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Down With "The Talk"!: What Would a New Paradigm Look and Feel Like? (Part 4 of 4)

(1) Comments | Posted October 8, 2012 | 5:29 PM

Here's the point all of us need to recognize: The "how to's" of nurturing sexually healthy children are precisely the same as the "how to's" of nurturing healthy children, period. Instead of treating sexuality as separate and different, we need simply to treat it the same, by reconnecting and integrating...

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Down With "The Talk"!: "Where Did I Come From?" Is Not a Question About Sex (Part 3 of 4)

(0) Comments | Posted October 3, 2012 | 2:28 PM

And neither is the answer.

Here's how fifth graders almost universally define sex: "Well, a man puts (or sticks) his penis inside a woman's vagina (or hole) and the sperm comes out and finds the egg and egg goes to the uterus and grows for nine months and then...

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Down With "The Talk"!: Changing the Narratives We Tell Ourselves About Talking to the Kids about Sex (Part 1 of 4)

(0) Comments | Posted September 25, 2012 | 12:41 PM

The publishing business surely has changed since I wrote my first book for parents about raising sexually healthy children more than a decade ago, after thirty years of teaching kids and parents. With a new book just out, I've spent weeks "on tour" in US locations from Boston to Baton...

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Down With "The Talk"!: Reclaiming Our Common Sense About Sex (Part 2 of 4)

(0) Comments | Posted August 1, 2012 | 7:13 PM

To shed anxiety-driven notions about talking to children about sex, we adults need simply to identify and revisit the maladaptive associations we absorbed early in life and use our "we're all grown up now" good sense and perspective to whack them apart.

So here goes:

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Teen Sexuality: Sex as Sport and Girls as Game

(14) Comments | Posted June 22, 2010 | 1:00 PM

As reported recently in the Washington Post, yet another "boys treating girls really badly" scandal has erupted, this latest one involving rising ninth graders at a prestigious boys' school near DC.

A year ago, apparently, the students in question concocted a crude and disgusting new version of fantasy sports,...

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The Puritans are Dead: Long Live the Puritans?

(1) Comments | Posted February 18, 2010 | 9:19 AM

The time has come to face an embarrassing truth, America: It's 2010 now, and sex education in the United States is still rooted in the early 17th Century.

As a sexuality educator for nearly 40 years, I've grown suddenly impatient. I'm declaring a New Decade's Resolution: By the year...

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