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Debbie Magids, Ph.D. is a counseling psychologist with a thriving private practice in New York City.

Dr. Debbie is the author of All the Good Ones Aren’t Taken: Change the Way You Date and Find Lasting Love. In addition, she regularly contributes her advice to The Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and has been quoted in Glamour, Self, and Time Out New York magazines. A popular television guest, Dr. Debbie has appeared on The Dr. Oz Show, Today, The Steve Harvey Show, Good Day New York, Fox News with Ernie Anastos, Anderson Live, New York Live, Joy Behar: Say Anything! and The Joy Behar Show, The Nate Berkus Show, The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, CNN Headline News, The Jane Velez-Mitchell Show, Your World with Neil Cavuto, The Tyra Show, and The Montel Williams Show. Dr. Debbie’s commentary has also been featured on The Howard Stern Show, where she’s offered her expertise on the mental health of Howard and the team.

Before opening her private practice, Dr. Debbie was tenured at Kingsborough Community College as the Director of Counseling where she created the personal counseling center. She also trained future counselors during her time as a professor at Hunter College’s graduate counseling program.

Dr. Debbie holds a Master of Arts in Organizational Psychology and a Master of Education in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University’s Teachers College. She received her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Fordham University. Since her parents were child survivors of the Holocaust, Dr. Debbie felt compelled to explore the effects that the Holocaust could have on the surviving children in her doctoral dissertation. Her article, “Personality Comparison Between Children of Hidden Holocaust Survivors and American Jewish Parents,” was published in the Journal of Psychology [1998, 132 (3), 245 -245].

Dr. Debbie is a member of the American Psychological Association.

Entries by Dr. Debbie Magids

Why You're Still Single (And How to Change That) Part II: How to Break the Subconscious Contract

(0) Comments | Posted April 7, 2015 | 8:42 AM

If you're having difficulty forming a love relationship of your own because you're subconsciously putting your parent's emotional needs first, I'm going to ask you to perform an "Emotional Parental Amputation."

The reason I call this an amputation is because it'll feel like you're losing a part of yourself...

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Why You're Still Single (And How to Change That) -- Part I

(0) Comments | Posted April 3, 2015 | 11:36 AM

"I'm normal, attractive and have a good personality, so why am I still single?"

By all measures, my NYC clients are the most motivated, savvy and successful, but they're also the most terrified. They've inexplicably struggled in their pursuit of long lasting relationships and love. And they want to know...

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The Many Faces of Judgment

(1) Comments | Posted June 19, 2013 | 3:03 PM

"When you judge someone, you don't define them. You define yourself." -- Wayne Dyer

No truer words have been spoken. I've always believed that I am one of the least judgmental people to exist on this planet; I'd swear to it in a court of law. And I know many...

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The Joy in Life Is in Giving

(0) Comments | Posted May 24, 2013 | 4:59 PM

I'm naturally a giver. But I don't take credit for it. It's not something I had to work at, it came naturally. It was imparted to me -- my legacy from my parents. I was pre-programmed to attend to the needs of others and do what I can to make...

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Living in the 'Should's

(0) Comments | Posted May 23, 2013 | 4:04 PM

The "should"s of life are the greatest mental health killers I've come across! Every day, I sit with my clients as they talk about the things they're unhappy about. And the biggest culprit is usually not the thing itself, but how they're falling short of what their family, culture, or...

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The Tale of the Gold Earring

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2013 | 3:22 PM

Six years ago, I bought myself my first pair of gold hoop earrings. And I loved them. Soon after my purchase, I lost one. To make a long story short, I repurchased the same earrings three more times in the next round of years, until I was left with three...

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Because Love Wins

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2013 | 2:34 PM

I was sitting with one of my clients this week -- one who's changed dramatically through the course of our work together. But one of her biggest hurdles (which she's finally pushing through) is forgiveness, and acceptance of people and their imperfections.

As we were talking, she asked me, "How...

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Happiness Is the Simple Things in Life

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2013 | 12:24 PM

We hear this all the time: Pay attention to the small stuff -- the flowers blooming, the sunset, a rainbow. Be happy you're healthy. Be happy you can walk, talk, run, and breathe. That's really what it's all about. We may have loftier goals and want other things in our...

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Are We Drinking Too Much?

(1) Comments | Posted April 8, 2013 | 5:14 PM

I am one of the most fortunate psychologists in Manhattan. I have a very high-functioning, intelligent group of clients who are working their butts off to change and be more present in their lives and in the world. They are the people making things happen. And there's a theme amongst...

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Are Men Really From Mars?

(14) Comments | Posted April 8, 2013 | 4:28 PM

Are Men Really From Mars?

I don't think so.

We've heard it over and over again: "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We are so different." I am here to say that it just plain isn't true! Not the way I look at things, anyhow.

Yes, men...

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Living With Loss

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2013 | 3:01 PM

It's now going on five and a half years since I lost my father. I think of him every day, but it's not always painful anymore. However, it was painful again this past week. I had to put the last of the family cats to sleep and it opened my...

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Winners Never Quit, and Quitters Never Win

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2013 | 5:09 PM

"Life is a journey, not a destination." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The number one question I am asked on a daily basis is, "How do I keep my motivation up, Debbie?" Whether it's looking for love or a job, striving for a promotion or to lose weight -- people get...

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Combating the 'Dips' in Life

(2) Comments | Posted January 16, 2013 | 2:37 PM

In my life, I've created a schedule that works for me. I see my clients Monday through Wednesday, and Thursday and Friday are for getting things done (errands, primping, etc.), and working on other projects (like this blog, for instance)! This Friday was the chosen day for work. The only...

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The Brilliance of Meditation

(0) Comments | Posted December 13, 2012 | 10:20 AM

I am a meditator. I am someone who releases my emotions on a daily basis. I deal with myself. I don't drink, smoke, or take pills. I am someone who copes using the methods I teach: I'm aware of my emotions, and I experience them.

So when Deepak Chopra's 21-day...

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A Shift in Perspective

(0) Comments | Posted December 12, 2012 | 3:57 PM

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

This isn't a new notion for me, but the first person I heard say it in such a concise way was my guru, Wayne Dyer. And every time I have an experience that...

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Beating the Blues

(5) Comments | Posted November 26, 2012 | 11:37 PM

It's very hard to stay "blue" 24 hours a day, seven days a week. People have to work hard to do that, which is good news. You have the power -- even if you're experiencing the blues -- to get relief if you want it.

Most of the time, you...

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Don't Get Stuck in Regret

(9) Comments | Posted November 21, 2012 | 7:01 PM

The theme of my week personally and professionally (which happens so often) is: You really can't change the past. No matter how much you try, wish, cry... what's done is done. And too often, too many of us get stuck in the trying -- or get stuck in regret.


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Embracing Your Pain

(4) Comments | Posted October 25, 2012 | 2:03 PM

"The secret of joy is the mastery of pain." -- Anais Nin

Ahh, it's fall again. The summer is over, and the air is crisper. This is actually my favorite time of year. New beginnings, and better hair weather! But for me, fall also brings the dreaded Jewish holidays.


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Getting Back to Hopeful

(0) Comments | Posted September 28, 2012 | 12:29 PM

This blog is about my journey in the world of media and TV, but it relates to all areas of life. Just plug in whatever it is for you!

When I began my journey into TV land, I entered with lofty goals and big dreams. It's the hardest industry one...

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Separation Anxiety: On Feeling Homesick

(1) Comments | Posted September 21, 2012 | 9:00 AM

Recently, I returned home from a trip to LA. I was there pitching a TV show -- a dream I've been pursuing for the last five years. In all of the years I've been working on this dream, I've never been as excited or hopeful about a project as I...

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