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Loving the Moment Doesn't Mean You Have to Like It

09/28/2011 09:08 am ET | Updated Nov 28, 2011

"Love the moment. Flowers grow out of dark moments. Therefore, each moment is vital. It affects the whole. Life is a succession of such moments and to live each, is to succeed."

- Corita Kent

I have long held the belief that every moment of life holds something in it worth loving if we look into it deeply enough. As I watched the news last night I had one of those divine "ah-ha" insights. My awareness was that this "now" moment -- the moments of our lives -- is bringing an incredible amount of fear, pain and suffering to an inordinate number of human beings. I challenged myself to see if my belief that every moment of life holds something in it worth loving still holds up.

Upon deeper pondering, I found myself tracing my progress back through the years of "now" moments I have been on the planet, including both the good and bad ones. What I noticed is that in either case they all came and went. The awareness I had was that years are nothing more than a collection of months, which are simply an accumulation of days, which of course are containers for hours, which are placeholders for minutes, which in true metaphysical form boil down to seconds.

There is no need to go into the quantum physics of nanoseconds (a nanosecond is one-billionth of a second) because I trust you get my point: Every past moment is connected to the current moment, which likewise is connected to the next moment. In short, life is a seamless continuum of "now" moments.

Reviewing over 60 years of my "now" moments was a powerful experience. As I traced the journey that has brought me to this present moment, I reconnected with those past painful moments that were agonizingly unpleasant; and fortunately, I reconnected with more than a few once-in-a-lifetime stellar moments that were worth experiencing again. However, it's the painful moments, days and years I want to address in this writing and not simply because they were painful and "ain't that a shame", but because they were purposefully powerful as well.

It's important to remember that one moment connects our lives to the next. If we dial out on the painful moments (or dark times), we also miss a portion of the journey that leads us to the wholeness of our lives. We can't go unconscious part of the time, and expect to arrive at the end of our journey in one piece (or in peace).

We need the collective whole of our experiences to obtain wholeness; and it is through our sense of wholeness that we achieve the peace that passes all understanding. Wholeness comes as a reality when we can embrace all of who we are and what the moment brings, and perhaps more importantly, all of who we are not and what the moment doesn't bring. Every day of our lives contains reminders of both. In either case, it's vital to remember, as many master teachers have said, "This too shall pass."

This is why I treasure the quote by Corita Kent at the top of this message. It is a reminder of how absolutely crucial it is to stay connected to the moment, irrespective of what it looks like and even in spite of how it may feel. However, staying connected to the moment, and liking what is contained within that moment, may be two different things.

We can and should love every moment because each one is another precious gift of life -- but that doesn't mean we necessarily have to enjoy the experience the moment brings. In other words, we don't always have to like "what is" in any given moment in order to love the moment.

As odd as it sounds, we can love something without liking it. It's our acceptance of and loving "what is" that becomes the bridge that will help us cross into the next moment. Again, the reminder is, "This too shall pass."

If this day holds for you any dark moments, I encourage you to stay engaged in life; trusting that as certain as day follows night and night follows day, contained in the moment at hand are the seeds of something beautiful. Remember, seeds do indeed need a bit of darkness from which to grow, and in the mix can be a great amount of manure.

I know that in this sacred moment something profoundly meaningful is growing in the garden of your life. Stay connected and you'll have an amazing life, one moment at a time. Love this moment -- it's the only one you have.

Life is blessed and so are you.