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Donna Highfill
Donna Highfill, President of Highfill Performance Group, has over 25 years experience in helping Fortune 500 organizations and leaders through times of change. In addition, she's a humorist who enjoys helping people deal with life through laughter, particularly as women deal with the big change. She published a book called "Real People, Real Change: Stories of a Change Warrior in the Business World" in which she shares stories and lessons to help others lead change. Donna is currently working on advanced coaching certification and her next book about being a preacher's kid.

Entries by Donna Highfill

My Past Life Was More Boring Than My Current Life

(6) Comments | Posted March 26, 2015 | 6:01 PM

I don't know if it's because I'm in my fifties and I realize that life is winding down a bit, or if it's because I'm trying to overcome an uncontrollable urge to beat people to restaurant doors, but I decided to try hypnotherapy.

I met a fascinating hypnotherapist in my...

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How 'Birdman' Speaks to Baby Boomers

(9) Comments | Posted March 2, 2015 | 5:10 PM

Watching Birdman (Or the Unexpected Virtue of Ignorance) was a lot like going through menopause -- one minute I was delighted, the next I was depressed, and a few times I delved into a scene and forgot why I was there.

But there was something profoundly honest in the...

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Why Fifty Shades Is the Worst Fairy Tale Ever

(2) Comments | Posted February 13, 2015 | 10:38 AM

I still remember Pat, a boy who stood 5'8" and had a mustache in 7th grade. If you were building a bully in a laboratory, these would be key ingredients.

I was the new, awkward kid, my family having just moved to the area. While my Junior High School was...

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Why Fear is a Money Maker

(19) Comments | Posted January 27, 2015 | 4:52 PM

Fear sells. The Weather Channel figured this out the first time Jim Cantore held onto a light pole during a "potential" tropical storm. As he dramatically screamed above the wind, leaned towards the pole and held his free leg perpendicular to his body, battery sales exploded.

We ran to...

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Why 2014 Was a Whack-A-Mole Year

(2) Comments | Posted December 31, 2014 | 10:31 AM

In 2015, I would love to be faced with some really shallow problems. I want to be worried about the wrinkles forming around my mouth, or the back fat that requires kneading each morning. I want my biggest concern to be that CoverGirl might quit making my favorite mascara. Again.

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How to Fix a Leaking Chakra

(5) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 4:47 PM

I went to a seminar a few years ago where I experienced Reiki for the very first time. That's how I found out about my seeping energy. I had a weird feeling something was leaking, and at my age I was relieved to discover it was just my chakras.

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Your Life Is a Book

(0) Comments | Posted November 24, 2014 | 11:17 AM

I remember the first time author Brenda Peterson told me that I should consider writing a memoir. "I don't think so," I said.

My father was a Baptist minister, and I have a terrible memory. I figured those two facts of life would form some kind of emotional nitrogen...

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How Handwritten Notes Can Revolutionize Relationships

(5) Comments | Posted November 23, 2014 | 7:33 AM

I received a rejection letter from The New Yorker yesterday, and I'm excited about it. Why? Well, first of all it's The New Yorker. Secondly, the note was handwritten by Becky.

I realize that this note from Becky means that I probably didn't even qualify for an actual rejection...

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Why I Yearn For The Boring Days of Yore

(0) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 2:48 PM

We have become a place of extremes. The weather is either so hot you can fry an egg on your sidewalk, or so cold your husband won't come out of the bathroom naked for months. The news vacillates between men risking their lives to save a kitten on the subway...

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Why Motivational Speakers Depress Me

(17) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 7:58 AM

There are times in my life when motivational speakers bum me out. When things are going well, I believe them. I think they rock. But then tough times come, and I tend to see them as false prophets.

As a teenager, I loved motivational speakers for three weeks out of...

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She Was Joy, Light, and Woohoo!

(0) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 11:58 AM

Imagine riding through a neighborhood with the windows down, warm air blowing through your hair, and laughing hysterically as the driver yells, "Woohoo! Get out of our way!" while beeping the horn non-stop.

Yea, that was my grandmom.

She lost my grandfather in her early fifties, and had to...

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7 Reasons Boomer Interviews Can Kind Of Suck

(78) Comments | Posted August 30, 2014 | 3:25 AM

There is one topic very few baby boomer women really discuss, and that is the utter despair felt when looking for work. Maybe we've recently left a job, or have been downsized, or are finally in a place to do what we have always wanted to do.

It seems...

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Baby Boomers Refuse To Go Out With A Whimper

(2) Comments | Posted August 10, 2014 | 7:26 AM

I think T.S. Eliot would be proud of Baby Boomers. After all, it is he who said in his poem "The Hollow Men" that:

This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
Not with...

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Why I Believe In Us

(7) Comments | Posted July 22, 2014 | 7:44 AM

The older gentleman was using a walker, shuffling to the restaurant door. Once he got there, he looked up and noticed that I was waiting to leave the restaurant. He struggled to pull his walker back so he could open the door to let me out.

"There you go, young...

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Change Sucks Even If You're 50+

(6) Comments | Posted July 12, 2014 | 7:21 AM

Change is difficult. For some reason I thought being in my fifties meant that a change in life would no longer cause me to grieve. Instead, I would sit, Yoda-like, and spout wisdom such as Do or do not, there is no try.

Didn't happen.

I left a job filled...

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In Defense Of Kris Jenner's Pole Dance

(19) Comments | Posted June 16, 2014 | 7:37 AM

I generally don't defend the Kardashians, and have often taken my own pot-shots at them. But the other night my husband and I watched Keeping Up with the Kardashians because it's the closest thing to I Love Lucy on modern television.

This particular episode included a scene of Kim...

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Why I Prefer The Real World To The Digital World

(2) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 5:30 AM

The other day I saw two teenage girls sitting on a park bench, staring at their phones. A small dog was sitting in front of them wagging his tail, desperately trying to get their attention.

Still fixated on their phones, one of the girls started smiling and handed her...

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I'm Just Not that Kind Of Mother

(2) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 6:54 AM

Disclaimer: I think my children are the greatest two contributions I will ever make to this crazy world.

But motherhood has not always been apple pie for me, because as a mother I felt responsible for making the pie, and I'm one of those women who would rather face a...

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The Ugly Truth About Our Obsession With Selfies

(7) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 7:15 AM

If smartphones were ponds, a large portion of our population would have already drowned.

I have run into at least 10 people recently who have stopped on fast-moving, heavily-populated sidewalks to take a #selfie. There is no historical building behind them, no beautiful landscape, no real reason to take a...

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Why I Think Mediocrity Is Underestimated

(4) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 3:04 AM

I think mediocrity is underestimated. I spend a lot of time with mediocrity, and I find its company charming and comforting. In fact, at the age of 53, I might just be the Hester Prynne of average moments, roaming around with a big "M" on my chest.

Mediocrity is that...

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