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What Is Your Place In The World?

Posted: 05/05/10 11:12 AM ET

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver

I just returned from the Wisdom 2.0 conference, held last weekend in Mountain View, CA at the Computer History Museum. Hoping to discover more about wisdom, I came away with a new understanding and appreciation for the amazing role technology is playing in helping humans know and understand each other better, even though we may never meet face to face.

I also came away with a deeper connection to the plight of being human and the challenges we face as the world unfolds in a way that threatens our very existence. Witness the catastrophic oil spill in the Gulf last week, quite possibly the largest ecological disaster in the history of the world.

And at the same, I became aware of the enormous opportunities we have to come together as a species and save ourselves. We could turn this thing around if it was our collective intention to do so.

Technology will play a major role in our collective transformation. This much is clear. Technology may be creating some of our greatest challenges, but it also holds the solution to them. Transformation will come about in large part, because of the connectivity available to us now that never was available before. Sooner or later, we humans are going to figure this thing out. The only question is when? Will we come together to save ourselves before it's too late?

Now, it seems, we're too divorced from ourselves to know that in order to save ourselves, we must come home to ourselves. We must see ourselves as members of this human "tribe," knowing that the plight of each of us is dependent upon the plight of all of us and the plight of all of us is determined by the plight of each of us.

Who are you in the family of things in this world?

Is it not easier to lose sight of your place in the world and end up thinking it doesn't matter if you even have a place in the world? Is it not easier to do that than it is to remain always aligned and forever attuned to the voice and the rhythm of your higher nature? Is it not?

And based how you see the world unfolding, would it not be easier to think that what you think and what you do makes no difference in the matter of things? Wouldn't it be easier to think that than it would be to live in the awareness of your inherent unity with all that is? Wouldn't it?

It would, or so it seems. Yet, please let us think again.

Think about the 7 billion of us, who, if you looked beyond skin color, national origins or cultural backgrounds, you would discover "they" turn out to be a lot like you. And you might discover that most of "them" are thinking the same thoughts about themselves as you, carry similar worries and burdens of the heart as your own heart holds.

In other words, there's really only one of us here, manifest in 7 billion different ways. Each one of us uniquely different, while being inherently the same.

Therein lies the conundrum of being human. We are many, yet we're one. How do we travel with a foot in both worlds?

We live as though we have no knowledge of our collective condition, human beings traveling together through space, sharing a small ship called Earth. We live with little or no awareness of our connection to the whole and our part in it. Yet we do so at our own peril.

We look at each other as "other." There's "me" and there's "you." And we're separate and different, yet we're the same. Or there's "me" and there's everyone else. And everyone else is "them."

What is your place in a world like this?

What is your place in a world in which "they" think they're just one person and who really cares what "they" think? Who really cares what "they" do?

"They" think they're just too busy taking care of their own business to worry much about the business of anyone else. "They" think it's better to leave well enough alone and let everyone fend for themselves.

"They" think they have a lot of problems and so does everyone else. So how can anyone help anyone when everyone needs help?

"They've" already decided it isn't going to get any better, so why not do the best you can with what you've got and hope it all turns out?

"They" don't see many alternatives.

And then a brilliant human creation appears, leaving instructions for living life, and everything feels different:

Instructions for living a life

Pay attention.
Be astonished.
Tell about it."

-- Mary Oliver

Could it be this simple? Can we do this?


What is your place in a world like this?

Mary Oliver lays it out:

#1-It's your place to be among the awakened. How do I know? You're reading this. That's enough evidence. Your slumber is over, wake up.

#2- It's your place to look around and pay attention to what you see. It will astonish you. When you look with the eyes of an awakened one, you'll see the beauty and wonder of what's going on here. You'll see beyond the appearance of separation to touch the oneness that is life. You'll be amazed! Pay attention.

#3- It's your place to tell others, to awaken them from their slumber to have them join you. You wouldn't want to keep this good news all to yourself, now would you? Of course not! It's your place to help spread the word that this place of ours, this one precious life on this one precious planet that we share, is sacred. We are sacred. It's all sacred.

#4 - It's your place to behave accordingly, to honor the sacredness of all life. As if your very life depended upon it. For it does.

Mary Oliver invites us to take a deeper look:

"You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
call to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
"
-- Mary Oliver

And suddenly this big world feels almost cuddly, warm, and familiar. It seems smaller, more doable, like something you could wrap your arms around and cozy up to. Oliver invites us to remember that the world is offering up a place for each one of us, no matter who we are, no matter what burdens we carry.

The explosion of technology both expands our reach in the world and brings it down to size.
It gives us access to the creative output that 7 billion uniquely different, yet wonderously alike souls are bringing to the planet in 2010. Our collective wisdom is becoming available for all and once this reaches critical mass, game over. We win.

Let's declare the game already over and we've already won.

What would be your place in a world in which you and everyone else has already won?

Will you be a placeholder? Or will you wake up, pay attention, be astonished and tell everyone?

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"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with this one wild and precious life?" Mary Oliver I just returned from the Wisdom 2.0 conference, held last w...
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Ljilja
http://graciouslivingdaybyday.com/
09:52 AM on 05/07/2010
I have always believed that every one of us has the power to make great changes in this world - for good or evil.
One of the examples that I use when trying to convince my three children of their own strength and power is the story of Alexander Solzhenitsyn. In many ways, this one man made a crack in the power of the great Soviet empire with his book, "One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich."
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
08:53 AM on 05/06/2010
Hey dear Judith- sounds like you enjoyed the conference. Joan Halifax is a wonderful person - a gem. She is in our book and we know her a long time.

I see that the greatest place I can be is to serve and be at peace. If I/you are at peace there is one less person suffering

In seva,

Ed
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:36 AM on 05/06/2010
Dear Ed,

It really comes down to our individual choices, doesn't it? One less person suffering is a big deal. I'll sign on for that.

Many blessings my friend,
Judith
04:15 AM on 05/06/2010
Dr. Judith, this is another keeper. Thank you!

This time, I have two reasons to thank you: for your own thoughts, of course, but also for introducing me to Mary Oliver. Somehow I had missed her before, but she sounds like a poet I *need* to have in my mental library. I foresee a trip to the local (physical) library in the near future!
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:38 AM on 05/06/2010
Stay tuned! I'm also so inspired by Mary Oliver, I plan to use more of her poems as a starting place for future posts. She nails it!

So glad you came by and definitely pay her a visit. There is a lot of her work online.
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01:36 AM on 05/06/2010
I think one of the reasons for people's discontent has to do with our self-aggrandizing notion that we NEED to have "purpose-driven" life. And that our "purpose" NEEDS to be a "higher" purpose.

It's true that some aspire to greatness. Some even achieve it. But that might not be true for all of us. Nor does it NEED to be true for all of us. For every great leader to achieve, there has to be a lot of hard working role-players doing their part to make it happen. Think Kobe Bryant and the Lakers.

Maybe that's your "purpose." To be a role-player. Someone who aspires to serve mankind by playing their role and being happy with it. Maybe you're supposed to be a mom or dad who takes care of your children and passes your wisdom, experience and knowledge on to them so it can continue to be passed on after you're dead. Maybe you're just supposed to do whatever it is you do, be happy doing what you do, and pass what you do on to the next role-player.

It might sound like a small thing, but it's still the foundation of every civilization. So maybe we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves when people try to convince us that we NEED to pursue a "higher" purpose. Maybe you already found your place in this world.
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
10:12 AM on 05/06/2010
what i understand as a higher purpose has nothing to do with the blind and stupid egos version of higher, as always ego has it completly bass ackwards, higher is being in relation and allignment with your highest self, the divinity in each being, that can mean anything at all, it can mean mom and dad, or POTUS, or anything, spirit cares not a whit for any of the worldly dharmas. in fact really wise people avoid high powered positions, they are all too often a straitjacket, real change comes from the margins, not from the center of power.
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09:58 PM on 05/06/2010
My point is that people judge OTHER people's choices against a so-called "higher" purpose. And that judgment places unwarranted pressures on us as individuals. I what Dr. Rich is saying is that it's easy to lose sight of where we are if we care too much about what "they" say.

For example: Stay-at-home Mom vs. Career Mom

Each has made her own choice according to her own beliefs, circumstance or desires. Yet, that's not good enough for "them." On one end of the spectrum, they look at stay-at-home mom as wasting her life and her talents. Meanwhile, on the other end, they think career mom should be home caring for her children. Each is being compared to someone else's notion of what a "higher purpose" means.

Granted, some people have gotten where they are by default. They never choose their own fate. Fate seems to choose them. OK, maybe THEY need help in finding their place in the universe. But the rest of us got here by choice -- i.e., we already found our place in the universe on our own.

We don't really need to or want to hear what you or God has planned for us. We like where we are. We're doing what we believe we were intended to do.
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04:37 PM on 05/05/2010
What would I do if we had indeed reached critical mass and the game was over and we had won?

I'd say: one more time, please. Da capo. But more edges please. Although it's already been one hell of a ride.

Or maybe I would just say: ok. So we did it. Who would have thunk.

Depends on the size of the bang after the critical mass is reached. Or maybe on the song that plays while the 'game over' is flashing.

:-)
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:36 PM on 05/05/2010
In other words, Diog, you plan to celebrate and have a good time! :-) I'll join you in that.

What music would you prefer to be playing while they flash the "Game Over" sign? I'll have to think about that myself. Maybe "We Are The Champions?"
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12:43 AM on 05/06/2010
sure works for me
04:11 AM on 05/06/2010
Da capo, YES!!! How perfect! :)

A dear dear friend once made me an inspirational collage which still hangs on my office wall and which I continue to use frequently for a spark. One of the quotes on it is, "Dish it up, baby, and don't spare the jalapeños!" I'll admit, all too often I still shy away from the jalapeños. But you do have the right idea here: let's do this thing Da Capo, but with more edge, with more verve, with more fire.

With more jalapeños. Only please, may these jalapeños be more joyous and less destructive.
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:41 AM on 05/06/2010
You guys are right there on the same page as I. I'm all for more edge and more verve, etc. I like things a bit spicy, but then maybe that's because my mother was German and her cooking was very bland. (No offense, Diogenes).

How about more FUN, while we're at it? Joyous Jalapenos, please!
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03:41 PM on 05/05/2010
opps i forgot! hi doc judi:) glad you had fun at the wisdom 2.0 conference
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03:40 PM on 05/05/2010
when i was four i yanked on my mothers dress and madfe a circle, i said everythings connected, she said oh yes honey, but i persisted and said said no mommy you dont understand, doing the circle again everythings connected! its amazing that children can see things adults tend to forget, all the bits and pieces have us lost within ourselves our society our planet. we forget to lay on our backs and look up at clouds and see different shapes, its nothing for a child to imagine possibilties, i think we woulkd run our world much better if we spent some time in the grass looking up.
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:38 PM on 05/05/2010
Pema,

I am so with you on this! I think this idea deserves a whole blog all by itself! I have similar memories as a child, knowing everything was connected, yet not really having language to express my experience.

I'm going to lie down in the grass now, and spend some time looking up. Thanks for the reminder!
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marycp
Christian Author
02:30 PM on 05/05/2010
I plan to write from my heart in this life God has given me. Writing can be so rewarding, but at times it can scrub my spirit raw.

Peace to you,
Mary
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:41 PM on 05/05/2010
Dear marycp

Oh yeah! I know the feeling you speak of. Or as Natalie Goldman says, "Writing Down The Bones". It's such a gift to love writing. I consider it one of my biggest blessings. Even when my spirit is raw from it. Maybe even, especially when.

Thank you for speaking an important truth!
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Dr. Cara Barker
author, artist, and Jungian Analyst,
02:17 PM on 05/05/2010
I'm one of Mary Oliver's biggest fans. She makes a difference because she comes from 'her place of belonging,' she cares for the 'soft, furry creature inside her,' and lets the rest go, without complaint, without comparison, without repentence. This is the only type of club in which I feel true membership. Many thanks to you, Judith, and to Kari, for your beautiful sharing! Here, I belong.

Love,
Cara

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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:43 PM on 05/05/2010
Dear Cara,

Here you belong, indeed! Mary Oliver is a soul sister, that's for sure! Her images transport me. When I came across these poems, while "shopping for inspiration", my soul said "this is it".

I'm glad it spoke to you, too.
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
12:40 PM on 05/05/2010
i declared victory long ago, and am still winning it moment by moment when i remember, or when i forget that too is not defeat, it is just a reminder of why, why remember, why declare and live in victory, why let the astonishment really shake you to all the way up. i think i speak up quite well about the wonder of the world, not as well as mary maybe, but my voice is just as important for whoever it is important to, it only takes one. it is like anything you do, do it not because it will make a difference, it will, but because it needs doing, leave all the rest, the ego delights in comparison and despair is always about limiting your view to what can be counted, what really counts rarely can be counted, just try counting love, the math just doesn't work.
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:46 PM on 05/05/2010
Oh, such important truths you speak!

I love what you say: " it is like anything you do, do it not because it will make a difference, it will, but because it needs doing, leave all the rest..."

Thank you always for "speaking up". Your voice matters. Thanks too for reminding that only love counts. This is all that matters.
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
11:56 AM on 05/05/2010
Well let me be the first to "pop" on over today!
I also attended the conference, and participated in a magical mediation by Roshi Joan Halifax about the gulf devastation. I also walked away realizing the founder of many of the latest tools of technology are VERY interested in keeping our hearts and souls connected in the very highest of ways. If we use the tools with astonishment, and tell about our truths, it becomes an amazing tool to break down barriers. Thanks for the sublime review of Mary Oliver, she is a true master.
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
11:49 PM on 05/05/2010
Well Miss Kari,

It's been a long day and I'm just now sitting down to connect with ya'll. Seeing you at the conference was a highlight for me, for sure! Just wish we could've spent more time together. I'm sure you'll be cooking up your next blog with some of the wisdom you gathered. I look forward to reading what you took away.

Thanks for "popping" over! I so appreciate your constant presence and support.

Much love,
Judith