Growing Into Your Self

06/11/2011 12:03 pm ET | Updated Aug 11, 2011

There is a wonderful poem that I truly enjoy. The poem is all about life and eventually living into our own being. I like the construct so much that I recently began closing correspondence with "Live into yourself." It surprised me how many people close to me found this idea to be foreign.

What is meant by "live into yourself"? Most of us have at some time in our childhood been given a piece of apparel that was too big. If we really liked it, we couldn't wait until we grew into it. Growing into our clothing is somewhat analogous to growing into, or living into, our selves.

Many people have issues in life that tend to convince them that they are less, much less, than they really are. I recently spoke to Mrs. Montana because she credited her success at turning her life around and winning the Mrs. Montana crown to my InnerTalk technology. She is a very beautiful woman who, based on appearance, should be super confident. However, her story is literally one of a person with low esteem feeling that they deserve less, not more. Obviously today she has shed these self-imposed limitations and as a result is indeed reaching a higher plateau in her realization of her true being. This is an example of how we live into ourselves.

My experience and learning instructs me that every human being has within them an absolutely awesome potential. Experiencing that potential is something we do one day at a time unless we choose to remain victims and believe that life sucks and then we die.

We often come to expect answers to all of our problems and we are impatient about this. It's easy to ask "why me?" It's easy to become a victim in our world and sometimes, even gratifying, because we gain sympathy and attention. Being a victim can take on a co-dependent role and we can even find ourselves attracting people who fit within our co-dependent nest.

Answers, like our true selves, at least the truly important ones, are written within. It is up to us to discover the true nature of our being and in that process our answers are revealed. I like the manner in which the poem "Letters to a Young Poet" by Rainer Maria Rilke states it:

I want to beg you, as much as I can,
To be patient toward all that is unsolved
In your heart and try to love the questions
Themselves like locked rooms and like books
That are written in a foreign tongue.
Do not seek the answers that cannot be given you
Because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is to live everything
Live the questions now.
Perhaps you will then gradually,
Without noticing it, live along
Some distant day into the answer.

We live into ourselves one day at a time. Be aware -- and in the blink of an eye you will come to know the difference between the container and the contents, and as an old Sufi saying says, "Then you will know all."

May we all live into our highest!