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Dr. Ruth Nemzoff
Dr. Ruth Nemzoff, a resident scholar at Brandeis Women's Studies Research Center, is author of Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Children and of Don't Roll Your Eyes: Making In-Laws Into Family.

Entries by Dr. Ruth Nemzoff

Rules for Post-Prom Parties

(0) Comments | Posted May 22, 2014 | 3:04 PM

Prom time is an opportunity to begin transforming your relationship with your child in preparation for their fast-approaching adulthood. One of my readers sent me the rules she and her daughter developed as a condition for holding a post-prom party at their home.

These rules respect the parents' right...

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On-Ramp Internships: Opportunity or Exploitation?

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 11:19 AM

The Harvard Business Review blog, in a post by Carol Fishmen Cohen ('The 40-Year-Old Intern' Goes to Wall Street) proudly touts a new internship program for returning lawyers.

That is, mostly women who have taken time off to raise their families. We could all applaud attempts to make...

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What Really Happens When We Are Around the Table?

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 1:40 PM

Co-authored by Ellen Rovner Ph.D., Culinary Anthropologist

When we travel or eat out, many of us are gastronomic adventurers. We crave new tastes and textures. We literally get tastes of cultures. Some of us even break the rules. It might be a daily creamy gelato in Florence on the steps...

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T: Parents and Grandparents Are Confused About What it Means to Them

(1) Comments | Posted February 6, 2014 | 4:34 PM

Does respect mean that grandparents must blindly follow parental instructions when they babysit? Are they supposed to just follow orders and check their hard-won parenting judgment at the door? Are grandparents being disrespectful when they modify their children's instructions? Do grandparents honor their adult children by keeping their mouth shut?...

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Interfaith Weddings

(0) Comments | Posted January 14, 2014 | 3:19 PM

The minister at a beautiful outdoor wedding I attended last month wore a shawl with symbols of numerous faiths. The person sitting next to me whispered in my ear, "That woman has found a growing industry."

In the 21st century, interfaith marriage is not a deviant life choice -- it's...

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Celebrity Parents and Their Kids

(0) Comments | Posted January 14, 2014 | 8:00 AM

Headlines read "De Blasio's daughter tells of substance abuse." For too many families this is not news. Their own children have revealed to them disturbing addictions, sometimes even more than once. Critics rush in to ask why the de Blasio's kept this secret until after the father's election as mayor...

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What In-Laws And Over-The-Top Food Have In Common

(1) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 11:53 AM

Last week I was taken to a very elegant restaurant, The Fifth Floor, in San Francisco. I can only assume the restaurant was trying to make itself pleasing and worth the high sticker price in the hopes that I would return. However, the vocabulary on their menu was quite the...

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Do I Really Need To Discuss Politics With My In-Laws?

(5) Comments | Posted October 5, 2012 | 11:51 AM

Talking politics with your in-laws may be as pleasant as reclining on a bed of nails, but in an election season it's hard to get away from it. I'll pass over the bland advice of being compassionate and understanding and arm you with strategies. A good question can take the...

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What's This Weird Holiday and Why Should I Care?

(1) Comments | Posted September 20, 2012 | 12:32 PM

What's This Weird Holiday and Why Should I Care?

The holidays are coming! This month, it's the Jewish holidays of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur (the new year and the Day of Atonement), next month it's the Chinese New Moon Festival, close on its heels are Hindu Dwali and...

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