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Dr. Sonya Rhodes
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Dr. Sonya Rhodes is a psychotherapist and expert on marital and family relationships. Having received her Ph.D. from Columbia University, she is the co-author of four books: SURVIVING FAMILY LIFE; COLD FEET: WHY MEN DON’T COMMIT; and SECOND HONEYMOON: THE MID-LIFE MARRIAGE. Her next book, co-authored with Susan Schneider, The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love, Success and Happiness Without Settling (William Morrow), publishes on April 15, 2014.

Dr. Rhodes has held part-time faculty positions at Columbia University, Hunter College, and New York Medical College. She lives in New York City with her husband, where she has a private practice specializing in couples therapy.

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Not Just Another Nice Guy

(0) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 3:31 PM

By Dr. Sonya Rhodes and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling

I am an alpha female who married a nice guy. It is really an ideal match for us both. He calms me... down,...
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10 Rules For Dating When You Want a Serious Relationship

(5) Comments | Posted June 17, 2014 | 3:58 PM

by Sonya Rhodes, PhD and Susan Schneider, coauthors of "The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling."

In some ways, online dating and social media have leveled the playing field: Women can take charge of their dating and sex lives in ways...

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The Upside of 'Marrying Down'

(0) Comments | Posted June 2, 2014 | 5:13 PM

Today, a successful single woman who falls for a man making less money than she does, or with less lofty career ambitions, may face some not-so-subtle disapproval from friends and family. One client of mine reported being told: "I'm surprised you haven't found someone who is more your equal." Or...

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A Conversation About Rape on Campus

(1) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 5:49 PM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD, author of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Today's Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling.

To my daughters,

You will be going away from home to college in the fall, where you will be having new experiences...

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15 Small Ways to Build Self-Confidence

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 3:26 PM

Sometimes, it seems as though being self-confident is the first step towards achieving (almost) anything you want. All you have to do is believe in yourself, we're told. With that said, most of us wish it were that simple. The dictionary definition of this elusive quality mentions trusting in our...

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George Clooney Meets His Match: An Alpha Woman

(0) Comments | Posted May 1, 2014 | 4:00 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

One of our favorite stars (and an avowed bachelor) has finally met his match -- and she turns out to be a dynamic Alpha Woman! Amal Alamuddin is a human rights lawyer who speaks three languages and once clerked for Sonia Sotomayor. In fact, Amal is...

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Emma Stone Frame By Frame

(0) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 5:15 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

You have probably heard by now that Emma Stone put her boyfriend, Andrew Garfield, on the spot for referring to sewing as a "feminine" activity in a publicity interview for their new movie The Amazing Spider-Man. When a little boy asked how Spider-Man got his costume,...

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Is He Gay?

(0) Comments | Posted April 24, 2014 | 2:48 PM

I hear this question at least once a week as a female client wonders about a man she started dating: If he isn't a traditional Alpha and doesn't toss her on the bed and rip off her clothes on the first date, he must be gay, right? Wrong. It doesn't...

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Affirmations for the Married Alpha

(0) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 5:35 PM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD. and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, (William Morrow), on sale this week.

Tune in at 8AM tomorrow to see Sonya on "CBS This Morning!"

These days,...

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Loving Your Alpha

(1) Comments | Posted April 15, 2014 | 12:21 PM

The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, by Sonya Rhodes, PhD. and Susan Schneider, is on sale today.

When I first began writing about the Alpha woman and her Beta partner, I found out that people had strong...

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3 Dating 'Don'ts' For Strong Women

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 7:03 PM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD. and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, William Morrow, April 2014.

Toward the end of a recent focus group that I organized for professional women in their twenties and thirties,...

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Beta -- or Omega?

(2) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 11:40 AM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD, and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Today's Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling

Recently, a group of women I interviewed claimed that they eliminated any prospective dating candidate who said he took yoga classes. They'd...

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What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway?

(1) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 6:48 PM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD., and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, William Morrow, April 2014.

"Conscious uncoupling." The term sounds so ridiculous: New Age-y, pretentious, righteous -- I could go on and on. Although...

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Is the Beta Man a Hard Sell?

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 3:18 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

A young woman in a therapy session is fed up with her boyfriend. She tells me that he is "too gentle," "too passive," and "too nice." Sexually, she is bored. As she speaks, she laughs at herself, because she knows full well that this man is...

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Affirmations for the Alpha

(4) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 3:08 PM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD, and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Today's Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, out April 15, 2014

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Mom Says: It's OK to Lean Back

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 2:36 PM

Co authored with Susan Schneider

Dear daughters,

As your mother, I know that it is SWUG (Senior Washed Up Girl) season once again. You and your friends are college seniors; you've seen and done it all. You're hanging around in sweats, drinking wine, watching season four of Mad Men,...

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What Plagues Women Bosses?

(2) Comments | Posted March 21, 2014 | 10:36 AM

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD, and Susan Schneider, authors of The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match: How Today's Strong Women Can Find Love and Happiness Without Settling, out April 15, 2014

Even in today's world, old stereotypes about women bosses persist -- no question about that. In a recent

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Is Sex Doomed?

(8) Comments | Posted March 17, 2014 | 12:09 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

Egalitarian marriages are starting to look like the future of the institution, but we're now hearing -- in The New York Times, no less! -- that if things are too good, too equal, too intimate, you won't have hot sex. If you have an...

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Don't Ban Bossy -- Be Bossy

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2014 | 5:48 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

It's time for everyone to stop using the word "bossy" as a put-down for strong girls and women.

"We call girls bossy on the playground," says Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg, who is spearheading the new Ban Bossy campaign. "And we call them too...

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Why Women Don't Speak Up and What We Can Do About It

(0) Comments | Posted March 12, 2014 | 5:17 PM

Co-authored with Susan Schneider

Most women have at one time or another found themselves in the uncomfortable position that Kathleen Miles described in "I Witnessed Hollywood's Sexism Firsthand--And Said Nothing." Her piece recounted what happened at an Oscar party when some of the male guests made loud,...

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