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Why Doing Nothing Is the Key to Happiness

Posted: 07/08/2012 11:23 am

Attention and focus are hard to come by. Starbucks built a $13 billion business because we need help paying attention.

Psychiatrists increasingly diagnose "adult attention deficit disorder" and prescribe Ritalin for grown-ups who can't focus or pay attention. But is coffee and prescription "speed" the answer to our modern distraction?

Distracted by email, iPhones, the ping of a new text message, bad news on television and the stresses of work, of relationships and family, it is easy to be overwhelmed, stressed and miss the extraordinary gift of being alive. Our bodies' break down under the onslaught of stress -- insomnia, anxiety, depression, and all chronic disease is made worse by unremitting stress.

The Buddha was walking down the road shortly after he was enlightened and a traveler saw his remarkable energy. He asked him if he was an angel, a wizard, a magician, or some kind of god. "No," the Buddha said, "I am awake."

What matters most in life is the quality of our experience, the ability to be awake to what is real and true in our lives, for the difficult and the happy times, to be awake to each person we touch, to our own experience, to the moment we are in, to the simple, sweet, and alive gifts of a smile, a touch, a kind deed, the breeze on our skin, or a firefly flickering in the early summer night.

But that is harder than it sounds. Our monkey mind gets in the way. In order to pay attention we need to be quiet, to be practiced at stillness, to know the habits of our mind and be skilled at dancing with them, not to be controlled or dominated by them. To witness the thoughts and feelings we have without having them overwhelm, dominate, and control our lives.

My way into medicine was through Buddhism. I majored in Buddhist studies at Cornell. As a young man in college I was deeply interested in the mind, in the nature of our consciousness, of the ways our thoughts and perceptions control our lives and how we can work with them in a juicy, helpful way that brings more love, kindness, compassion, and insight into every moment, rather than darkness, suffering, struggle and pain.

Pain is inevitable. Loss is inevitable. Death, illness, war, and disaster have always been and will always be part of the human condition. Yet within it, I wondered as a young man, was there a way to understand suffering in a different light, to break the cycle of suffering?

I realized there was a way to be more awake, to see things as they are, to notice life as it is and to savor it, to love it, to wake up with gratitude, lightness, and celebration for the magic of life. It is always there, and the trick is simply to notice.

But to notice requires a stillness of the mind. This is something not quite so easy to achieve for most of us. Being awake takes practice. Each of us can find our path to being awake. Ancient traditions provide many avenues.

Belief in any particular religion or philosophy is not necessary, just a desire to show up and pay attention without judgment or criticism. To notice the ebb and flow of our breath and our thoughts without holding on to them, like waves washing over you on a summer day at the beach.

This is harder than it sounds, because it requires us to be patient with ourselves, to love ourselves, even all the ugly, petty, small thoughts. It requires us to create calm within the chaos through non-judgmental awareness. Most of us have no clue how to do this.

When I was 20 years old, I spent 10 days in a silent meditation retreat sleeping, meditating, and eating. That was it. As the turbulent oceans of my young mind settled each day, I began to feel more awake, more alive and happier than I ever had before.

The happiness was not connected to any external event or person, but to the simple joy of being able to notice beauty and brilliance in the people and in the nature that surrounded me.

Over my life I have come in and out of practicing stillness, but whenever I return to it, it feels like home. There are a thousand ways to meditate -- traditional mindfulness meditation is the simplest and most accessible, but any form can work: yoga, nature, dance, breathing, and prayer.

The point of mediation, of doing nothing, is not an end in itself but a way to calm the mind, to see the true nature of things, and reduce the impact of suffering while increasing love, kindness, wisdom, fearlessness, and sympathy.

From that stillness life becomes richer, your actions more clear, your words more direct and powerful, and your capacity to be fully engaged in life enhanced. It is not a retreat from life, but a way to go fully into it and cultivate your own power and happiness.

The benefits of meditation have been well proven by science. Mediation can help reduce chronic pain, blood pressure, headaches, anxiety and depression.

It can help you lose weight, lowers cholesterol, increase sports performance, boost immune function, relieve insomnia, increase serotonin, improve creativity, optimize brain waves, help in learning, focus attention, increase productivity, enhance memory, and more.

But none of those reasons are the reasons I meditate or practice yoga (which for me is meditation in motion). It is to be more awake to life, to myself, to cultivate loving kindness and compassion toward myself, others, and to the sordid human condition we find ourselves in.

The good news is that all you need is a few minutes and a place to sit and be quiet (you can do this anywhere). Here is a simple instruction for mindfulness mediation you can try yourself.

Mindfulness Meditation

Instructions:

1. Sit in a comfortable position. Try to sit in the same place each day. Avoid positions that you might fall asleep in.

  • The back is long and supports itself.
  • Shoulders are relaxed downward, the neck is long, and the chin is pointing neither up nor down.
  • The face is relaxed.

2. Begin to breathe (preferably through the nostrils.) Feel the belly rise, the ribs expand, and the slight movement in the collarbones and shoulders as the breath moves upward. Feel the exhalation.

3. Focus on one aspect of the breath.

  • The movement of air in and out of the nostrils.
  • Or the lifting and falling of the belly.

4. Watch that one aspect of the breath.

  • When the mind wanders, gently bring it back to the breath and the aspect you have chosen to watch.
  • Do this as many times as you need to.
  • There is no such thing as a good or bad meditation. (Good and bad are judgments, events in the mind -- just note them and go back to the breathing.)

5. Start with 5-10 minutes and then increase the time until you can sit for 30 minutes.


To Learn More

If you want to learn more and experience guided meditations I recommend a few wonderful resources and further reading.

Now I'd like to hear from you...

What are your daily meditation practices?

Do you take time out of your busy day to relax? How?

Have you noticed an improvement in your health from practicing meditation?

Please leave your thoughts by adding a comment below.

To your good health,

Mark Hyman, M.D.

Mark Hyman, M.D. is a practicing physician, founder of The UltraWellness Center, a four-time New York Times bestselling author, and an international leader in the field of Functional Medicine. You can follow him on Twitter, connect with him on LinkedIn, watch his videos on YouTube, become a fan on Facebook, and subscribe to his newsletter.

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10:08 AM on 07/17/2012
I set aside 1 hour a day at night just before I go to bed. I can't manage to meditate for the whole hour but set it aside to sit in the darkness on my bed. The common themes of my meditation are attention to breath and what each of the steps in the noble eightfold path really mean.

Eg. What is really meant by right understanding
What is really meant by right effort
01:46 PM on 07/12/2012
So close! The article starts out promising, and then gives the Mindfulness Meditation instructions. The critical piece is missing in these instructions, the critical piece which makes the Buddha's meditation so different from the 95% of Vipassana (concentration, focus, absorption) meditation. It is the RELAXING that is missing.

Relaxing what? Relaxing the tension and tightness (which can be subtle sometimes) in body AND mind. What is that tension and tightness? It is the manifestation of "craving", it is the "I like this" or "I don't like that" mind, it is judging, it is what the Buddha called the "attachment."

In the instruction given in the article, relaxing is missing. That means one does not see or understand "craving", one does not see or understand how craving arises (i.e. tension and tighness arising), one does not see or understand letting go of craving (i.e. relaxing the tension and tightness in body and mind). One does not see the Four Noble Truths and Dependent Origination, nor practice the Eightfold Path.

In the instruction given in the article, relaxing is missing. That means one does not let go of craving, and brings the craving back to the object of meditation (breath, here). This is not letting go. This is not what the Buddha taught.

I encourage everybody to go back to the original teachings of the Buddha, and see for themselves. Find the book "The Breath of Love" by Bhante Vimalaramsi, which is based on the Anapanasati and Satipatthana Suttas.
11:25 PM on 07/12/2012
Interesting - I would say that your reply is so close :) I agree that a quality of acceptance/non-judgment is critical. I also agree that going back to the early readings is invaluable. I am not sure, however, that relaxation is a goal per se. I believe it is often a pleasant "side effect," but I do not believe that one deliberately (intentionally) attempts to relax when practicing mindfulness meditation. This point is what many people attribute to the difference between standard relaxation procedures (e.g., progressive muscle relaxation) and mindfulness meditation. For example, if one begins to mediate while already feeling anxious, intentional efforts to relax would seem to imply non-acceptance of current emotional and/or physiological processes. Indeed, such an approach, I think, would involve suppression - an emotion regulation strategy that is almost "opposite" acceptance, and has been associated in many instances with negative emotional outcomes. In short, I wouldn't think that relaxation is a necessary condition for non-judgment and/or the awareness of craving - but that may not be what you are saying at all - it is unclear to me if you mean that relaxation is a starting point or a consequence, though either way I am not sure that it is necessary in itself. I would be interested to hear more of your thoughts :)
10:03 AM on 07/13/2012
Please contact me privately if you wish to discuss this further.

It seems to me you mis-interpreted my comment. I did not write to suppress/control the feeling of anxiety. I wrote to relax the tension/tightness, which is the manifestation of craving. You leave the feeling be as it is (acceptance), and understand how the arising of feeling caused the arising of craving, then clinging, then habitual tendencies, then birth of action, ...

For now, let me give you the instructions found in the suttas:

MN-118:18 Breathing in (out) long (short), he understands: "I breathe in (out) long (short)". He trains thus: "I shall breathe in (out) long (short) experiencing the whole body". He trains thus: "I shall breathe in (out) long (short) tranquilizing the bodily formation". [...] He trains thus: I shall breathe in (out) long (short) experiencing mental formations". (This is thought.) He trains thus: I shall breathe in (out) long (short) tranquilizing mental formations."

This is the beginning of the meditation instructions. One simply UNDERSTANDS the breath, not control it. One TRAINS actively, this is what one DOES when meditating: experiencing the body, tranquilizing (i.e. relaxing) the body, experiencing mental formations, tranquilizing (i.e. relaxing) mental formations. This asks you to RELAX and EXPERIENCE, not control what's going on. (The quote is incomplete, please read the whole sutta!)
01:43 PM on 07/12/2012
I generally do about 45 min. – 1 hour a day of mindfulness meditation, and 15 min. of writing meditation. The results I achieve are:

- I am more focused and alert
- More peaceful and serene
- Much more emotionally stable
- My memory has improved
- I sleep much better
- My relationships have improved.
- I’m more loving, patient, and understanding
- I’m generally more enthusiastic about life.

I can’t say for certain what health benefits I've achieved, but I feel much better physically. I’m 51 years old and in excellent physical health. I have no physical ailments, and I’m very energetic.

I attribute most of these results to the mindfulness meditation practice, but a great deal is attributable to the writing meditation. While the sitting meditation achieves more long-term results, the writing meditation achieves dramatic changes in my attitudes and behavior toward other people. If done long enough, the writing meditation will achieve long-term results.

Charles A. Francis
http://www.mindfulnessmeditationinstitute.org/what-is-writing-meditation/
08:46 PM on 07/11/2012
Regarding :"It is to be more awake to life, to myself, to cultivate loving kindness and compassion toward myself, others, and to the sordid human condition we find ourselves in."
I have this to say......
Our 'condition' is as it should be for this time and place..... and to name it 'sordid', puts it on a pedestal of focus that helps it flourish in a negative way.
Life is flourishing with beauty and peace all around us and to put focus on that 'condition' and name it 'sordid' just gives it negative energy and feeds it to make it stronger. I think that 'condition' needs to be acknowledged and embraced as being necessary and positive and valuable to our growth as human beings with spirit, and then engulfed in light and let go.
It's part of the 'all is as it should be'. I think a Buddhist should have kept that in mind when writing the article.
That's just my take and my opinion.
04:20 PM on 07/11/2012
It is very telling that one of the greatest minds of all time ... Albert Einstein, did his most profound work during his ‘miracle year’, 1905. This was a year he worked for a Swiss patent office because he was unable to find work in the field of science. This position left him bored with ample amounts of free time allowing his extraordinary mind to wander and create ... and leading to some of his greatest theories.

One is left to wonder, if he had been busily occupied ... if his amazing work during this time would ever have developed.
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12:33 PM on 07/19/2012
It is "process" my dear.
Look at the written despondence between Albert and the mathematician Constantine Caratheodory.
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beth24
02:23 AM on 07/10/2012
if you live in a metropolis like i do it is hard. i worry everyday about survival here. among 8 million people i see mostly lonely mentally ill people divorced from nature clean air etc. there is no affordable housing people are cramped, competitive and also full of anxiety. im sure Oregon must be a peaceful place but doubt i could live there everyday either thanks for his though i love meditation but there seems o be so little time for this but i will try..tired of being afraid of fellow man and the evil in this world
02:55 PM on 07/10/2012
So natural to feel too busy or overwhelmed to make time for meditation. The key for me was starting small: 5 minutes a day (or even 2 minutes a day) is a world of difference from zero minutes. If you find something small enough to practice consistently, you'll be able increase it little by little as your trust in yourself and the world deepens.
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beth24
04:43 AM on 07/11/2012
thank you for this..I was even given a wonderful mantra in a very special class..I must start soon again because what a thing to waste..thank you for this suggestion...
06:08 AM on 07/19/2012
I love this tip from Joseph Goldstein: If you find it hard to integrate meditation in your daily life, instead of making a commitment to yourself to meditate everyday, make the commitment to at least once a day sit in meditation posture. Even if it is just for 5 seconds, you will notice that your mind will find it easier to commit to this, and once you sit, 5 seconds will turn into 5 minutes or more soon...
04:51 PM on 07/11/2012
beth24; I know exactly what your saying and why.
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Winter Skye
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10:19 PM on 07/09/2012
I am very concerned about electronics and how they affect people's consciousness. Whenever I take public transportation, it is unnerving how many people stare at their little personal screens constantly like zombies. You cannot be here now when you are outside of yourself, either yakking on the phone or texting or looking at some distraction.
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beth24
02:24 AM on 07/10/2012
indeed people seem like zombies today one new freind said to me "oh you dont text? you arent going to have any friends" i hate texting i like to hear the human voice..people are awful today
04:23 PM on 07/10/2012
I agree. I thought I was the only person on the face of the earth that doesn't text, but I'm happy to learn that I'm not. I have always been in awe of nature and whenever the human condition gets me down, I look at the clouds and marvel as they change shapes and drift away. I'm curious as to the future of the current human being - it seems they are morphing into androids. On the flip side of things, I can see myself owning my own personal robot that I would program to cater to my every need.
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Winter Skye
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07:02 PM on 07/10/2012
LOL- like they have real friends? The irony is you can't even get someone to answer the damn phone these days or return your calls! We have so much technology and it is misused.
04:53 PM on 07/11/2012
Winter Skye; yes, yes, and yes. I think it's so disturbing, too, like people have become silent zombies; engrossed and self-absorbed.
06:12 PM on 07/09/2012
I have been doing Transcendental Meditation for 30 years now. It is the single best "gift" I ever gave myself. I am 65, look 55, feel 45. I am always happy to be wherever I am. If everyone meditated, the world community would be at peace. Meditation helped me make correct decisions throughout my business and personal life. I sold my company at age 53 and retired. Could not have done this without TM.
M D Van Horn
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Winter Skye
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10:13 PM on 07/09/2012
Have you upped your meditation time yet? I heard that in TM they only do it for 20 min. twice a day.
01:25 AM on 07/10/2012
20 min. twice a day is all I have ever done. First thing in the morning before breakfast, and again at the end of the "work" day, generally before dinner. If you do TM later at night it will give you so much energy you will find it difficult to go to sleep. You can meditate anywhere, anytime. I don't believe you can over do it. Namaste
PS. I am not a Sidhi, but have taken the first advanced technique but don't use it much. Also group meditations are extremely powerful. Live Strong
10:06 AM on 07/12/2012
hi!

i read somewhere that by prostration you can release the electro magnetic energy from body which are the cosmic toxic in our body. Do you know of such scientific discovery??
http://www.proenrichment.com
05:46 PM on 07/09/2012
Beautiful post Mark thank you.
05:08 PM on 07/09/2012
Very nice post Dr. Hyman. I recently finished 30day Bikram challenge and will continue doing yoga the rest of my life.

Ian
WholeFed.org
04:30 PM on 07/09/2012
Meditation as I was taught is the skill of thinking about nothing while the senses are acutely tuned in to everything...in the terms of Jung this is disconnecting judgment from perception...merely perceiving without judging...as Jesus said, being in the world but not of the world...few people ever get this instruction and still few Christians actually follow Jesus..the Buddha said that discontent is the cause of all suffering...so to avoid suffering be content...St. Paul expressed his achievement of this condition but again few Christians are made aware of it much less practice it...all in God's will of course as there can be no other...ergo Theofatalism...
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04:05 PM on 07/09/2012
Have you heard about the Buddhist that walked up to a New York hot dog vendor? He said make me one with everything.
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beth24
02:25 AM on 07/10/2012
funny! Thanks!!
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02:58 PM on 07/09/2012
I lay in bed and let my mind wander when I get too bored to do anything. It's very relaxing.
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10:14 PM on 07/09/2012
Thinking is not relaxing, though! Your mind goes from one thought to the next and is never still. You have to learn no-thought and it takes a lot of practice to get to that state of being.
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LillyyF
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09:39 AM on 07/10/2012
I've been trying but it's hard. That mental state also feels uncomfortable to me. It feels like I don't have a brain or something it's weird.
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04:49 PM on 07/11/2012
It's not hard, republicans do it all day every day. Sorry couldn't resist.
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02:04 PM on 07/09/2012
I think the key is to understand when it's time to move and when it's to be still. Your life will speak to you, you will know when you are doing too much, when you are essentially in you own way. Likewise, you will know when you have reached barren land and it's time to change course. Neither decision is easy, but both are necessary I think.
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10:16 PM on 07/09/2012
The problem is that you don't stop doing when you are so burnt out that you can't go anymore; it has to be a part of your daily life. Too many people are addicted to doing because they are frightened to be alone with themselves, even their thoughts scare them! So they are constantly moving, rearranging, talking, anything but BEING.
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07:38 AM on 07/10/2012
I'll take that. Good post.
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02:03 PM on 07/09/2012
Powerful article. Thank you for writing it.