Fairytale Relationships

04/02/2015 04:15 pm ET | Updated Jun 02, 2015
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I don't mind when people tell me that my relationship ideals are a fairytale.

If it is a fairytale to be loved, to be respected, to have passion, a moving and active love -- if that is fairytale, then yes. If mutual respect, love, lust and friendship is a fairytale, then of course! I want to be in love with you, in lust with you, in like with you... it's a multidimensional world why would I want a one-dimensional relationship?

I want love, passion, honesty and companionship... sex that drives me crazy and conversation that drives me sane.

That's the standard I'm setting. What standard are you setting?

Many people make the mistake of expecting others to treat them in a more loving and respectful way than they treat themselves. If you don't love yourself, stop expecting others to. If you don't respect yourself, stop expecting others to. If you don't keep promises to yourself, stop expecting others to. If you are not faithful to your dreams, your goals, and your resolutions, stop expecting others to be.

We inspire others to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. It is in this relationship that we set the standard for all others.

Love, passion, honesty and companionship...

I want those kinds of things -- if that is a fairytale, I'll wait for it... I'll cultivate it... I'll create it. Every time I have settled for less, I have felt empty, incomplete, had too much drama, and just didn't feel the wonderful magic of love.

Others can waste their time and settle for less, but not me. Never again! Others can think it's a fairytale and look down upon it, but keep this in mind... every great experience and advancement, from walking on the moon, to airplanes, to video phones, to GPS, to the Internet... at some point, these were all considered a fairytale. It doesn't mean it's not real; it means it is there for you to work towards, cultivate, and create.

Set this standard and bring this magic into your life.