12/18/2008 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Separation of Church and Hate

I used to have an acquaintance who, whenever I used the word hate in a sentence, would say, "Ouch."

The disclosure that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints a.k.a. the Mormons, used its vast religious organization and bankroll to pass Proposition 8 in California has me sick over the incest of church and hate. "Ouch."

Incest of any kind is sickening, and there are laws in our country against it.

An article in Saturday's New York Times reads, "ʽIt is not our goal in this campaign to attack the homosexual lifestyle or to convince gays and lesbians that their behavior is wrong -- the less we refer to homosexuality, the better,ʼ one of the ward [similar to a Catholic parish] training documents said. ʽWe are pro-marriage, not anti-gay.'"

Who died and made the Mormons, or any other church, the Marriage Police?

We gay and lesbian people advocating for our right to marry are pro-marriage as well. We're in agreement with the Mormons. Yes, we believe in marriage just like you, and we want the right to marry just like you. And we want the civil rights that go with it just like you. Full disclosure: I am one of the lucky ones. I live in Massachusetts and I am legally married.

The Times also said, "ʽNo work will take place at the church, including no meeting there to hand out precinct walking assignments so as to not even give the appearance of politicking at the church,' one of the documents said."

The full extent of their duplicitous incest is clear. We must not appear to be politicking as we politick, goes the subtext. Or, we must not appear to be hating when the mandate of every sect of every church based on the teachings of Jesus Christ is to love.

I am an ordained minister. To be ordained, one must pick a denomination. My favorite is one of my own making: omnifaith. No matter, I am ordained as a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. There are two laws that Jesus says are It, the bottom line of the whole Christian shebang.

The first is, Love God. The second is, Love one another.

Tell me, how is this behavior of the Mormon church indicative of love of any kind? I suppose it could be argued that it is love of their own kind except, of course, for the Mormons who are gay, but even so the hate reeks in the wording, in the plotting, in the financing, in the canvassing, and in the fearmongering.

One of the things we preachers are taught in seminary is how to structure a sermon or a homily. The standard structure is the three-point sermon. We are to lay out the problem three different times in three different ways, and then we are to offer a solution. Here's my index card of sermon notes:

1. Separation
2. Church
3. Hate/Ouch


The other question I have is to all the "open and affirming," more mainstream Christian denominations. Where are the protests from the erstwhile Protestants -- those whose entire faith is based on protest? Olly-olly-oxen-free, Methodists, Unitarians, Episcopalians, Presbyterians, Congregationalists, Christian Scientists! Why is there not an outcry of outrage at the perversion of the religion of love?

May I respectfully request that anyone who is truly spiritual, and who understands that all humans deserve love, begin to pray for the separation of church and hate?

Then we might be able to heal the ouch, and love one another.

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