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Doug and Leslie Gustafson
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Doug Gustafson is a licensed marriage and sex addiction therapist out of Lone Tree, Colorado and co-author of his new book “Amazing Intimacy” that offers six key ingredients that create true success in marriage. Doug graduated from the University of Oregon and completed his graduate training at Biola University. In addition, he studied at Talbot Seminary, along with post-graduate training at California Graduate Institute and a graduate of the Institute for Life Coach Training. Current areas of professional involvement and experience include: Licensed Therapist, Recovery Coach, University Professor, Workshop Leader, Keynote Speaker and Consultant for Family Ministry.

Leslie Gustafson is a licensed marriage and sex therapist out of Lone Tree, Colorado and co-author of her new book “Amazing Intimacy” that offers six key ingredients that create true success in marriage. Leslie graduated from the University of California, Los Angeles and completed her graduate training at Chapman University. She also trained at The Institute for Sexual Wholeness – the only Christian sex therapy program in the Nation. Areas of professional involvement and experience include: Licensed Therapist, Sex Therapist, American Board of Christian Sex Therapists, Professional Associate Member, Coach, Workshop Leader, Keynote Speaker, Clinical Supervisor and Consultant.

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God Restores What The Locus Destroys

(1) Comments | Posted October 16, 2015 | 5:29 PM

Be glad, people of Zion, rejoice in the Lord your God, for He has given you the autumn rains because he is faithful. He sends autumn and spring rains, as before.....I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten... Joel 2:23-25
I believe these verses are about...
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The Elusiveness of the Spirit

(2) Comments | Posted September 22, 2015 | 2:20 PM

Much is being written about the Spirit -- Judeo Christian Holy Spirit -- these days. Not that this is a neglected topic among all the spiritual disciplines over time and history. I'm intrigued by the topic because we need to bottle and bridle something or some things within our own...

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Is It a Bad Sign If Your Marriage Is a Lot of Work?

(5) Comments | Posted August 10, 2015 | 11:35 PM

We frequently hear from couples in our office that marriage is "too much work." They are ready to give up on love and wonder if they can resurrect a marriage that has been sinking.

The real question behind all this centers on the idea of work -- whether marriage...

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How I Lost My Wife to an iPad and How I Plan to Get Her Back: A Year Later

(2) Comments | Posted December 16, 2014 | 3:36 PM

Some of you may be wondering, who read my blog last year, how I'm doing? Did I indeed win the battle for the heart and soul of my amazing wife and beat the little tin man for her devotion and adoration -- not to mention quality time spent? Or did...

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The Two Languages of Love and Connection: Separate Yet One

(0) Comments | Posted October 24, 2014 | 1:46 PM

I am convinced that in order to love someone fully, we must understand and embrace two dimensions of our personality that often seem at odds with one another. One dimension involves our capacity to stand alone, to exercise mature independence and to make choices out of an inner confidence we...

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What Authenticity Really Means

(0) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 4:38 PM

Authenticity. More than a current buzz word. The lynch pin necessary to create and sustain deep, connection between two married lovers. The only way to truly know someone's heart, intentions and what they bring to the interpersonal table. Real stuff you can trust because your lover makes himself or herself...

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5 Ways to Rekindle Your Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 4:08 PM

For most of us, we need to take a hard look at our married life and reflect on how to grow passion and energy. In most cases, how to put it back in again. The stresses and strains of life such as career, raising kids and growing older, can deplete...

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Le sexe en vacances: pourquoi il est meilleur et comment s'assurer qu'il le demeure

(0) Comments | Posted July 15, 2014 | 11:18 AM

C'est l'été et, pour bien des gens, c'est le temps de vacances. Or, pour la plupart des amants et amoureux, le sexe semble plus simple lorsqu'ils sont en vacances. Voici le genre de commentaires que nous entendons souvent dans le cadre de notre pratique:

"Une petite escapade en...
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Vacation Sex -- Why it Works and How to Have A Great 'Sexcation' Anywhere

(2) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 10:33 AM

Yes, summer is here and that means, for many, vacation time. And on vacation, sex seems easier for many lovers. Here is what we often hear:

"We went away and rekindled our sex life."

"For some reason, sex seems easier when we're away. I feel more relaxed and more free."

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Engagement Red Flags: Marry or Move on

(1) Comments | Posted May 30, 2014 | 4:18 PM

So you're in a relationship and considering the long term. For most, this means marriage and the thought of growing old together -- soul mates for life. But for some, the challenges during dating and into engagement make them wonder. Should we really get married? Should we tie the knot...

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8 Questions Every Couple Should Answer Way Before They Get Married

(6) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 11:10 AM

The greatest lessons we learn in life come from asking the right questions. Not the simple inquiries that we can answer quickly, that don't require much thought and only poke at the surface. The best answers come when we are challenged to think deeply, when we get really honest with...

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Love in a Dumpster: Where Does It Go and Where to Find It

(3) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 9:18 PM

I'm (Doug) sitting in a restaurant and pondering life, marriage and some of the pressing questions we all ask. Questions like this one. Where do the waiters and waitresses go while you're waiting to be served? It seems at times they just disappear and you're left wondering hard at their...

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If My Wife Were a Crouton

(0) Comments | Posted April 13, 2014 | 10:41 PM

How would I love her? Wouldn't be easy. But I have to find a way. Whether she's floating in soup, on top of a salad or sitting in a bag, unused, I would need to honor my "crouton wife."

So, if my wife were a crouton:

I'd watch her like...

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Six Ways To Bring Out Your Loving Self

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 2:35 PM

Loving another human being takes on a new dimension when we stop practicing "reactive love" and challenge ourselves to evaluate what depth of love we do and don't have to give our partner. Responding to another's care isn't wrong. But it isn't love in the greatest sense. Any one can...

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6 Things I Hope for My Granddaughter, My 'Jelly Bean'

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2014 | 1:29 PM

So I come out of my heart procedure with some daunting news. I need to go in for yet another Angiogram and likely stent insertion -- more heart trouble, more bad news about my upside down heart that evidently doesn't work all that well. Seems my open-heart surgery three years...

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8 Ways to Grow Love

(0) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 1:19 PM

Love thrives in the bedrock of a man or woman's heart, leaks out into the fabric of a caring bond with your lover, and seeks expression in an infinite number of ways. When you hold a baby you feel love. When men and women touch each other intimately, it becomes...

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To My Wife at Valentine's Day

(2) Comments | Posted February 9, 2014 | 10:27 PM

There is nothing like a close brush with death to wake you up -- to life, to what's important, to the real meaning of your journey here on earth. In December 2010, I nearly died -- or at least, was about to. I had problems with my heart, resulting in...

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I Love You -- Just Because

(0) Comments | Posted January 23, 2014 | 5:04 PM

Sometimes, it seems, we make loving our mate too complicated. Yes, being in a healthy marriage, a truly thriving one takes effort, skill and a huge capacity to love and forgive. Yet in all the moving parts that keep our love life growing and with the curve balls life brings...

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How I Lost My Wife to An iPad -- And How I Plan to Get Her Back

(4) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 12:05 PM

Yes, I did. Lost her to a device. A rectangular nightmare given as a gift not long ago. Little did I know what would unfold. How smart and clever that little silver, flat box would prove to be. I really didn't see it coming. One day I've surprised my wife...

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14 Pieces Of Wisdom About Life and Marriage For My Sons

(10) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 1:32 PM

Three years ago I went in for emergency triple bypass surgery. They called it a "high-risk surgery" -- 95 percent blockage in my left artery, 70 percent in my right and 50 percent in the main one. I could have died, but was spared. All this out of nowhere. One...

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