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Debbie Martinez, M.A.
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Debbie Martinez, M.A. is a certified mindful life coach who specializes in divorce. She coaches clients on how to avoid the breakup backlash and live better, not bitter. As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator trained in collaborative divorce, Debbie gives clients the tools they need to successfully untie the knot and “stand strong” in the wake of adversity. She brings her formal training and life experience into her coaching practice to empower and educate clients through their divorce journey and onto new beginnings.

Debbie received an MA from the University of South Florida in education and was a Behavior Specialist for the school system for five years before becoming a consultant in a private practice. As an expert in her field, Debbie has given workshops and lectures and published articles on various topics pertaining to divorce, women’s issues and relationships. Her column can be found in The Florida Villager. Debbie is a firm believer in giving back to the community and is involved with various charitable organizations in the Miami area where she resides with her two children.

Entries by Debbie Martinez, M.A.

Lessons Learned Through Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted November 16, 2014 | 2:09 AM

The statistics are numbing -- 50 percent of marriages end in front of a judge. The Big D is not pretty and certainly takes its toll on all concerned, even the dog, but it still is not the doom and gloom that people portray. How is it that some people...

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The Death of a Dream

(0) Comments | Posted October 22, 2014 | 6:50 PM

I found myself through the course of the day stopping and looking around whatever room I happened to be in and think, "How will I ever be able to emotionally detach from my home?" "How will I help my children and their sadness when I myself am crying behind closed...

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Tips for Navigating the School Year With Your Ex Spouse

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 11:25 AM

Navigating the school year is tough enough, but when you are divorced and trying to co-parent with an uncooperative ex spouse, your job as the primary parent gets even more difficult and stressful. Here are some tips to lessen the stress of dealing with your ex:

1. Make sure the...

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Dating Boundaries: The Line in the Sand

(0) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 4:22 PM

Ah, that proverbial line in the sand. You know the one? The one we all draw in relationships. The problem here is that the line keeps getting erased and redrawn closer and closer to the water's edge and then we wonder why at some point we find ourselves drowning.


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The Blame Game

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 4:22 PM

When a marriage falls apart, we automatically look for someone to blame and for someone to direct all that anger, that rage, onto. Who stole my husband/wife, my financial security, my heart and my dream from me? The problem is we created a long time ago just how we wanted...

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Finally Forgive

(1) Comments | Posted May 1, 2014 | 11:08 AM

When every fiber in your body wants to hold onto the anger, pain and resentment, take a deep breath, step back, and then move forward toward forgiveness. Forgiveness is the only path to being free, at peace, and able to fully love again. People would say it's the only way...

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Limits or Limitless?

(0) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 10:36 AM

I want to talk about limits. As women/mothers, we get divorced and all of a sudden we have limits. The scary thing is, these are self-imposed limits. Just because we are divorced, all of a sudden parts of the world are shut off from us? "Oh no, I couldn't possibly...

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Breaking Free

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 4:05 PM

Once upon a time there was a woman who believed that love could conquer all. Then one day, her husband left her for another and the man who then entered her life claiming to be her knight in shining armor turned out to be adept at deceit himself.

With her...

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Forgiveness is Forever

(6) Comments | Posted March 19, 2014 | 4:14 PM

"Yeah, right! Are you serious?" I hear it all the time from hurt, betrayed and emotionally abused clients who crave to move on but continue to carry their steamer trunks of resentment, anger, revenge and hate around with them. When I ask if they have worked on forgiveness, they look...

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Ex Wives' Bill of Rights

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 2:30 PM

Preamble: We, the ex wives of America, having walked through the fires of Hell, now stand united and empowered in our new life. We move forward into uncharted territory with the promise to transform ourselves into the best women possible and therefore ordain and establish the Ex Wives' Bill of...

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Accepting Where You Are

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 2:41 PM

One day after my own divorce, I was walking the beach when my thoughts wandered to the question, "How did my life get so off track?" It was at that moment I realized my life wasn't off track at all, I was exactly where I needed to be at this...

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Perspective Is Everything in 2014

(0) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 6:11 PM

What do we do the most of? We Think. We think about what to wear, what we have to do next, what we will have for dinner, but along with those common daily thoughts, we not only think but also rethink negative, self-defeating thoughts. How and what we think is...

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My New Year's Resolution

(0) Comments | Posted January 10, 2014 | 12:02 PM

Ah, New Year's, where everyone grabs a sheet of paper and writes down resolutions; words that after a few weeks lose their intensity. Yes, I include myself in the masses, but this year I but one resolution: to not look back.

I realized as the dawn of 2014 set in,...

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A Divorce Life Lesson

(1) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 1:08 PM

Nothing is more depressing than going through the holiday season single. Nothing brings back the pain of a breakup better than the holidays. Decorating the tree and shopping just seems so much more joyful when you are doing it with someone by your side. Well, I would like to share...

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Walk Thru the Fire of Fear

(0) Comments | Posted November 17, 2013 | 1:25 PM

Divorce can be a time when every emotion comes to the surface and one of them is fear. Fear of the unknown, being a single woman/man again, being a single parent, finances, change of homes, routine, status, and who we are. Everyone who has walked the path of divorce remembers...

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Moving on and Moving Up

(0) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 3:09 PM


There is a plethora of advice that family and friends are more than willing to give once the judge signs your divorce decree, and the across-the-board mantra seems to be, "Move on." That being said, there is so much more to starting your...

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Rediscovering Your Sexuality After Divorce

(23) Comments | Posted November 4, 2013 | 5:18 PM

When people think sexuality they think sex and body image, but there is so much more to sexuality than those two things. Sexuality is about you as a whole. In order to rediscover your sexuality after divorce, you first must rediscover who you are.

Sex and sexuality are often confused;...

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Is Divorce Right for You?

(36) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 8:10 PM

Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the king's horses and all the king's men,
Couldn't put Humpty together again.

Is this how you are feeling about your marriage? Are there just too many pieces to sort through and glue...

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The 5 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Considering a Divorce

(95) Comments | Posted October 15, 2013 | 5:00 PM

"Till death do us part" doesn't seem to be the mantra these days; instead, attorneys are on speed dial. Divorce is a very emotional time and mistakes -- big mistakes -- can be made when one's mind is clouded with anger, bitterness and sadness. When considering the Big D, it...

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