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The Fabric of Our Lives

Posted: 02/ 7/2012 4:15 pm

As a child I use to marvel the 1968 motion picture Funny Girl. One of the things that most stood out for me in this movie was the song Barbara Streisand introduced by the name of "People," often known by the line in the chorus "People, people who need people are the luckiest people in the world". Forty-four years have gone by, but I still remember that song for many reasons. One of these is the deep-rooted notion that we are never alone in this world, furthermore that we depend on others for more that just mere survival.

Our emotions are the windows through which we perceive the world abroad. Those emotions come to fruition and are delivered to us by way of our experiences with those around us. Many of us are unaware of the correlation between our emotions and how that which exists deep within our hearts has a tangible effect on the world we create. Unbeknownst to us, we allow fear to get in our way. We keep ourselves at bay from our own feelings and create a safe distance with others. We take one another for granted, and far too many times we seem to ignore that we in fact thrive by each other's kinship, even when our interactions create internal conflict. We often dismiss a genuine connection with those who we believe have diverse life philosophies. This in turn makes for greater separation and persistent conflict. It is baffling to see how our sense of entitlement has made us forget that others share this space we have come to know as earth.

In the 12 years I've spent learning about consciousness and self-transformation, I have discovered that conflict is nothing more than an entrenched view, a perception creating friction within our thought processes. When we take a moment to observe the "why?" of our personal resistance, what is called forward is our desire to evolve and effectively position our mind into considering a change or an expansion of our narrow views. Perceptions are illusions; they don't always hold water to the truth. They must be consciously contempleated while challenging our own mind.

When we stand back to look at life with our wider peripheral lenses, we find that these awkward moments of conflict in all reality are gifts. Conflicts bring along precious opportunities for us to crack open out of our shells and expose our authentic self. Life is like a mysterious orchestra, offering note after note, beckoning us to join in its well-written rhapsody. We will never see or hear how it constantly intercepts our every move, if we lack awareness.

People do need people; we comprise the real "fabric of our lives." It is up to us to work with one another in creating unity by understanding what we share in common, as opposed to focusing on defining the boundaries of what makes us different. How we embrace our connectedness in the long run affects our own reality, both as individuals, as well as at large. The sooner we come to this realization, the quicker we are able to fall in sync with our life's purpose and find fulfillment. If we are to survive the challenges of our changing world, we must trust ourselves, open our hearts and bond with others through the real experiences enriching our spirits. Only then will we rise to the call of our true nature, "as we walk in the fields of gold."

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