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Why Is Everybody Always Pickin' on Me?

Posted: 05/25/2012 12:24 pm

If at any point in your life you have felt like everyone is always picking on you, then the following words are just for you.

Over the last 12 years I have spoken to many folks whose facial expression gives away their bewilderment when I say, "You get out of life what you put in." Furthermore, I am looked at funny when I dare to state that what gets in their way constitutes a "belief." I have been surprised to find how many people associate the word "belief" with a religious or dogmatic belief, never once making a connection that beliefs come in a variety of flavors. These flavors are traditionally hand-selected by us during our formative years. We consent to these beliefs and put them in place, unbeknownst to our own conscious mind.

When we step out to play in the big game of life, from time to time we find roadblocks, some unwanted bumps on the road that create friction. In all reality, that friction is the result of whatever flavor of belief you previously selected as being incompatible with the present moment, "the now." It is in those instances when the universe comes out to rescue us with a mirror, offering an opportunity to look at whatever flavor of belief we have stored into our hard drive and subsequently create a shift. Often, we fail to see that others serve as the mirror to our reality; this interaction is there in order to raise our awareness of those hidden beliefs and help us counterbalance what we know from what we lack in understanding. In other words, what you see and what you get in life is the reflection of your own thoughts and actions bouncing back in your face.

An example of this antagonistic phenomenon can be found in every species and every realm of nature. For instance, if an animal is the runt of its kind, it will likely be treated with some disregard and even some aggression. Nature does not play favorites, and it finds a way to instill transformation. We are always given a choice to surpass limitations. I believe Charles Darwin's theory of evolution applies here. Survival of the fittest can also refer to self-observation in order to manifest change. To quote Neale Donald Walsh, "Life is intended to produce for you a direct experience of who you really are."

Next time you are tempted to take on an accusatory tone with the same old song and dance from the 1997 musical release of "Why is everybody always pickin' on me?" -- stand back and ask yourself, "What am I projecting? What am I to learn from this moment? Who is on my path to deliver this lesson?" Lessons are not always meant to be pleasant. They are, in every case, intended to help us grow. In actuality, not only do others serve as mirrors of our realities, but they also serve as a form of "piggy-back" making it possible for us to jump the fence into the next realm. In this context, those who are placed on our path constitutive a gift from the universe.

Recently, I have been blessed with a few of these people intertwining my own path. However challenging they may appear at first glance, they continue to confirm that each and every one of us serves a purpose. Sometimes that purpose is very clear; other times it is completely obscure. I have come to recognize that our requirements are minimal. There is nothing we must change in others, nothing to fix, nothing to touch. The mere reflection of our truest state of compassion and love moves mountains. As the principle of correspondence is set in motion, life begets life, love begets love, and hate begets hate. Then we are simply left with making a choice of either being or becoming, this symbiotic process creates ebb and flow. We are unable to be in both places at once, in the same way the tides go off to sea. The mere act of noticing is the gateway into a higher state of consciousness. From that point forward, phenomenon takes care of itself.

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09:29 AM on 05/26/2012
No one can pick on you unless you give them the power to do so. The problem ain't them, it's that thing in the mirror.

"When we step out to play in the big game of life, from time to time we find roadblocks, some unwanted bumps on the road that create friction."

"Chance favors the prepared mind." Louis Pasteur A mind tied in knots will never escape them.
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Denise M. Wilbanks
02:24 PM on 05/29/2012
Yes, Kavoom I will recapitulate your qoute from ~ Louis Pasteur
"Chance favors the prepared mind."
Often we do not recognize when and how we give our power away. It is far easier to assume the position of "victim" and blame others for our misfortunes.
Thank you for your comment, hope you will consider revisiting my articles and making further contributions.
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
08:17 PM on 05/25/2012
Blogger: The mere act of noticing is the gateway into a higher state of consciousness.

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Lemme know how that higher consciousness goes for you if Romney becomes the president, stacks the supreme court with like-minded folks, and subsequently dismantles women's rights.
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Denise M. Wilbanks
02:31 PM on 05/29/2012
OtayPanky, we are all entitled to our own opinion. I respect yours and must say that Consciousness does not select any political affiliation. It moves through space in creation of new posibilities. Those posibilites do not always surfase on mainstream nor do they take place in any other area other than our intrinsic space.
Happy to have you here, thank you for offering your view. Please come again!
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jf12
When I saw her I marveled greatly.
04:12 PM on 05/25/2012
Sorry, I do not believe the runt is projecting her own disregard and aggression.
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Denise M. Wilbanks
02:51 PM on 05/29/2012
jf12, What a runt projects is weekness. All species pick up on that and lamentably do tend to react. It is then a matter of choice to propel into a shift. To give you an example, my nephew was a primature baby. He was very small and we all worried he would have a hard time thriving in life. He somehow was able to not only catch up but excel in many areas. One can utilizes this example as a metaphor in times when circumstances are such where one feels as though there is a disadvantage. Then one can stop, assess the situation, regroup and create a conscious choice on how to achive personal growth. We are only limited by our mind.
Thank you for your comment, it has helped me be mindful that some areas of my articles may need to be more implicit.
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