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A Question of Legitimacy

Posted: 08/30/2012 11:14 am


Despite being publicly unwelcome at the convention, Todd Akin still refuses to quit as Missouri's Republican Senate nominee. As long as he is in the race, those words he said will--and should--continue to haunt him. I, for one, hope with all my heart that he stays on the ticket all the way through November.

No, I'm not at all certain that he'll lose. But I would be pleased with either outcome. If he loses, then his mentality and attitude will suffer the public defeat it so richly deserves. If he wins, it will be the height of comedy to watch the Republican leadership embrace him in a blatant show of public hypocrisy. After all, in the 2004 campaign now-Senator Tom Coburn said that the gay agenda "is the greatest threat to our freedom that we face today." This was after 9/11, after Oklahoma City in his own state. Today, Tom Coburn is a Tea Party leader.

The Republican leaders have made a very public show of distancing themselves from Akin for now. They have cut off his funding and called for him to drop out. They say they've done all they can. They can't force someone off the ballot, and frankly that's a good thing. And traditionally and historically, a senator was a representative of their state -- the opinions of other states shouldn't really matter. I'm not a Federalist, but I can understand the argument. Let's assume for a moment that that's all true.

What I want to know is: how the hell is this man still on the Congressional Science Committee, a position he holds at the sole discretion of the House leadership? Clearly, John Boehner and Eric Cantor have more of a problem with him costing them political points (and a possible Senate seat) than in what he said. The Republican leadership talk about firing Bernanke, and firing Eric Holder, and firing Janet Napolitano, and firing Tim Geithner. But when they are in the position to fire someone who doesn't even understand anatomy and is in a position to dictate law on the subject... silence.

Ignorance about anatomy is fine in certain contexts. Like everyone else, I first learned about sex on the street. I believed in Spanish Fly, the magic substance that got women hot if you slipped it into their drink. I was under the impression that they would go blind if they gave them too much. I also genuinely thought you couldn't get a girl pregnant a few days from her period. Three kids later, I'm beginning to suspect that my hypothesis might be flawed -- but I'm not a Congressman. Todd Akin's comments aren't only a problem because they're offensive. They're also a problem because they reflect the mindset of someone who hasn't even taken a high school health class.

I have no problem with someone who is sincerely pro-life. My wife spends more time in church than a pew. There are also many religious organizations which provide the expecting mother with care, help her set up an adoption, give her counseling, and generally do their best to make a tough decision easier. Their loyalty might be to the unborn, but their empathy is with the mother as well. They don't castigate someone who has made a mistake; they don't regard a developing baby as a nine-month punishment for the sin of having sex. Like good sincere Christians, they hate the sin but love the sinner.

What I do have a problem with is someone who is insincerely pro-life, someone for whom this is an abstract concept with no relation to the reality. One of the hardest things for me to recount in my recent book was a sexual assault I witnessed when I was a kid:

I came by the school one summer day to see what was going on. There was this older cat I knew, high school age, and he called me over. "Hey man," he told me, "we're running a train on this girl."

[...]

I followed my friend and he took me out back where his partner had this girl. I don't know how old she was, probably their age, but I didn't recognize her and so I knew she wasn't from my neighborhood.

"Oh, man!" my buddy said. "We doin' it!"

Like I said, I had never had sex before. Yet I still knew what it looked like when someone was upset--and this girl was not happy. Whatever was going on, she didn't dig it. The two dudes were acting like it's just a thing, and were about to go at her.

"This is not cool," I said to them. "She's not with this."

I'm not going to pretend that I'm some sort of superhero who bravely came in to save the day. Those two guys were older than me and bigger than me; on some level I was afraid. I didn't step in because I was trying to be an upstanding moral member of my community. I stepped in because on a visceral level it just felt wrong to see a female like that.

"Fuck that, man," my buddy said. "She knows she's with it."

I didn't start arguing or explaining because I didn't need to say anything else. I knew they were mad, but I knew they were also ashamed on some level. They knew what they were doing wasn't right, and that stopped them from doing anything to me. (Or maybe they didn't know, and that would have been sad.)

I grabbed the girl by the hand and gave her her pants and her top. After she got dressed, I walked her out of the school.

I will never forget the way that girl looked. I will never forget the way that girl smelled. I will never forget the way she walked--and I will never be OK with any of these memories. Every time I think about it, which is as infrequently as possible, I get upset.

That's why I say people like Congressman Akin are insincerely pro-life. No witness to the consequences of a sexual assault -- let alone the victim of one -- would ever think to parse it into terms like "legitimate". No one would categorize it into different types. I didn't know what the word "rape" was, but I knew that what was happening to that girl was wrong.

But for people like Todd Akin, it's an abstraction. It's something that doesn't happen to people he knows -- and I hope with every fiber of my being that it doesn't. I hope it never happens to anyone. But if it does happen, having to discuss the legitimacy of the assault to someone like Todd Akin is something that I find obscene.

Todd Akin insists he's a fighter, that's he's not going to quit the race over a mistake. But the only "mistake" Todd Akin used was being candid with his thoughts. So Mr. Akin, I say this to you: leaving the race or leaving Congress is not about "quitting". All it is, is a matter of knowing the appropriate time to pull out.

 

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09:48 AM on 09/04/2012
I for one am tired of hearing public officials say they "made a mistake,"usually followed by, "...and it's time to move on." As if nothing really serious happened. This year's election cycle is being fed not with just some "missteps," or "half-truths," or any kind of shading of the truth. They are lies - both sides are responsible. Unfortunately, it is only one side who is telling lies about life, death, women's bodies, and the like.

We men do get the easy part of the argument here: out of one side of our mouths, we express support for women, what they go thru in their lives, the respect and adoration we have for them and then, from the other side of our mouths, we say how "Man, I'd love to tap that a**!" or something similar. Lust and the willingness to "go after" girls because they are conquests. (As an aside, as a 61 year old man, it's hard to believe (or remember) that I used to say those things! But we grow up.)

The republican machine is playing on the dichotomy of how men collectively feel about women, if not the hypocrisy (to wit: a conservative religulous white male saying he's against abortion in all forms - i.e., unless his daughter becomes preggers). It's shameful, but it takes a rational, clear-thinking and logical mind to easily maneuver through the not-so-deep republican ideological minefield to see what is really going on.
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11:17 PM on 09/03/2012
It is nauseating to read Mr. Hughley and others on this blog lambast Mr. Akin for sayin something that was a mistake and ignorant, but he at least apologized for his comments. But they can support and sit by like they have no tongue to speak against a man who voted several times for allowing innocent babies who happen to survive a botched abortion to be set aside and die without being attended to. I ask which one of these men have a more depraved spirit? And anyone who would rape a woman should be punished to the fullest extent of the law. But how do you put a value on created life? Is a life less valuable because it was conceived by rape? And no one wants a woman or anyone to suffer rape or pain or poverty? But which of these sufferings over rides the value of innocent life?

And Mr. Hughley thinks Mr. Akin is insincere about being prolife. I would like to ask Mr. Hughley if he agrees with allowing a baby to die that survives a botched abortion? If he does then he has a depraved spirit and if he doesn't and still supports the President then he is a hypocrite.
10:25 PM on 09/02/2012
I cannot comprehend men that have a mother, sisters, a wife, and daughters that still support this dark ages Akin.
Wasn't Huckabee a preacher? No real religious man would support rape period!

Why is there a prevalence of rubber stamping rape in the GOP?
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My Way
06:23 PM on 09/02/2012
The same hypocrites who claim to be pro life are also the same people who cherish the death penalty even though there have been countless examples of people being released from prison and death row when found to be innocent. But these blood thirsty leeches still embrace the murder of people by the state in a faster fashion and refuse to even entertain the possibility that an innocent might have been killed by mistake. These are the same people who tells us they cherish the unborn but if that "delivered out of the womb" child turns up a minority or poor or heaven help them gay, then these so called good christians have no use for them and in the case of gays kids will help such venom on them that some of them are driven to suicide.

Pro life is pro hypocrisy in the worst form
09:44 PM on 09/02/2012
I'm totally with you.. I'm pro abortion and pro death penalty.. pro abortion for birth control is OK with me..
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sharm97
11:43 PM on 09/03/2012
My Way, so those prolifers who support the death penalty eventho innocents are sometimes put to death are blood thisty leeches? And innocents are put to death what, fifty, a hundred, maybe two hundred a year? And I would say, even if it is only one something should be done to correct it. But you have the audacity to infer that you have the morally high ground because you support abortion where every victim has been found to be innocent, but you still support that death penalty, eventho not one victim was found guilty? And how many of those innocent lives get the death penalty each year? Is it fifty, one hundred, two hundred, what about a thousand?... Oh yeah, My Way, you have the moral high ground!!!!!
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My Way
10:43 AM on 09/04/2012
yes I have the moral high ground because unlike the so called pro lifers I am speaking out against the death penalty unlike those leeches who want to execute people faster and faster. And for the record I am not pro abortion. I am pro choice and there is a difference. And why do many pro life people oppose any efforts to educate girls and boys about preventing pregnancy? Yea, compared to you my moral high ground is the stars.
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catz1515
04:06 PM on 09/02/2012
Jon Stewarts comedian reporter interviewed republican women at the RNC asking them about this and the response was that its almost a ZERO% possibility to get pregnant while being raped.

The TRUTH: 32,000 women get pregnant every year from rape.
On top of that these rapists now have PARENTAL RIGHTS to their children!

The majority of U.S. states, 31 in total, have no laws that prohibit a rapist from exercising custodial rights. A woman is forced to risk her own legal rights to have the rapist brought to trial in exchange for the man dropping his interests in interacting with the child.

Read more at http://global.christianpost.com/news/rapists-can-claim-custody-visitation-rights-for-victims-babies-80656/#dT77PgZfLbpUozR0.99
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moonflowerjewelry
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08:52 PM on 09/02/2012
Wow. Surreal. Thanks for posting.
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p c r
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09:56 PM on 09/02/2012
Interesting information. F/F'ed.
12:28 PM on 09/02/2012
Great piece Thanks D.L.
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Larry Motuz
More prayers, fewer preyers.
11:34 AM on 09/02/2012
Quote: "I also genuinely thought you couldn't get a girl pregnant a few days from her period. Three kids later, I'm

beginning to suspect that my hypothesis might be flawed."

You might be interested to look at this science article by Nancy Houser :: "Study: Male semen promotes ovulation through female brain' :: http://digitaljournal.com/article/331280#ixzz25KJ0SRfu at http://digitaljournal.com/article/331280

When one thinks about rape outcomes, especially the unexpected higher incidence of pregnancy following upon rape, it is important to keep up with and understand how ovulation can be affected.

Thank you for your article, Mr. Hughley, and your perspective.
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nikanj
free the fnords
12:33 PM on 09/02/2012
Thanks for link ! We really know so very little about the more subtle mechanisms
of reproduction. Will forward to my midwifery friends.
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Larry Motuz
More prayers, fewer preyers.
12:50 PM on 09/02/2012
You're very welcome.
10:53 AM on 09/02/2012
this, ladies and gentleman, is how a real man expresses himself...
10:53 AM on 09/02/2012
The Dems would be a huge leg up on the game if they could find a moment for Mr. Hughley to speak at the convention. He is a good example of the process of learning from a life experience and honestly convey the lessons to others. As to Akin, my view is that he belongs to a large group that spends their one hour in church on Sunday, which makes it all good to judge everyone else for the next six days. In no way does Akin practice any of Christ's teachings; he has an extreme, distorted interpretation of Christ's message.
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My Way
06:25 PM on 09/02/2012
Attending church doesn't make you any more of a religious person than wearing the jersey of a pro athlete makes you a jock.
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04:25 AM on 09/02/2012
If DL wants to run for office in Colorado, he had my vote.
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09:59 PM on 08/31/2012
I realize this is off topic but a word about Paul Ryan. I watched him being interviewed today by someone, I don't remember who, but the interviewer repeatedly challenged him on his misrepresentations and exaggerations when talking about President Obama. Ryan repeatedly stated "look, the point I'm trying to make is" etc. He virtually acknowledged he was lying, but persisted in emphasizing his greater point. Unconcerned that a properly used exaggeration or 'distortion to make a point is only appropriate if the exaggeration is acknowledged as such and for that purpose. Otherwise, it's just a lie. Astonishing!
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catz1515
04:01 PM on 09/02/2012
yes, he is quite astonishing. Deliberate and calculated lying.
He was fed a Karl Rove speech littered with lies.
They're desperate.
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10:43 AM on 09/03/2012
And pathetic.
07:54 PM on 08/31/2012
When did it happen when stand-up comedians talk more sense than those clowns in government? Thank you Mr. Hughely for a most eloquent and relevant posting.
08:09 PM on 08/31/2012
It's always been that way, unfortunately...
12:49 AM on 09/01/2012
Ya. Comedy is only funny because its true. The sad thing is people like Jon Stewart, Colbert and Bill Maher actually ask harder questions and make more realistic criticisms than the bulk of the 'real' journalists on tv.
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Grumpy Old Dude
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11:56 AM on 09/02/2012
See; Lenny Bruce, Mort Sahl, Dick Gregory, Richard Pryor, George Carlin!
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VasuMurti
02:23 PM on 08/31/2012
Genesis 38:24. Tamar's pregnancy was proof that she was sexually active. Because she was a widow, without a husband, she was assumed to be a prostitute. Her father-in-law, Judah, ordered that she be burned alive for her crime.

If Tamar's fetuses had any value whatsoever, her execution would have been delayed until after their birth. There was no condemnation on Judah for deciding to take this action.

Exodus 21:22-24. If two men are fighting and one injures a pregnant woman and the fetus is killed, he shall repay her according to the degree of injury inflicted upon her, and not the fetus.

Author Brian McKinley, a born-again Christian, comments:

"Thus we can see that if the baby is lost, it does not require a death sentence-it is not considered murder. But if the woman is lost, it is considered murder and is punished by death."

Pro-life apologists say the unborn has *some* value in the Old Testament. But the New Testament is more permissive than the Old!

Paul claims the Law (which Jesus repeatedly upheld) is abolished, and refers to his previous adherence to the Law as "so much garbage."

Some Christians argue they don't have to follow Paul, either, because Paul claims the risen Jesus said to him three times "...my grace is sufficient for thee..." and they take this as a license to do as they please.

Doesn't "three times..." justify choice?!
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Ronny0303
03:44 PM on 09/02/2012
Abortion is the willfull killing of an unborn child. You justify that with Exodus 21:22-24? Not by accident but by National Law? 50million + and growing everday most of them are Black?
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SirenForSanity
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06:13 PM on 09/02/2012
You do not speak for God. And, if you believe in the Bible and also believe that all things are written in the Book of Life, you should know that it is not your place to intervene in another's relationship with Go. It is and always will be up the the woman to make that decision for herself and she does not ask your permission. Just accept it--you are not God.
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moonflowerjewelry
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08:55 PM on 09/02/2012
How many children have YOU, personally, adopted or fostered? Come on, shame us with the numbers...
10:27 AM on 09/03/2012
Tamar was actually raped by her brother.
02:05 PM on 08/31/2012
We need people like you in office.
01:58 PM on 08/31/2012
Thank you for the amazingly insightful post. Just one more reason to like you. Will have to catch Real Time. Again, thanks.