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Is Technology Making Children More Empathic?

Posted: 04/15/10 10:35 AM ET

Jeremy Rifkin, the author of the just-published book The Empathic Civilization: The Race to Global Consciousness in a World in Crisis, suggests that The Age of Reason is being eclipsed by the Age of Empathy. The Age of Reason refers to the eighteenth-century European Enlightenment, in which reason, analysis and science became the metrics by which all knowledge is measured.

Unfortunately, Rifkin says, our educational structures and modes of teaching science remain grounded in the Age of Reason. Rote memorization of facts, competition among peers and individual achievement are hallmarks of this approach. As Rifkin explains,

[T]he traditional classroom curriculum continues to emphasize learning as a highly personal experience designed to acquire and control knowledge by dint of competition with others. The shift into the distributed ICT [Information and Communications Technology] revolution, however, and the proliferation of social networks and collaborative forms of engagement on the Internet are creating deep fissures in the orthodox approach to education. The result is that a growing number of educators are beginning to revise curricula by introducing distributed and collaborative learning models into the classroom. Intelligence, in the new way of thinking, is not something that is divided up among people but, rather, the field of experience that is shared between people.


Today, young people see the world in a different way than their parents, who often cannot understand why their children are always glued to their BlackBerries in an orgy of talking, texting and tweeting. While their parents value individualism and privacy, today's youngsters view connectivity, interaction and collaboration as everything. And forget privacy; for them, being out of touch is a cardinal sin.

The extent of their kids' connectivity is disturbing to many adults. "If your kids are awake, they're probably online," said a report on media use by kids in The New York Times in January 2010. "The average young American now spends practically every waking minute -- except for the time in school -- using a smart phone, computer, television or other electronic device," says the Times. The basis for these observations is a 2009 national survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation, "Generation M2: Media in the Lives of 8 to 18-Year-Olds." The study found that kids eight to eighteen spend more than seven and a half hours a day with such devices. And that does not count the hour and a half that they spend texting, or the half-hour they talk on their cell phones. And as a result of media multitasking, such as surfing the Internet while listening to music, they cram nearly eleven hours of media content into those seven and a half hours.

The authors of the Kaiser study say they were shocked. Following a similar survey in 2005, they concluded that the use of electronic devices could not possibly grow further. Their 2009 study found several worrisome trends, such as the correlation of heavy media use with behavioral problems and lower grades. What are parents to do? Some experts suggest they simply get over it. Pediatrician Michael Rich, director of the Center on Media and Child Health of Children's Hospital Boston, says that media use among kids is so pervasive that it is time to stop arguing over whether it is good or bad and accept it as part of children's environment, "like the air they breathe, the water they drink and the food they eat."

Many observers such as Rifkin believe there are positives in the desire of kids to be electronically connected all the time. Concealed in this behavior, they say, is a need for acceptance and to be liked and loved, which is a healthy desire that has always been a part of the maturational process. The obsessive reaching out via electronic media may be one remove from empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. If so, could educators proactively pick up this ball and run with it? This seems to be happening. In April 2009 The New York Times, in a front-page article, reviewed the empathy revolution that is taking place in American classrooms. Workshops and curricula to foster core values such as empathy, respect, responsibility and integrity now exist in eighteen states. Results of these pioneering efforts are encouraging. Schools report a marked decrease in bullying, violence, aggression and other anti-social behavior, fewer disciplinary actions, increased cooperation among students, more pro-social behavior, more focused attention in classrooms, a greater desire to learn and improved critical thinking skills.

Empathy programs in schools have been criticized as artificial, hokey and girly, and as a theft of curriculum time that could be devoted to "real" subjects. Proponents, however, see them as an indicator of a major shift in which relationships, collaboration and networks are as important as individualism and personal achievement were to kids of prior generations.

There is a tendency to view kids' passionate embrace of networked relationships and connectivity as an aberration ("what is this generation coming to?") or as a temporary event ("they'll grow out of it"). These responses may miss the larger picture. Kids' embrace of a new way of being in the world may mirror changes that have been steadily increasing in other areas of society, including science. As Rifkin says:

A new science is emerging whose operating principles and assumptions are more compatible with network ways of thinking. The old science views nature as objects; the new science views nature as relationships. The old science is characterized by detachment, expropriation, dissection and reduction; the new science is characterized by engagement, replenishment, integration and holism. The old science is committed to making nature productive; the new science to making nature sustainable. The old science seeks power over nature; the new science seeks partnership with nature. The old science puts a premium on autonomy from nature; the new science on re-participation with nature.


What happens when we try to inculcate children with the scientific method, the main legacy of traditional science? Too often the result is something of a disaster. In Part 3, we'll see why.


References

Rifkin J. The Empathic Civilization. New York, NY: Tarcher/Penguin; 2009: 604-605.

Lewin T. "If your kids are awake, they're probably online." New York Times. January 20, 2010. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/20/education/20wired.html. Accessed February 18, 2010.

Generation M2: media in the lives of 8- to 18-year-olds. Kaiser Family Foundation. http://www.kff.org/entmedia/mh012010pkg.cfm. January 20, 2010. Accessed February 18, 2010.

Rich M. Quoted in: Lewin T. If your kids are awake, they're probably online." New York Times. January 20, 2010. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/20/education/20wired.html. Accessed February 18, 2010.

Hu W. Gossip girls and boys get lessons in empathy. New York Times. April 4, 2009.

Rifkin J. The Empathic Civilization. New York, NY: Tarcher/Penguin; 2009: 601.

Rifkin J. The Empathic Civilization. New York, NY: Tarcher/Penguin; 2009: 599-600.

 
 
 
Jeremy Rifkin, the author of the just-published book The Empathic Civilization: The Race to Global Consciousness in a World in Crisis, suggests that The Age of Reason is being eclipsed by the Age of ...
Jeremy Rifkin, the author of the just-published book The Empathic Civilization: The Race to Global Consciousness in a World in Crisis, suggests that The Age of Reason is being eclipsed by the Age of ...
 
 
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Christine Maingard
Author of Think Less Be More
06:08 PM on 04/15/2010
The excessive and often constant use of electronic social networks does, in my opinion, not promote empathy. Indeed, it may even hinder it, as someone suggested.

Empathy is the capacity to identify with another's feeling, it's the ability to put oneself into another's shoes. Empathetic communication is about listening, recognising, pausing, clarifying and legitimising the other's feeling, and offering support. Also, empathy starts with being able to understand your own emotions first in order to understand another's.

Electronic communication is about speed and multitasking. There is no time to properly listen and reflect, let alone to be empathetic. Up until about a year ago my own son (now 23) was a typical excessive social media user. Speed and multitasking was the essence, and neither has anything to do with empathy. Only when he gradually reduced his constant electronic interactions, did I observe that he allowed his more reflective and supportive part of him to surface.

Dr Christine Maingard Author of "Think Less, Be More" http://www.thinklessbemore.com
03:27 PM on 04/15/2010
I'm not at all convinced there is a fundamental conflict between reason and empathy, in fact I suspect the two are correlated. If you empathize with someone you can see things from his/her perspective. Then reason is required to reconcile any differences between yours and anothers view.

I have also often thought that television plays a role in developing morality. Even sappy melodramas drop a viewer into a moral dilemma, forcing him/her to deal with it. And that's why I think each successive generation is more moral and more tolerant than the one before.
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Tyler-Durden
leading a revolution of one
01:38 PM on 04/15/2010
empathy? where? kids are as mean as ever.

but, if they ARE learning any empathy, IT WILL SURELY BE FLUSHED OUT OF THEIR SYSTEM when they become adults. i, me, mine. i, me, mine! 21st c. Amerikan mantra
01:13 PM on 04/15/2010
Given the rise of "cyber bullying", I'd say technology has made us anything but empathetic. If anything, it gives another arena for the very worst deficits in empathy to shine.
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Violeta
09:23 AM on 04/16/2010
It goes both ways. I've read more personal stories online than in person because people find it easier to share over a computer, I've had more flexibility in responding to individuals and therefore could better do things when I wasn't as tired/frustrated and could be more considerate, and I see people engaged in a lot more networks and exposed to a lot more perspectives. What matters most is not the object (the computer game, the alcohol) but the foundation of the person in a developmental sense; their attachment style, their attitudinal attributions in the world, etc. It's not the match, it's what the person does with it.
08:29 PM on 04/16/2010
I agree with you; I didn't mean to make it sound as if technology was making us less empathetic, just that it's foolish to believe that it would make us more empathetic. Technology is merely a tool, and, in the hands of children, has a habit of unmasking their inherent deficits of empathy and regard for the consequences of their words.
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jabailo
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12:19 PM on 04/15/2010
Today, anyone can get a college education just by reading on the web. We could take the best teacher-teachers and create a National Online Lecture Series and students could watch it on YouTube.

Then schools would have the job of tutoring, but mostly socialization and "empathy" (as well as sports, group dynamics...).
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RedDogBear
11:43 AM on 04/15/2010
"our educational structures and modes of teaching science remain grounded in the Age of Reason. Rote memorization of facts, competition among peers and individual achievement are hallmarks of this approach"

That's a classic example of a straw man. Reason and science are not at all about rote memorization and competition. Problem solving, ability to construct mathematical proofs, ability to pick apart arguments, to debate, to collaborate, all these things are what an "age of reason" and a good scientific education would be about. I wish we were in an age of reason.
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PenguinLinux
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10:57 AM on 04/15/2010
Technology does not enhance empathy, but rather it hinders it. This is because people often feel rushed, they perceive life is moving at an ever-increasing pace and coupled along with information overload; this leads to techno-fatigue, which drains us of energy rather than boosts it.

I was born an Intuitive Empath; and I've used technology (computers) since I was 11 years old in 1978, so I'm no Luddite when it comes to it; however, overload is still possible for me even though I do not use any social networking sites, SMS, etc. It's about maintaining a proper balance to not be overwhelmed. This is why I avoid Facebook, Twitter, Linked In, MySpace, RSS Feeds, Texting, large crowds, negaitve energy in whatever form it may be, etc.
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RedDogBear
11:40 AM on 04/15/2010
I think its foolish to say that technology in and of itself either hinders or promotes empathy. It all depends on how you use it. I do agree with you though that there are definite risks towards being less empathic when you communicate online. At work if I'm having trouble with someone especially if it seems we are getting angry with each other, I always try to refrain from saying too much via email and wait to have a conversation (preferably face to face). With email so much context is lost its easy to miss various cues that really help you understand what the person is feeling above and beyond their words. I found this to be one of the most important lessons about managing and collaborating with people, don't argue via email, without the cues if people are getting angry each side starts to assume the worst and things spiral out of control.
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PenguinLinux
got root ?
03:25 PM on 04/15/2010
No need for ad homenium arguments. I am not foolish, nor is the idea. Perhaps I should have stated it better in saying that it is the USE of that technology vs the technology itself which is my point; but I didn't think I needed to argue semantics.

Next time I'll know better.
12:44 AM on 04/22/2010
I like this article. it just goes to show how strongly the human need is to belong and integrate. But i also am in agreement with RedDogBear that context is lost via quick communication. I beleive it could be that certain personality types skim read arbitrarily and end up treating every email in a simplistic generic way and miss cues only because they go into reading with other competing priorities on their minds. Giving attention to just one thing is something of the past. That is also what the underlying problem is nowadays. But i feel it is more positive than negative to have networking technology like we now have. We have no other way of getting together and meeting aside from schools and churches and they are often not in walking distances to our homes. There are no more Main streets with affordable shops, no more need to meet up with neighbors to help another neighbor with their roof repair. We rather hire someone. We don;t want our kids roaming for fear of kidnappings. Communication via technology is all we have right now. The hopeful thing is that we now have proof that humans prefer interaction with other human beings instead of being entertained mindlessly by the television. TV can not keep anyones attention anymore. What the article does not reveal is what type of activity is being done for 8 hours a day. What percentage of kids are simply switching from mindless TV shows to mindless internet games.