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Dr. Ali Binazir
Hi there! Thanks for visiting my bio page. About yours truly: I'm an author, speaker, personal change specialist and creativity consultant. My academic background: A.B. from Harvard College, an M.D. from the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, and an M.Phil. from Cambridge University. I'm also a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and have consulted for the Fortune 500 as an associate for McKinsey & Company.

My goal is to help people render consistently better decisions towards healthier, happier, more fulfilled lives.
To that end, my books, The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible and The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man's Enlightened Guide to Success with Women are the dating bibles for smart, educated folks like yourself. The idea is to help you become the smartest, happiest version of you using the tools of ancient wisdom and modern science.

For college students: Enter to Grow in Wisdom fills in the missing information you need to know to succeed in college and have a blast at the same time.

For more information, read my blogs (Awaken Your Genius, Tao of Dating, Enter to Grow in Wisdom), follow me on Twitter (@abinazir) or write to me directly. I read all of my own letters and do my best to respond to every single one.

Entries by Dr. Ali Binazir

The Millennial's Guide to Using a Telephone

(0) Comments | Posted June 1, 2016 | 2:56 PM


Hey there, people born after 1985! I noticed that a lot of you are having issues with your smartphone's simultaneous real-time voice chat app, also known as The Phone. So just in case you don't want to turn yourself into a pariah and...

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"Congratulations, You All Just Flunked Life": The Graduation Speech Harvard Will Never Permit

(4) Comments | Posted May 27, 2015 | 2:17 PM

Last week, as graduation season came rolling around, I thought to myself, "What if a commencement address at an elite college actually told the truth? What would that sound like?" So I decided to record that speech.

Here's an excerpt:

"Dear Super High-Achieving College Grad and parents now...

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On Pain and How to Handle It

(0) Comments | Posted April 7, 2014 | 11:57 AM


On Saturday morning, March 15, I woke up to shooting and stabbing pain down the right side of my neck, upper back and right arm. The pain encircled my ribs and was literally breathtaking.

I figured I must have slept with my neck...

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The 3 Hidden Reasons Why Smart Professional Women Inadvertently Stay Single

(1) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 11:41 AM

Francesca and Grace are two of my friends here in San Francisco who also happen to run Spark, a philanthropic network founded by women to help the lives of women worldwide. At a recent Spark cocktail party, even amongst the crowd of educated, stylish, philanthropic professional women, Francesca and Grace stood out....

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3 Ways To See The True Self In Others And In Yourself

(0) Comments | Posted January 19, 2014 | 9:00 AM

Click here to watch the TEDTalk that inspired this post.

My first experience of seeing more of people than usually meets the eye was in medical school. After saying hello, the first thing we said to patients was "Would you kindly disrobe?" They then removed all...

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Should You Keep Dating Him: The TAO Hotness Checklist

(14) Comments | Posted October 30, 2013 | 4:46 PM

Lately, several of my female friends and readers have shared their ambivalence about the men they were dating:

"He's really nice, but he never calls."
"He's super sexy, but he can't really carry a conversation."
"We have a great time when we get together, but it's always last-minute."

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5 Ways Success May Be Hurting Your Love Life

(3) Comments | Posted October 17, 2013 | 8:20 AM

Let's say you're a hard worker and have accomplished a fair amount in your life. Maybe you have an advanced degree, made vice president at your firm, or started a great company. And maybe in spite of success in your career, success in your love life has still been elusive.

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Superman X-Ray Vision for the Masses?

(0) Comments | Posted June 25, 2013 | 7:51 PM

If you could have just one of Superman's superpowers, what would it be? Most people would choose flight. After that, X-ray vision would probably be a close second.

That technology may be available to all of us sooner than you think. Los Alamos National Laboratories and a startup called...

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How to Stay Healthy Through the Holidays: 4 Essential Tips From Dr. Dean Ornish

(1) Comments | Posted December 23, 2012 | 8:00 AM

Even though the word "holiday" is supposed to evoke images of carefree fun and frolic, we all know the truth: The holiday season is one of the most stressful times of the year. Amidst all the travel, parties, family gatherings and potential overindulgence in food -- or the pointed lack...

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Preventive Medicine, Disaster Avoidance, and the Health of a Nation

(2) Comments | Posted November 2, 2012 | 1:00 PM

Recently I read about a new movie about a person with polio. "Wow. I'm really lucky not to have gotten polio," I thought, for the first time ever. A tingly wave of gratitude washed over me for functioning limbs that can run, dance and kick a football.

Come to think...

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Taoism in Three Easy Pieces

(5) Comments | Posted September 8, 2012 | 6:37 PM

It happens all the time: There you are at a cocktail party holding forth, eliciting appreciative smiles and nods. Life is good. Then someone asks out of the blue, "So what is this whole Tao thing about?"

Aw man. Not that again.

Happens all the time, but it doesn't have...

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London 2012 Olympics Solo Art Show of Mr Brainwash, Banksy Protege

(3) Comments | Posted August 6, 2012 | 11:37 AM

The solo show of Banksy protege Mr Brainwash, aka Thierry Guetta, opened on Sunday in the cavernous space of the Old Sorting Office of London's West End. Thousands of fans had queued up in anticipation of the 2pm opening of the free show and the promise of 250 limited-edition prints...

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Accessing Your Own Bottomless Well of Beauty: A Personal Account

(6) Comments | Posted May 27, 2012 | 9:18 AM

A couple of weeks ago, I attended a yoga festival conveniently located right down the street from me in Santa Monica. On the first day of this Tadasana Festival, the co-founder (and yoga instructor) Tommy Rosen was conducting a provocatively titled class -- "Getting High: Yoga and the Infinite...

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Should You Date Outside Your Tribe?

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2012 | 10:17 AM

With Valentine's Day approaching, here's an interesting letter I got recently, applying to both men and women:

Hi Dr. Ali,

I just bought and read your book on my Kindle this weekend and as a 28-year-old Persian girl born in America, was wondering how you think your principles would...
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What Real Life Goddesses Have in Common

(0) Comments | Posted November 30, 2011 | 12:31 PM

When I first wrote The Tao of Dating for Women, its subtitle was How to Embrace Your Inner Goddess and Find the Fulfillment You Deserve. Aside from not rolling trippingly off the tongue, I found that many women took issue with the word goddess. Whether it set an impossible...

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How to Make a Man Fall in Love With You

(17) Comments | Posted September 22, 2011 | 9:55 AM

Meet my friend Michelle -- a beautiful, sophisticated and exceptionally intelligent 30-year-old woman in New York City. Men are falling all over her left and right, but not too many of them can go toe-to-toe with her. Every once in a while, though, a keeper comes along. That's when she...

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The Best Languages to Learn in College

(40) Comments | Posted September 18, 2011 | 8:56 PM

For 8 years now, I've been running HUGS for THUGS / Enter to Grow in Wisdom, a sendoff event for rising Harvard freshmen. One of the biggest pieces of advice that I dispense to them is to take language classes. Universities generally do a fantastic job of teaching...

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Seven Things Smart Women Should Not Do On A Date

(366) Comments | Posted August 3, 2011 | 10:25 AM

I believe that smart, fabulous, successful, attractive women like yourself deserve fulfilling, deliriously happy love lives. Sometimes, though, unintentional behaviors ruin one's chances in courtship.

In compiling this list, I'm speaking as an author who's been on the receiving end of hundreds of guys' letters on their dating woes --...

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Before You Say "I Do:" A Checklist for Smart Women, Pt 2

(8) Comments | Posted July 1, 2011 | 1:57 PM

In the last installment of this article, we covered the first three items on the checklist. To recap, they were:

1) Do not say yes if you're deeply in love.
2) Do not marry a man you've known less than 18 months.
3) Get a prenuptial...

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Are You a Miracle? On the Probability of Your Being Born

(25) Comments | Posted June 16, 2011 | 3:55 PM

On my birthday, I had a strangely pertinent thought: what's the probability of being born?

In a recent talk at TEDx San Francisco, Mel Robbins, a riotously funny self-help author, mentioned that scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion.

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