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Debbie Martinez, M.A.
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Debbie Martinez, M.A. is a certified mindful life coach who specializes in divorce, premarital coaching and relationships. As a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator trained in collaborative divorce, Debbie gives clients the tools they need to successfully untie the knot and “stand strong” in the wake of adversity. She brings her formal training and life experience into her coaching practice to empower and educate clients through their journey and onto new beginnings.

Debbie received an MA from the University of South Florida in education and was a Behavior Specialist for the school system for five years before becoming a consultant in a private practice. As an expert in her field, Debbie has given workshops and lectures and published articles on various topics pertaining to divorce, women’s issues and relationships. Her column can be found in The Florida Villager. She resides in the Charleston, SC area.

Entries by Debbie Martinez, M.A.

An Inspirational Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted June 20, 2016 | 5:16 PM

If you have ever gotten divorced, you will always remember that moment in time when you realized your life was changing forever. I do. I remember where I was standing when that fateful text came through on his phone and I saw it. I remember the ground opening up in...

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De-Stress Your Kids and Yourself During Back to School

(0) Comments | Posted June 8, 2016 | 9:39 AM

It's hard to believe the lazy days of summer are close at hand and with that comes the ushering in of the back to school blues. Here is how it typically goes... a couple of weeks before the beginning of school, the kids start moaning and groaning about school starting...

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There's Always a Next, Never an Only

(0) Comments | Posted May 20, 2016 | 12:56 PM

In life there are changes, so instead of wallowing in them, choose to embrace those changes. With change comes amazing opportunities; opportunities to grow emotionally, spiritually, physically and to acquire a new perspective. The problem is not the problem but our reaction to our perceived problem. See, lots of times...

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The Art Scene in Charleston, S.C. Deserves More Than a Peek

(2) Comments | Posted April 27, 2016 | 8:12 AM

Tired of the same old, same old of Miami's art galleries? Art Basel too big and impersonal for you? Well, honey child, treat your senses to a place that is not too far from home and absolutely amazing. The art gallery scene in Charleston, S.C. awaits you.

So, a girl...

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Mirror, Mirror -- What Reflection Do You Want to See Post Divorce?

(0) Comments | Posted April 22, 2016 | 5:53 PM

You lost yourself in your marriage and now you're faced with losing yourself after divorce. While you were married, you turned yourself into what your spouse wanted, what your children needed and how society says a married person is supposed to be. Now the ink has dried on your divorce...

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The Abacos - Paradise With or Without a Boat

(0) Comments | Posted April 6, 2016 | 5:57 PM

They say ignorance is bliss, but in this case I was missing out on a whole new experience. I have always thought that to enjoy the Bahamas you had to own a boat. Living in Miami, talk of the Bahamas is like saying you're going to Publix (a local grocery...

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It's Not Fair and Other Fairy Tales

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2016 | 2:31 PM

I want to talk about the "It's Not Fair" syndrome. When people get divorced, it's very rare that they both move on in the same way at the same pace. There is always one that appears to be living la vida loca while the other struggles. One ex seems to...

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There's More to Nashville Than Country Music

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2016 | 10:45 AM

To all my faithful followers, all I can say is, "My boots are packed and I'm moving to Nashville!" Well, not really, but let me share with you what has led to this yearning.

Having been a late bloomer to the love of country music, I...

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Dating in the Real World

(0) Comments | Posted January 27, 2016 | 4:20 PM

I had a client the other day that was dealing with some dating issues and as I sat there brainstorming with her, I had déjà vu. I had heard this story several times before and I want to share with you the results of our session.


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Life's Lessons

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2015 | 3:13 PM

The summer my dad passed away, as he lay there in his final days, he taught me some life lessons in his silence. As I spent silent hour upon silent hour at his bedside, I thought of that old cliché about life being too short. As I pondered that particular...

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Words of Wisdom on Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted November 3, 2015 | 9:18 AM

The other day I came across my journals from when I was going through my divorce. It was a very sad, contentious, stressful and emotionally taxing time as evidenced by the words I read on those pages. I remembered some, but not all, that I had written seven years before....

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A Divorce Inventory List

(1) Comments | Posted October 20, 2015 | 6:21 PM

Going through my divorce I was inundated with lists. I had to make an inventory list of household items, a list of what I wanted in the divorce, inventory the safety deposit box and the list goes on... literally. Sadly, I was never told to make an inventory list of...

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10 Questions to Ask Yourself Through a Divorce

(2) Comments | Posted October 1, 2015 | 3:38 PM

"The only questions that really matter are the ones you ask yourself." -- Ursula Le Guin

Having been through a divorce, I know the all too familiar feelings of disorganization, helplessness, confusion and always second guessing yourself. Thoughts can be exhausting when they are all over the place. Here are...

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Divorce and Unfulfilled Dreams

(0) Comments | Posted September 24, 2015 | 4:51 PM

In my practice I see women everyday that have had to let go of their dreams due to divorce and search for new ones. A common thread in all of this is happiness. "Is it possible to be happy when you still have unfulfilled dreams?" My answer to them is...

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8 Dating Pitfalls Divorced Moms Should Avoid

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 11:10 AM

Getting your mojo back after being married can be fun, frustrating, worrisome and confusing. Being excited with new prospects and your newfound freedom can cloud decisions and come across the wrong way, especially to men that are not in the same place as you.

Here are a few pitfalls...

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Feeling Stuck After the Big D?

(0) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 8:14 AM

Do you ever feel like you're stuck? Nothing is moving in the direction you'd like it to? As a matter of fact, you feel like you are moving backward instead of forward? Your frustration level increases by the day because no matter what you do, nothing is clicking.

Have you...

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Lessons Learned Through Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted November 16, 2014 | 1:09 AM

The statistics are numbing -- 50 percent of marriages end in front of a judge. The Big D is not pretty and certainly takes its toll on all concerned, even the dog, but it still is not the doom and gloom that people portray. How is it that some people...

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The Death of a Dream

(0) Comments | Posted October 22, 2014 | 5:50 PM

I found myself through the course of the day stopping and looking around whatever room I happened to be in and think, "How will I ever be able to emotionally detach from my home?" "How will I help my children and their sadness when I myself am crying behind closed...

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Tips for Navigating the School Year With Your Ex Spouse

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 10:25 AM

Navigating the school year is tough enough, but when you are divorced and trying to co-parent with an uncooperative ex spouse, your job as the primary parent gets even more difficult and stressful. Here are some tips to lessen the stress of dealing with your ex:

1. Make sure the...

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Dating Boundaries: The Line in the Sand

(0) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 3:22 PM

Ah, that proverbial line in the sand. You know the one? The one we all draw in relationships. The problem here is that the line keeps getting erased and redrawn closer and closer to the water's edge and then we wonder why at some point we find ourselves drowning.


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