For fast-acting relief, try slowing down -- Lily Tomlin, actress and comedienne
We tend to take our bodies very much for granted, and our health even more so. As a result, when something goes wrong, it can be alarming, even frightening, as if we had been walking around inside a stranger and suddenly discover it has a mind of its own. Becoming stressed and physically distressed until we are overwhelmed and out of control is like a steam cooker coming to full pressure. And although we are the only ones who can turn down the heat, unfortunately we often feel powerless to do so. As Richard, a participant in one of our workshops, told us, "I don't get stressed. I wake up stressed."
Not me, we think, I don't get that stressed. Yet most conservative estimates suggest a significant percentage illnesses are either affected or caused by stress. As such, it is a major problem. On top of that, there is no medical cure that can alleviate stress. Prescription drugs cannot lighten our workload, change our life conditions or alter our belief systems.
What we believe colors our every thought, word and action. The idea that it is our work, family or lifestyle that is causing us stress, and that if we were to change these then we would be fine, is seeing the situation from the wrong perspective. Rather, it is the belief that something out there is causing us stress that is actually causing the stress. And although changing our circumstances certainly may help, invariably, no matter what we do, it is a change within our belief system and our perception of ourselves that will make the biggest difference.
Although we may have little or no control over circumstances, we do have control over our reaction to them. The ability to keep our peace and maintain an even-balanced state is one of the great gifts of meditation that we can bring to every situation, to our thoughts and feelings, behavior and actions.
Meditation gives us a sense of being steady in a world that is constantly demanding and challenging. We never know what is going to happen or when -- nothing is predictable, permanent, secure, controllable or dependable. Everything is subject to change in every moment. We can ignore this fact and live with the delusion of permanency and predictability, or we can embrace impermanence and unpredictability with awareness and dignity.
It is easier to see the connection between stress, relaxation and meditation than it is to see how meditation could help someone who is very sick, perhaps dealing with such issues as cancer or AIDS. At such times, we are often more prone to self-pity or dependency on caregivers and doctors and less able to help ourselves. Yet meditation not only reduces stress-related physical problems but also moves us out of negative mindsets so that we can be at peace with what is happening.
"Mortality led me to meditation. Addicts talk about being 'scared sober.' I was scared into sitting," writes author Mark Matousek in our book, Be The Change, How Meditation Can Transform You and the World. "Being diagnosed with a then-terminal disease at age 28, I was forced as a survival mechanism to pursue an inner life. By learning to sit through bad moments, an invisible, metaphysical muscle seemed to strengthen in the stillness. Running from pain or fear made the badness worse, whereas when I stopped in the midst of it all, took my seat and let the feelings burn deeply through me, clarity slowly took the place of hysteria. Sitting was a place to empty out, grieve, refill, to remember the face behind the mask, simply by stopping and being still. That was 20-plus years ago. My health crisis passed but the practice stayed. Meditation is on my shoulder, a reminder of beauty, truth, fragility, sorrow; a voice that whispers: 'Remember to love.' If my outer world had not been threatened, I would never have looked for an inner one."
Meditation invites us to make friends with both ourselves and our world, to know deeply that all things pass, and not to take ourselves too seriously!
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Catherine
great understanding
said like a person who knows the gift of meditation!
Enjoy the journey sweet Catherine!
Ed
it is inspiring!
(I replied yesterday to this but it is not here)
love your honesty -
the egoic mind will always keep you in doubt -
but you can smile & say
"no doubt here!"
fanned & fav'd
"I wake up stressed"
I've felt that way thoughout life. I've learned in a pain class with a doctor specializing in sleep, that the brain is most active at wakeup. For me my brain is going too fast at wakeup and needs slowing down. It is important for me to meditate after prayer to slow down. I also have to put forth the effort to slow down throughout the day, and active meditation is my medication of choice. It also helps with pain.
My natural response to activity is to speed up (with a brains thats probably going too fast already). I've trained myself to stop and take a few breaths any time I feel the need to hurry. When visiting at a hospital, I establish a breathing rythm before I get out of the car, and maintain it as long as possible. Then it seems many are rushing to get in or out of the hospital: I am not alone.
as a great female Swami once said to me:
"do your best & leave the rest!"
Meditation has been a big help to me physically and mentally. I've suffered from migraines all of my life and learned to meditate to alleviate the stress and anxiety triggers that were partially responsible for my migraine occurrences.
That's what got me in the door....but I was not prepared for all of the other benefits I experienced from the meditation process.....
To sum it all up....I started to fully live my life and drew from all kinds of inspiration and creativity that I never knew I had in me...
It's really a trip and I'm still sightseeing new vistas everyday!
Enjoy the journey,
Ed