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Denise Oliveira is a Brooklyn-based writer. She is also co-founder of Prequels. She has a master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University.

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What Do You Call Your Mother in Law?

(0) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 12:06 PM

A bride's stress does not always end after the wedding, it turns out. For many women, figuring out what to call their new mother-in-law is just as nerve wrecking as picking a wedding caterer or mapping out seating charts.

For Mona Shand, addressing her mother-in-law was a source of...

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Where Does Your Gown Come From?

(0) Comments | Posted October 18, 2013 | 12:06 PM

When you walk into a bridal salon and see all those gorgeous gowns hanging in a perfectly neat row or dressed on a mannequin, do you ever stop to think how it got there? I got my own wedding gown at Pronovias in New York City, and this afternoon I...

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Band or DJ? Neither -- Go Classical

(12) Comments | Posted September 1, 2013 | 11:57 AM

Lots of brides and grooms-to-be get stuck in the band versus DJ debate, forgetting an additional musical possibility that can make their wedding day absolutely gorgeous: A chamber ensemble. If you haven't yet considered some live classical music to add a touch of grace and elegance to your wedding, here...

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The Truth About Day-Of Wedding Planners

(3) Comments | Posted August 22, 2013 | 10:33 AM

If you thought that "Are you hiring a wedding planner?" was a "Yes" or "No" question, think again. There is a happy medium between hiring a full-service planner and winging it all on your own, and that is the day-of coordinator.

An often poorly understood concept, the day-of coordinator...

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The Wedding Checklist You Cannot Ignore

(10) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 3:19 PM

If you're engaged, then surely you are surrounded by checklists telling you how to tackle the massive task of planning a wedding. But here's what you might be missing: The bridal checklist for staying emotionally sane and conflict-free as you plan your wedding.

To bring you this comprehensive guide...

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New Yorkers Unite in Support of Colorado Gay Couple Refused a Wedding Cake

(37) Comments | Posted June 7, 2013 | 6:04 PM

As the LGBTQ community and allies around the country express outrage about a Colorado bakery that turned down a gay couple's request for a wedding cake, New Yorkers are coming together to support the work of the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), which will represent the two men...

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The Skinny on Your Wedding Cake

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 2:24 PM

You've chosen your wedding venue, your caterer, and even your band. Now it's time to decide on your cake, and you start doing research and discover that you have tons of sweet options that don't look like a traditional wedding cake.

Is the era of the wedding cake over?...

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Planning a Wedding With No Bride

(8) Comments | Posted June 3, 2013 | 1:25 PM

If you're a woman who is straight and just got engaged, then you know you have dozens of wedding planning books and guides to pick from. If you're a gay man -- not so much. But guys, you are no longer on your own, as Chronicle Books is getting ready...

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5 Things Every Bride-to-Be Must Know

(1) Comments | Posted May 21, 2013 | 2:01 PM

I learned so much at yesterday's "The Bridal Brunch: Harlem Renaissance Edition," organized in Brooklyn, New York, by I've boiled it down for you into five indispensable pieces of bridal advice. Be sure you scroll down to see the gorgeous Harlem Renaissance ladies!

1. Be realistic about how much...

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10 Commandments for the Newly Engaged Woman

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2013 | 4:31 PM

With so much advice flying around, sometimes a bride-to-be just needs someone to boil it down for her. Here are the top ten tips every newly engaged woman needs to read, inspired by the speakers at Bridal Rebellion, a workshop in New York City earlier this month that...

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7 Steps to Your Perfect Wedding Venue

(2) Comments | Posted April 12, 2013 | 1:09 PM

You got engaged, you told all your friends, and now you want to hurry up and pick a venue and set your date. You are likely doing this alone, because you haven't hired a wedding planner yet.

Choosing the wrong venue can wreak havoc on your wedding day, so...

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What Your Relationship Needs This Valentine's Day

(3) Comments | Posted January 30, 2013 | 7:34 PM

Forget a dozen roses or a box of chocolates. Maybe what your relationship needs this Valentine's Day is a trip to your neighborhood sex shop. After all, nothing spells relationship disaster like a sex life stuck in a rut, and it's important to take stock of your life under the...

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Experts Share The Secrets Of Sample Sales

(8) Comments | Posted January 15, 2013 | 12:20 AM

We got up at 5 am to line up for the sample sale. I sat on the sidewalk outside a convention center in downtown Boston with my fellow bridesmaids and our lovely bride, and waited for the doors to open. Other girls had brought along even larger contingents, some of...

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Thanksgiving, Engagements And Money

(49) Comments | Posted November 24, 2012 | 2:37 PM

If you've just gotten engaged (it's Thanksgiving weekend, after all), the last thing you want to hear about is divorce. But the reality is that divorce is all around us, and a leading cause is fighting about money, be it having too much money, not enough money, overspending or financial...

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Wedding Band Or Wedding DJ?

(3) Comments | Posted October 18, 2012 | 5:35 PM

You're planning your wedding, and after a ton of deliberation you've decided to hire a live band instead of a DJ. Before you sign a contract, you'd better do your homework. Otherwise you might end up with a band that can't get your guests on the dance floor, that overcharges...

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You Don't Need a 'Big, Gay Wedding'

(6) Comments | Posted September 14, 2012 | 6:06 PM

You may be legally married in a particular state, but remember that in the eyes of the federal government, you are treated as a single person. This was a recurring message at Wednesday night's LGBT Marriage Forum in New York City, an event organized by an alliance of...

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A Bollywood To Hollywood Love Story

(12) Comments | Posted August 16, 2012 | 10:44 AM

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Be ready to cry and laugh as you read this charming love story. When I heard about this couple, I knew I wanted to interview them. They were about to be married by a colleague of mine, the Rev. Samora...

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A Groupon Proposal

(8) Comments | Posted July 28, 2012 | 11:29 AM

If your boyfriend told you he had a Groupon for dinner on Saturday night, you'd probably believe him, right? So did Bita, not suspecting that instead, her boyfriend Emad had planned an elaborate scheme to propose to her during a private, multi-course dinner that included her favorite dishes, favorite music...

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Behind The Veil With Rami Kashou

(0) Comments | Posted July 12, 2012 | 12:10 PM

Do you ever wonder what goes on behind the scenes when you order a custom wedding gown? I went behind the veil with Rami Kashou to bring to you the ultimate custom bridal experience. Yes, the very Rami Kashou who designed Dixie Chicks' Martie Maguire's wedding gown, who...

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Why Is My Husband So Crabby in the Morning?

(52) Comments | Posted June 4, 2012 | 8:16 AM

In North Carolina, Mike's wife jumps out of bed eager to get started on the day's to-do list. Coffee is made, the dog is walked, the family is called halfway across the globe, and life is great. Mike gets up at the last possible minute to avoid having to interact...

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