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Don't Call Me an Orthodox Jew

Posted: 06/19/2012 12:15 pm

I hate the word orthodox.

Ever since I became a religious Jew, I remember feeling uncomfortable with being labeled as orthodox. 'Orthodox' implies rigidity, implies rules imposed and abided by without question, implies being judgmental and biased.

The truth is that, for me, becoming an "orthodox" Jew meant the exact opposite. It meant questioning my roots, evaluating my life deeply and becoming more open minded. To me, this is what true religious Judaism is.

And so when people use the words "orthodox" or even the derogatory "ultra-orthodox" to describe the form of Judaism I ascribe to, I can't help but feeling that there's something wrong, something off-kilter.

Language is complex and layered, and it can affect the way people think for generations.

The more that I think about the word orthodox and all that it implies, the more I start to realize that orthodoxy is a deeper concept, one that most people don't understand. It's a word that is misapplied and thrust on some groups and people that deserve it and many that don't.
What I mean is this: the majority of the religious Jews I know are not orthodox by any means. They have a deep and even liberal outlook on the world. They are interested in changing the world and themselves for the better. They do everything they can to accept others. I've tried to internalize this attitude and share it with others.

When most secular people find out I used to have dreadlocks and hate Bush, they are shocked to see that I am now religious. They think the two are incompatible. I disagree. I think that I am more liberal now than I ever was.

Because as I said, the word orthodox is deeper than we give it credit for.

There are people that claim to be liberal and open minded and yet they are the most orthodox people in the world. People that are rigid, follow a certain set of rules without question and are judgmental and biased.

These are the sort of people that see no conflict between their own beliefs and calling every Republican evil. Talking about every religious person as if he is a brainwashed fool, and arguing not just against ideas, but implying that anyone who disagrees with them is less than human.

Because the truth is, orthodoxy, as a state of mind, affects people in every group and in every state of existence. It comes from a place of insecurity, a belief that the only way to be proud of our own beliefs is by tearing down others'.

I will never call myself an orthodox Jew because I hope never to be one. Yes, we religious folk (try to) follow many rules, we share a certain belief system, and we have leaders we'll follow to the ends of the Earth. But for many of us, the goal isn't to follow the rules. The rules are the system we use to help us connect to something higher.

It is the people in this world who recognize the rules but are able to see the beauty beyond them, and who always remember that whatever the rules say, it is essential to deal with each human with dignity and care, who are true liberals.

Labeling yourself something doesn't make you that thing. Embodying an idea, a concept, a word, involves combining our thought, speech and action into a force that supports that idea.
Unfortunately, too many people in the United States are stuck in the mindset that their actions, their words, and even their thoughts don't matter. That as long as they stamp the word "Democrat" on their voter registration they are liberal. These people are wrong.

True liberalism, true open thought, transcends religious and political boundaries. It is a way of life that needs to infuse our beings. And once it does, it is our responsibility to find the true liberals of the world, whether they be Democrat, Republican, religious or atheist and recognize that we are connected.

Elad Nehorai is a writer living in Crown Heights, Brooklyn. Five years ago, he became a religious Jew in the Chabad Hassidic community and has since written about his experience extensively, most recently in his blog Pop Chassid. You can find him on Twitter as @PopChassid and Facebook.

 

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I hate the word orthodox. Ever since I became a religious Jew, I remember feeling uncomfortable with being labeled as orthodox. 'Orthodox' implies rigidity, implies rules imposed and abided by witho...
I hate the word orthodox. Ever since I became a religious Jew, I remember feeling uncomfortable with being labeled as orthodox. 'Orthodox' implies rigidity, implies rules imposed and abided by witho...
 
 
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02:41 PM on 07/11/2012
I see you removed your latest blog post, calling atheism a religion. Will you be explaining why you removed it? Or, amending it? Or, gawd forbid, apologizing for it's fallacies?
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05:17 PM on 06/23/2012
“For me, becoming an "orthodox" Jew meant the exact opposite. It meant questioning my roots, evaluating my life deeply and becoming more open minded. To me, this is what true religious Judaism is.” (Nehorai).

Elad Nehorai five years ago became a religious Jew in the Chabad Hassidic community. Chabad is a branch of Hasidic Judaism with emphasis on outreach and education. Their mandate is to make nonobservant Jews more observant of traditional standards.

“Orthodoxy” is not monolithic, in fact it is rather diverse. Chabad builds on a Lurianic (Kabbalistic) foundation. It emphasizes joy and piety as well as study.

“It was not the 'Orthodox' Jews who introduced the word 'orthodoxy' into Jewish discussion. It was the modern 'progressive' Jews who first applied this name to 'old', 'backward' Jews as a derogatory term…. It conceives Judaism as one and indivisible. It does not know a Mosaic, prophetic and rabbinic Judaism, nor Orthodox and Liberal Judaism. It only knows Judaism and non-Judaism. …It does indeed know conscientious and indifferent Jews, good Jews, bad Jews …all, nevertheless, Jews with a mission which they cannot cast off. They are only distinguished accordingly as they fulfill or reject their mission. (Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch 1854)
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03:19 AM on 06/22/2012
Glad to hear that you are intelligent and enjoy the truth of being a liberal minded person today. I am an orthodox jew and I am proud to say that I am orthodox. This does not mean I am 'judgemental' or 'resigningly strict'. It means I follow the commandments and am Proper. Orthodoxy is a purity of thought and expression. It does not mean hurt others and it does not mean discriminate. I was a kid who grew up as a reform synagogue youth. I have come a long way in my yiddishkeit and today I wear tzitzis as well as a full untrimmed beard with a head covering every time I leave the house.
12:06 PM on 06/28/2012
Welcome to the club! I am a convert through an Ashkenaz synagogue in Seattle, and now I am a Satmar Chossid. I very much appreciate baalei tshuva and it is great that you joined Torah Judaism and the ways of your fathers.
03:50 PM on 06/21/2012
too bad. i actually liked your previous post about having children. i think you're way off on this one. it's great that you feel connected to halacha, and it's fine that you are still a liberal politically, but just because many religious Jews tend to be politically conservative does not mean that they are closed minded, not "deep," not interested in changing the world, and blindly and thoughtlessly doing what they are told. many think the world as it is is quite lacking or problematic. many think that being a good husband, father, friend, and community member can change the world, since impacting one person can have this effect (each person is a complete world, as they say). following halacha involves a constant challenging and reevaluation of your self, your behavior, your thoughts, and your actions. sometimes being required to do something that you don't feel like doing is beneficial. there can be something freeing to follow the mitzvot because that is what you were commanded to do. forcing yourself to challenge everything is not necessary, and sometimes misguided. in fact, it is actually a mitzvah to accept the 'yoke of Torah' on oneself.
09:51 AM on 06/21/2012
I think Orthodoxy implies that you are seeking God. When you scour the scriptures as a Jew you find Him in power and might and with one specific promise, that he will redeem his people. His messiah, Jesus has come. If you are seeking God, than open your eyes to scripture. The Old Covenant is dead and the New Covenant has been instituted in the life, death and resurrection of the Son of God.

John 5:39 "You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, 40 yet you refuse to come to me to have life."
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03:21 AM on 06/22/2012
G-d is not a man. Israel has not and never will be one nation under "jesus". Israel has a G-d and our G-d does not tolerate the lie of the new testament in the homes of the Israelites. Either way you look at it, Jews are not going to give the church the legitimacy it so needingly seeks.
12:49 PM on 06/22/2012
The Church was begun by Jews who hoped in the Messiah and recognized him in Jesus. In every generation there have been Jews who have accepted the promised Messiah and have trusted that what Abraham hoped for was found in the person of Christ Jesus.

The Church receives its validity from God who will present her spotless and blameless as a bride to the bridegroom. Then the natural born sons and the adopted children of God will enter his courts with gladness, all reckoned by Jesus to the glory of God.
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03:57 AM on 06/20/2012
Beautifully worded. I love it!
09:14 PM on 06/19/2012
How about calling yourself a baal teshuvah (master of returning) as you came to this piety from a secular background.

You appear to be obliged by choice to adhere to certain strictures and the condoning of others as pointed out by Andrue Kahn below such as the division between the sexes in synagogue services and in social functions such as weddings. So much for your abhorrence of the term orthodoxy. Would orthopraxy suit you better?.
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03:22 AM on 06/22/2012
Try keeping the commandments. You will be orthodox. The designation is not a life stipulation. It is an honor.
05:58 PM on 06/19/2012
It's worse than being "orthodox".
When you say "Yes, we religious folk ... have leaders we'll follow to the ends of the Earth" then you repeat what stalinists, maoists, hitlerists and the followers of Jones, the 1979 mass poisoning religious leader, said. It's dangerous ...
05:33 PM on 06/19/2012
True liberalism involve egalitarianism. Chabad-based Judaism doesn't. Women are not seen as equals and are not allowed to participate in many segments of religious and secular life. Non-Jews are similarly not seen as equals. Just because there are people that label themselves liberal who are not actually free-thinkers doesn't mean that all liberals are not, and also does not mean that people who ascribe to a belief system that limits the rights and privileges of are therefore liberal simply because they have "an open mind." What would you have yourself be called? Simply Jewish? And if this is so, according to your last paragraph, would someone who practices their Judaism differently than you still be Jewish? What if their mother wasn't? From Chabad's standpoint, the answers to the last two questions would be a no. That doesn't sound very open minded or liberal to me.
09:27 PM on 06/19/2012
A true liberal recognizes everyone is equal, but that is not how you mean when you say egalitarianism. Egalitarianism has been misused for many years to say that men and women are exactly the same with no regard for their differences. Judaism recognizes that not everyone is the same, without suggesting that two individuals are unequal. A man is not the same thing as a woman and so on. A refusal to recognize those differences is simply a denial of reality, and "Chabad-based" (or other orthodox) Judaism recognizes those differences without claiming that those differences makes one person better than the other. If you can do that, you'd accept their way of life as being legitimate, even if you don't choose to follow their rules. That's being open minded.