied to me about having kids and i was not going to stay married to a liar i would do anything to make her happy bought s ring from tiffinanys in the blue box she loved it but she was a cold and uncaring person ,sex was great but no warmth bo bbqlove http://www.thebarbecuemaster.net/bbqlove.html
drstan1
retired dentist
02:24 PM on 07/30/2012
im not married because i dont like to be told what to do,2 toxic marriages(40 years),were enough,,my serenity and sanity are most important to me
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ajustman
04:41 PM on 07/30/2012
women do like to tell men what to do and how to do it
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thebarbecuemast
bbqmaster,physician,hiker
07:35 AM on 07/31/2012
when the sex is great most men will do anything the women says and vice versa
drstan1
retired dentist
02:12 PM on 07/30/2012
trust,my wife misrepresented herself,lied about college,and went on to lie about everything else,lies in bed 18-20 hours/day,no interests,no friends no job,dog been paper trained 4 years,never walked,,i walked,great on my own,best 3 years of my life,no stress,love my solitude carefree life
03:14 PM on 07/30/2012
good for you lifes too short to be miserable