Awhile back, I wrote about the gifts of divorce.

It was really refreshing to see so many people respond in kind... from "thank you for two wonderful kids" to "I'm not there yet, but hope to be able to thank you one day for our marriage." I...

Divorce lawyers fail because we ask them to. (Yes, of course some are idiots. Idiots are everywhere. This essay is why good divorce lawyers fail.)

Almost everything that clients and courts ask lawyers to do sets them up for failure. And as a result, you're also set up...

Divorce has its gifts. They may not be obvious while your marriage is breaking down, but they're there.

In the middle of divorce, it's tempting to just remember the bad parts of the marriage. You're doing yourself a disservice if you forget the good stuff -- what you learned from...

People talk a lot about dirty tricks in divorce. You can find articles and resources about the usual dirty tricks all over the place. Most of them will also get you in a lot of legal trouble if your hijinks are discovered.

Not so with my favorite dirty...

David Arquette's reputation for being a little playful and unconventional seems to have spilled over into his divorce. At least the unconventional part.

On Howard Stern's Sirius XM talk show on October 24, 2011, David called in to talk to Howard about his participation on Dancing with the Stars....

There is a lot of incentive for litigation attorneys to blow sunshine up your skirt and tell you what you want to hear. In that first consultation at the beginning of your case, we lawyers are, after all, salespeople. We start with an optimistic overview of your case, and it...

So here's the inside scoop. I've been a divorce attorney for 23 years and as a result, every single one of my friends (both actual friends, and Facebook friends) ask me for my advice when they're facing a divorce.

When I have friends who are getting divorced, and they ask...

As a mediator and blogger, I've used the McCourt divorce as an example of how not to get divorced a few times over the past couple of years. After all, nothing says "I love you" like $19 million in divorce fees (and that was only part...

Basic Conflict Resolution for Co-Parents

It's hard enough as a married couple to keep lines of good communication open and flowing. It can seem like an insurmountable problem if you are divorced. Your old ways of nitpicking at each other, anger and frustration will crop up again....

Negotiating isn't about getting the biggest slice of the pie--it's about learning to make the pie bigger.

Here's how you get started:

During a divorce, many people become very position-based, talking about settlement in absolute terms, such as "I want 100 percent of the 401(k)." They lose sight of...

Six Simple Rules on Why Not to Rebound and 3 Ways to Make the Best of It

Poll: Dating your ex-husband's BFF? Is it a do, or a don't?

Here's what's (allegedly) going on, in a nutshell: Singer Ashlee Simpson is getting divorced from bassist and lyricist Pete Wentz (Fall...

I've been practicing divorce and family law for 22 years. Back when I litigated divorces, I drove a Rolls Royce. I'm not kidding. I traded that car for a Honda Accord when I became a mediator (again, not kidding!).

Want to avoid buying a lawyer a Rolls Royce? Here's...

Prenups have come a long way since old rich guys used to beat trophy wives out of any kind of marital rights and support. In fact, those old-school agreements generally aren't even enforceable in court nowadays. More and more couples see prenups as a way to make sure...

Before I became a mediator, I was a divorce litigation attorney for 12 years. My nickname was "Jaws." Litigation was fun--for me, the lawyer--but probably not so much for the clients who were paying a king's ransom for a lot of stuff they insisted that needed to be done which...

1. Over 95% of all divorce cases settle before they go to trial, so try mediation rather than taking an adversarial position. And if mediation's not for you, there are other options like collaborative divorce and even arbitration.

2. Before you file...

It's never easy to be away from your kids, whether it's a short business trip or a move across the country. Here are a few tips to help you keep the connections strong.

1) Every few days plan to read or tell your child a favorite or familiar story over...

Okay, let me start by saying I know that they are not getting divorced, at least not at the moment, and that they're trying to work things through with a separation.

That's actually one of the reasons that they're role models for how to figure out the whole marriage and...

Kate Gosselin recently admitted on The Today Show that two of her kids, Collin and Alexis, had anger issues, which she believes stem from her divorce from their dad, Jon. But in the next breath she said she hadn't made up with Jon, and that "there's no truce...

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1. Be hard on the problem, not the people. For example, "Whether or not to sell our house is a tough decision and I would like to work together to figure this out" works much better than "If you'd only earned more money...

Your kids left with their other parent and now you're sitting in an empty house. And it's the holidays. Even if it's a holiday you don't celebrate, everything's closed and you're all alone. Bummer.

How do you deal with your own feelings about seeing your children so much...