Anyone who has read any of my writing knows I don't go for things like: ten ways to be happy now, or, do these three things and you'll get everything you have always wanted out of life. The reason being is I think humans are complex, and finding and pursuing a state of well-being is a life-long commitment without easy answers. But there are general concepts that I believe every person working towards a better life should consider adopting and/or remembering:
- A Sense Of Purpose We all need that "thing" which gets us up in the morning and keeps our hearts and brains going even when the going gets tough. We all have a core within which is the gas that keeps our engines going. The problem is sometimes we get so lost between what society, parents and friends think and expect of us, we lose touch with our ultimate purpose. Finding, reconnecting and embracing our purpose translates into huge leaps towards a more fulfilling life. Viktor Frankl wrote beautifully on the subject. If you haven't read his book Man's Search For Meaning pick up a copy now.
- Living in the Present
Anyone who thinks "I'm going to be happy when..." I get the job, the money, the relationship I deserve is in for a big surprise. Life seldom works as planned. Something always comes out of left field and postponing being satisfied today for a future that may or may not happen seem like a waste of life. Let's live in the present and enjoy the relationships, job and money we have today.
- Make Sure There Are Things On a Daily Basis That Bring You Wellness
That's so simple to do. We all have some easy, inexpensive, simple things we can do that can bring a smile to our faces. Is that sitting in the park for ten minutes? Calling a loved one and really being present in the conversation instead of going through a to-do list? A warm bath? A candle light dinner? A romp with a dog? A romp? Whatever that "thing" is for each one of us, sprinkling these activities a couple of times or even once during the course of our day will affect our mood and ultimately our well-being.
Relationships are like flowers (sorry for being corny here) and if we don't tend to them they will wither and die. How many articles, books and movies have been made about a person who dedicates his or her life to achieving goals to only be completely miserable because of not having anyone to share the success with? We are social beings. We need each other to survive both physically and psychologically. There have been many studies that have stated one of the main qualities found in people living long lives is being part of a group. Sharing our lives with others make us feel part of something and feeds our hearts.
Check out this very interesting TED talk by Dan Buettner discusses the topic of longevity here.
- Give Some Of You To Someone Else Helping others with our time and energy, places us up high in the animal chain. We all want to feel we are contributing to the betterment of this world. Any gesture, small, medium, or large, will do the trick.
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