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Mourning for America

Posted: 09/22/11 11:52 AM ET

I am the mother of a murder victim so I know something about mourning and profound loss. I remember, too, the James Byrd murder. I remember that his daughter tried to get George W. Bush to sign a hate crimes bill in the state of Texas and that as she did she cried, as only the loved one of someone dead cries. As Molly Ivins once reported, at that meeting, not only was there a refusal to sign, Bush never even offered Byrd's daughter a tissue.

The James Byrd murder rocked me to the core. It was the absolute demonstration of a kind of hate that culminates in an intense act of brutality. It is racism almost to its most heinous. Almost to the height of racism's logical extension. And still -- there is no reason that a civilized nation should take this step: to coldly, dispassionately end the life of even the most heinous of criminals because in the end no one walking this earth knows what that line really represents. Of that I am certain.

How much more effective would it have been to really address our racist tendencies? To insist on compassion and caring as related to a set of values, a set of critical thinking skills that America has abandoned in the educational paradigm in any way but the most surface and that has led to the practice of its opposite. Our schools are filled with hate run amok. Our communities are at war. Politics in both the local and public spheres is so reliant upon beating the character of anyone in service that we no longer attract enough people with the intelligence and/or integrity to know the difference between principles and jingoistic sloganing. And should we talk about wars? Wars, at least in large part, perpetrated upon people who represent those who committed a criminal act, not people who actually committed that criminal act. When we attack those who never attack us, we render our collective hate acceptable to the masses.

James Byrd died as a result of the dismissal of the African American male in the south as a genuine human being with a soul by three men who were motivated to extend the metaphor. The death of Troy Davis points to America's culpability in Byrd's murder.

Where will the killing stop?

We execute men. We surrender our collective soul.

This is why this morning we are, those of us who know, in mourning.

 

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Nunnenj
Einstein, disguised as Robin Hood
09:46 PM on 09/22/2011
Long ago I realized that I am an opponent to the death penalty. I was raised not to hate, not to seek vengence and not to kill. When we resort to capital punishment, we are seeking revenge and nothing good comes from that. When the state kills, we are all responsible parties in that murder. I hope that one day we, as a society, will rise above and stop acting like the criminals we are attempting to punish.
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tutorintoledo
Conservative AND Liberal. Depends on the issue!
08:08 PM on 09/22/2011
While this certainly has a racial component to it, I'm much more concerned about the questionable evidence. If he was proven guilty beyond all doubt, his race would be irrelevant.
06:27 PM on 09/22/2011
Hey whats the big deal. He have a fair trial, just like 1000's of whites. It's not about color and we do need he death penalty. We should not have so many rapists in prisons etc. the death penalty should be give out to more. We house too many bad people and the system is messed up. The penalty should fit the crime and it should be state driven not by the federal government.

Right now the criminals have more rights that those of us who have done nothing wrong. Except those in government positions and that is a crime all by itself.
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12:47 PM on 09/22/2011
Your points are very valid. We as a collective are not ready to end this version of justice. Violence always results in pain, sorrow and grief, whether committed by an individual criminal or the state on behalf of its citizens. Society will accept for the foreseeable future (even if DP rescinded, war will continue). Your experience allow you to understand better than most the sorrow and grief.

"The world is a teeming mishmash of cultures with a bewildering array of values and ideologies ... People are generally not interested in changing the metaphors through which they view the world, so real understanding between groups with conflicting viewpoints is not achievable in the short term... the world isn't supposed to be saved on a global scale. It must be saved at the level of the individual. And despite the fact that the level of the individual appears to be statistically insignificant, it is in fact the most significant, because it is only at the level of the individual that a creative synthesis of conflicting metaphors can occur. Once a connection is made at the individual level, the process of spreading successful new metaphors throughout society is essential automatic if the society is ready for them. If the society is not ready, the new metaphors will not be accepted under any circumstances."

http://users.aristotle.net/~diogenes/meaning1.htm#questions1
12:30 PM on 09/22/2011
the killing would stop, if they would stop killing.
people who live by the rule are not executed,they work raise a family only
to be taken away buy a few that dont, or wont follow any rule .
as the saying goes you reap what you sew.more states should erxecute ,
stop spending tax payer money to house these death row inmates.
11:58 AM on 09/22/2011
I have a question to ask. If you are opposed to the death penalty, taking the life of another person intentionally...how does you reconcile that stance with supporting abortion? Both are taking of life, so how to do say 1 is an ok "choice" but the other is not?
12:52 PM on 09/22/2011
Exactly !!!! Fanned
Sean Porter
I support the right to arm bears.
03:24 PM on 09/22/2011
Well someone can ask you: if you are opposed to abortion, how can you reconcile that with supporting the death penalty? How do you say that one is ok choice but the other is not?
03:45 PM on 09/22/2011
Well to start, I dont side-step answering questions with questions. I say that taking a life (not in self defense) is wrong. I detest the taking of life, period. Now that I have answered you,not with a question but an answer, how about you do the same. Or does it make you have to question what your stance really is?
11:05 AM on 09/22/2011
Shame on our country.